Man Tells Depressed Girlfriend to Stop Being Lazy 😢: Did He Go Too Far?

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A 29-year-old man has been in a relationship with his 23-year-old girlfriend for four years, living together for one. She has always struggled with anxiety and depression, and he has supported her through it all. However, when she loses her job and her depression worsens, their home becomes a mess. The man, tired from work, finally snaps and tells her that depression isn't an excuse for being lazy. This leads to a heated confrontation and the girlfriend leaving to stay with her mother. Did he go too far or was he just trying to help?

A Supportive Relationship 💕

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Depression and Anxiety 😞

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Losing Her Job 💔

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Taking Care of Everything 🏠

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Back to Work, Home in Shambles 😓

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Exhaustion and Takeout 🍕

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Housework Neglected 🧹

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Her Daily Routine 🛌

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Gentle Coaxing, No Results 😔

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Finally Snapping 😠

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Her Response: No Motivation 😢

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Depression Isn't an Excuse? 🤔

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Clean House, Gone to Mom's 💌

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Angry Mother, Crying Girlfriend 😡

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Lose-Lose Situation 😖

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Extra Info: Therapy and Job Search 📝

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A Complicated Struggle: Depression vs. Laziness 🥺

In this emotionally charged situation, a man finds himself torn between understanding his girlfriend's depression and needing her to contribute to their household. He snaps and tells her that depression isn't an excuse for being lazy, leading to her leaving to stay with her mother. Was he being insensitive or just trying to help? Share your thoughts and reactions below. 👇

Navigating a relationship with depression: NAH, but time to reevaluate.

gigglymonstr | gigglymonstr

Insightful comment on depression and its impact on relationships 😢

Kushthulu_the_Dank | Kushthulu_the_Dank

Encouraging independence and self-care during depression 👏

chaoticallywholesome | chaoticallywholesome

A personal story about depression and empathy.

Awkward-Bee7498 | Awkward-Bee7498

Insensitive boyfriend gets called out for yelling at depressed girlfriend.

esp-eclipse | esp-eclipse

Navigating mental health in relationships can be tough 🤔

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Navigating depression in a relationship: empathy and communication are key 👍

Elli_Khoraz | Elli_Khoraz

A man's insensitive comment towards his girlfriend's depression. 😢

lunarlandscapes | lunarlandscapes

Depression is not an excuse to do nothing. But is it fair to expect more from someone battling a mental illness? 🤔

Chato_Jorge | Chato_Jorge

Empathy is key. YTA should have been more supportive 😢

cuddlylettuce | cuddlylettuce

Depression is a serious issue. Ultimatums can make it worse 😢

duplicitousdoll | duplicitousdoll

Commenter calls out YTA for insensitive delivery of message 😢

unsurehowtoreddit | unsurehowtoreddit

Depression is debilitating, but OP is trying to help. 🙏

stupidpunname54 | stupidpunname54

Supporting a partner with depression can be overwhelming, NTA for setting boundaries.

Lulubelle__007 | Lulubelle__007

Navigating depression in a relationship can be tough 😢

miladyelle | miladyelle

Offering support and understanding can go a long way 🙏

Deathena420 | Deathena420

Supportive comment encourages patience and understanding for partner's depression 🙏

SmartAssGary | SmartAssGary

Calling someone with depression lazy is a low blow 😢

ladyradar | ladyradar

Partner struggles to support depressed girlfriend, seeks advice from mother.

purechamps | purechamps

Caring boyfriend shares his experience with his girlfriend's anxiety.

spicybread99 | spicybread99

Commenter suggests seeking advice on relationship subreddit 🤔

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Commenter calls out OP for being controlling and judgmental

Unique-Ball | Unique-Ball

Mom's the only a**hole here 😂

JungleEater | JungleEater

Educate yourself on depression and support your girlfriend. 👍

Euffy | Euffy

Depressed girlfriend struggles to find work, fiancé frustrated with inactivity 😢

coffeequeen1738 | coffeequeen1738

Understanding depression is crucial. YTA, don't make it worse 😢

JazzyPhotoMac | JazzyPhotoMac

Navigating depression in a relationship can be tough 😢

kayfeif | kayfeif

Commenter calls out OP for lack of support and empathy 💔

carole0708 | carole0708

Insensitive boyfriend gets called out for not understanding depression.

badb-crow | badb-crow

Supportive partner prods girlfriend with depression, recommends medication and therapist.

