Husband Crushed After Wife Refuses to Let Him Adopt Her Son 😢

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Imagine being a loving father figure to a child for years, only to have your dreams of legally adopting them crushed. That's exactly what happened to 30-year-old Devon, who has been a father figure to his wife's 5-year-old son, Levi, since the boy was born. Levi's biological father went missing before he was born, and Devon has been there for both the child and his mother ever since. But when Devon asked his wife if he could adopt Levi, she said no, leaving him devastated. 😢

Devon's Heartfelt Request

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Wife's Reluctance

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A Compromise?

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Devon's Understanding

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Wife's Conditions

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Devon's Reaction

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Sister's Opinion

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Wife's Final Update

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Current Arrangements

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Levi's Adoption Decision

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Waiting for Levi's Understanding

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Levi's Last Name

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Devon's Love and Respect

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Legal Guardianship

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Wife's Love for Devon

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Wife Stands Firm on Adoption Decision 💔

Despite Devon's heartache, the wife remains firm in her decision not to let him adopt Levi at this time. She believes that it's best to wait until Levi is older and can fully understand the implications of adoption. In the meantime, she's open to discussing legal guardianship for Devon, but this will also involve discussions with her ex's family. While she loves her husband dearly, she's not ready to take this step in their relationship just yet. Let's see what the internet thinks of this emotional situation... 💬

Letting the child decide when he's older is the best option 👍

Iamdannypooh | Iamdannypooh

Husband wants to adopt son, wife hesitant due to ex's absence 😢

PuzzleheadedTap4484 | PuzzleheadedTap4484

Hutchoman87 | Hutchoman87

Let the son decide when he's older. Husband should understand 🙏

laladee256 | laladee256

flightlessalien | flightlessalien

JuneRhythm1985 | JuneRhythm1985

Decent_Sky_9880 | Decent_Sky_9880

dkepwpwpwpwp | dkepwpwpwpwp

RiverSong_777 | RiverSong_777

Husband feels like second choice due to wife's lingering feelings.

AccomplishedFerret70 | AccomplishedFerret70

Ex's family is active in his life, waiting for son's decision 🙂

RoseTyler38 | RoseTyler38

Planning for the future is crucial for blended families 👍

20eyesinmyhead78 | 20eyesinmyhead78

Potential legal issues arise for husband's relationship with stepson Levi 😢

xxSKSxx_ | xxSKSxx_

Let Levi decide. NTA for leaving the decision to him 👍

kjbtetrick | kjbtetrick

Is Devon just a placeholder? The comment section debates. 🤔

_higglety | _higglety

Rejecting husband's adoption offer makes you YTA according to comment.

datcoolbloke | datcoolbloke

Heartbreaking story of a missing father and a devoted mother.

Mystral377 | Mystral377

Wife prioritizes ex over husband's legal rights. YTA. 🤢

GrimeyDaGoon | GrimeyDaGoon

Stepdad's feelings are valid, give him time to process 😢

Rathanian | Rathanian

What if Levi's father returns? The ultimate dilemma 🤔

DuxofOregon | DuxofOregon

Commenter calls OP out for being the a**hole in adoption dispute 😒


Husband wants to adopt wife's son, but she's hesitant. Commenter suggests therapy and legal protection.

bsailors123 | bsailors123

Redemption arc: commenter apologizes for past behavior 🙏

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Mother refuses husband's adoption offer, commenters debate legal implications. 😔

LlamaLlord69420 | LlamaLlord69420

Let Levi decide when he's older. NTA. 👍

OpinionatedAussieGal | OpinionatedAussieGal

Adopting stepson raises legal and emotional concerns. 🤔

strikkekonen | strikkekonen

Adoption could ensure son's future, consider all options. 👨‍🍳

Secondary123098 | Secondary123098

Can Levi be adopted without taking husband's last name? 🤔

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Commenter calls out husband's desire to adopt stepson, sparks debate.

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CaptainSmaug | CaptainSmaug

Legal death of father soon, wait before adopting son. NTA.

SiameseCats3 | SiameseCats3

Stepfather wants to adopt son, wife refuses. Potential relationship issues. 🤔

hughjeigo51 | hughjeigo51

CCalamity- | CCalamity-

Letting your ego stop a child from having a father? YTA.

laeiryn | laeiryn

Seek therapy to cope with the trauma of adoption rejection 😢

BroItsJesus | BroItsJesus

Waiting for Levi's opinion is wise. Step-parents aren't always evil 👍

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Commenter accuses without evidence, causing confusion and disagreement.

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Father figure or not, adoption is a serious conversation 😔

Roy1012 | Roy1012

Navigating complex family dynamics with empathy and counseling 💔

loligo_pealeii | loligo_pealeii

Stepparent wants to adopt son, but wife is hesitant. NAH.

Lotex_Style | Lotex_Style

Commenter and reply shocked at wife's decision, calls OP YTA 🤯

BirdLover007 | BirdLover007

Communication is key in this complicated situation. 🗝️

BananaDogDude | BananaDogDude

Explore alternative guardianship options for your stepson's future 🙌

Legitimate_Ocelot718 | Legitimate_Ocelot718

Husband wants to adopt wife's son, but wife refuses. Commenter thinks YTA.

CCassie1979 | CCassie1979

Heartbreaking situation for a man who loves his stepson 😢

MindfulMelon09 | MindfulMelon09

Debate over husband's legal rights to adopt wife's son. 🤔

Rosalie-83 | Rosalie-83

User accuses commenter of not being realistic and calls her YTA.

Icy_Psychology_1556 | Icy_Psychology_1556

Adoption decision belongs to the son, not the stepfather. NTA 👍

Alarming-Ad9441 | Alarming-Ad9441

User gently calls out OP for being selfish and suggests counseling.

pescabrarian | pescabrarian

Commenter raises valid concerns about legal adoption and custody.

hypolocrian | hypolocrian

Parenting is about doing what's best for the kid. YTA 😡

ChocolateCoveredGold | ChocolateCoveredGold

Commenter calls out husband for being the a**hole in adoption dispute

chiefVetinari | chiefVetinari

Consider hyphenating Levi's last name. Ensure his future custody.

Sleipnoir | Sleipnoir

Legal guardianship or living will can secure Levi's future. 👍

WillComprehensive266 | WillComprehensive266

Step-parent adoption should wait for the kid's decision 🙏

sapc2 | sapc2

TaintBiscuit101 | TaintBiscuit101

A fair request met with understandable hesitation. NAH 😊

Dutch-woman | Dutch-woman

A mature and reasonable discussion about adoption and love.

RebeccaEliRose | RebeccaEliRose

Husband wants to adopt son, wife disagrees. Both NAH.

bbbriz | bbbriz

Commenter calls out OP's behavior and suggests therapy.

mikeumd98 | mikeumd98

Mixed feelings on husband not being allowed to adopt stepson 😕

Faokes | Faokes

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