GeekGurl2000 | GeekGurl2000

Navigating caretaker fatigue while supporting a partner with depression 🙏

MikkiTh | MikkiTh

Depression is tough, but after 6 months, seeking help is important. 💪

youlooklikeshit | youlooklikeshit

Depression is exhausting and not an excuse for laziness. YTA.

MyFickleMind | MyFickleMind

Supporting a partner with depression can be challenging 😢

blueratgirl | blueratgirl

Managing depression and household chores: A personal story of triumph 🙌

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Depression is hard to understand. Clean together, encourage therapy. 🙏

Opposite-Sock | Opposite-Sock

Empower your partner to trust herself and seek proper medication 👍

samwisetheyogi | samwisetheyogi

Partner with depression expected to clean, commenters side with boyfriend.

glutany | glutany

Supportive advice given to boyfriend dealing with girlfriend's depression.

thicklover | thicklover

Empathetic commenter relates to depression, deems OP the a-hole.

Diva461 | Diva461

Insensitive boyfriend shames girlfriend's depression. YTA. 😢

FeedThePug | FeedThePug

Depression is an illness, not laziness. YTA, but your frustration is valid 😢

VanityInk | VanityInk

Supporting a partner with depression can be overwhelming 😢

ensalys | ensalys

Living with a partner who has depression: a tricky situation 🤔

Lualin87 | Lualin87

Commenter calls out OP for being TA and offers empathy ❤️


Validating mental health is crucial. YTA crossed the line. 😢

FundantandBalls | FundantandBalls

Defending your girlfriend against her mom? NTA wins! 👏

natalia8a | natalia8a

Supporting mental health doesn't mean excusing bad behavior 🙏

DyingDarkness | DyingDarkness

Depression is not laziness 😢. Yelling doesn't help.

gringaellie | gringaellie

Understanding the complexities of depression and its effects. 😢

DeadlyCyn205 | DeadlyCyn205

Understanding the severity of depression is crucial, YTA.

MrDeco97 | MrDeco97

Moving on from a partner with mental health issues: NAH.

SomeoneYouDontKnow70 | SomeoneYouDontKnow70

Partner's depression affecting relationship: tough love or break up? 😢

AbraCaDarcie | AbraCaDarcie

Support systems are crucial for mental health during pandemic 😢

spicybread99 | spicybread99

Encouraging partner to be productive is NTA 👍

The_Amazing_Username | The_Amazing_Username

Depression is a mental illness, not laziness. YTA for sure 😢

kitannphoenix | kitannphoenix

Understanding depression and the spoon theory. YTA for calling her lazy.

hcirehttae | hcirehttae

Depression can demolish energy and motivation, calling her lazy unfair. 😢

eldritcheye | eldritcheye

NTA suggests helpful tips for girlfriend's depression and job search 🙏

the-b1tch | the-b1tch

Insensitive boyfriend receives judgement for worsening girlfriend's depression.

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Understanding depression symptoms is crucial when supporting loved ones. ❤

Hellopitty1 | Hellopitty1

Depression is a serious disease that requires support and understanding 😢

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A heartwarming example of a supportive and equal partnership ❤️

maggies82 | maggies82

Partner's ultimatum to depressed girlfriend - YTA, lack of empathy 😢

atroprvt | atroprvt

Understanding depression is key. Consider medication and new therapist. 🙏

SuckMyGigantic_____ | SuckMyGigantic_____

Depression makes chores harder for both partners. ESH.

amhran_oiche | amhran_oiche

Age difference adds to YTA verdict. 😒

GatorDave4 | GatorDave4

Insensitive comment receives no support. #mentalhealthmatters 🏆

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User calls out OP for lack of compassion towards girlfriend's depression 😢

writer_girl-18 | writer_girl-18

Man faces criticism for dating a younger woman and being unsupportive.

ConsistentCheesecake | ConsistentCheesecake

Advice on depression and cleaning, but don't blame the victim.

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