I stopped cleaning while cooking to prove a point to my husband

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Do you have a partner who makes a mess in the kitchen when they cook? Are you the one stuck with cleaning up the aftermath? This AITA post tackles the age-old debate of who should clean up after cooking, but with a twist. The author has always cleaned as they cooked, but their partner doesn't. When the author asked their partner to start cleaning as they cooked, they were met with resistance. So, to prove a point, the author decided not to clean up after cooking a big meal. What happened next? You'll have to read on to find out! This post is sure to spark debates about household chores and fairness in relationships.

Cleaning while cooking vs. enjoying the mess: marital conflicts 😒

doingthemdishes | doingthemdishes

Encouraging partner to clean while cooking - teamwork makes dream work 😊

doingthemdishes | doingthemdishes

Cooking 80% of the time, but still doing all the cleaning 🤔

doingthemdishes | doingthemdishes

🍴🧹 A messy kitchen after work? Let's discuss expectations.

doingthemdishes | doingthemdishes

Battle of the chores: Cooking vs Cleaning 😩🍳🧹

doingthemdishes | doingthemdishes

🍴🧹 Clean as you cook? The never-ending debate of kitchen chores.

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When husbands won't help clean, wives find ways 🙄

doingthemdishes | doingthemdishes

A rebellious act of not cleaning while cooking dinner 🍲

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A messy kitchen causes a husband's frustration. 🧹

doingthemdishes | doingthemdishes

When chili > cleaning: A wife's marital power move 💪

doingthemdishes | doingthemdishes

Wife stops cleaning to prove point to husband 🤔

doingthemdishes | doingthemdishes

🍳🚫Stopped cleaning while cooking to prove a point to husband

doingthemdishes | doingthemdishes

Husband's gaming vs. wife's point: a delicate balance ⚖️

doingthemdishes | doingthemdishes

Proving a point or being childish? 🤔 You decide.

doingthemdishes | doingthemdishes

Is it the husband's fault? 🤔 You decide.

doingthemdishes | doingthemdishes

Hand-washing dishes takes time, no dishwasher for this couple 😐

doingthemdishes | doingthemdishes

A new definition of "doing the dishes" 🍽️🧹

doingthemdishes | doingthemdishes

A culinary process: from dried chilies to ground spices 🌶️🧄

doingthemdishes | doingthemdishes

Cheesy mess! 🧀 Cooking is fun until the dishes pile up.

doingthemdishes | doingthemdishes

Unexpectedly popular post receives apologies for neglecting comment replies.

doingthemdishes | doingthemdishes

Cooking and cleaning: Is it fair for one person to do both? 🤔

doingthemdishes | doingthemdishes

Chili-making humblebrag sparks heated discussion

doingthemdishes | doingthemdishes

Toasting chilies and using dried beans is a game-changer!

doingthemdishes | doingthemdishes

👩‍🍳👨‍🍳 Couple argues over messy kitchen, woman stops cleaning to prove point

A couple argues over cleaning responsibilities in the kitchen. The woman is the better cook and cooks about 80% of the time, leaving the man with an easy clean-up. However, when the man cooks, there's a mess everywhere, and he does not clean up as he cooks. The woman has asked him to clean as he cooks, but he refuses and says that the rule is one person cooks, the other cleans. Fed up, she decides to make a big pot of chili and not clean as she works, leaving the mess for the man to clean up. He gets upset and calls her names, but she stands her ground, and he eventually cleans up the mess. The couple still argues over who should clean, and the woman wonders if she was wrong to stop cleaning to prove her point. Read on to see what others think and share your thoughts.

NTA for not cleaning while cooking. Husband needs to help.

bluied | bluied

NTA for proving a point, but heart to heart needed 💔💬 Try cleaning up together as a team 🧹👫

dlogos13 | dlogos13

Proving a point to her husband, she was saving him time cleaning 🧹💪

kvetcherkit | kvetcherkit

Fairness prevails! Keep it up until he learns 🧹👩‍🍳

Bedlam_ | Bedlam_

NTA. Switching to a 'cook and clean' rotation is fairer.

ill_mango | ill_mango

Cooking and cleaning? The perfect match. 🍳🧼

Old_Sheepherder_630 | Old_Sheepherder_630

Assertive OP stands up to smug husband, earns NTA judgment 👏👍

Ragingredblue | Ragingredblue

Are we all married to a polygamist Mormon?! 😂

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NTA. OP's husband needs to realize the unsaid burden placed on women at home. 🙄

shabays | shabays

Illustrating a point with low stakes. NTA.

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Equal cleaning for equal cooking. 👌

mariahhas18number1s | mariahhas18number1s

Cooking and gaming don't mix, husband learned the hard way 😜

JazzyPhotoMac | JazzyPhotoMac

Proving a point in the kitchen 🍝💪🏼

dart1126 | dart1126

Don't let your partner feign incompetence and get away with it 🤨

SpicyWonderBread | SpicyWonderBread

Validating the struggle of unrecognized efforts. 👍

LilPerditaGattino | LilPerditaGattino

Fair division of household chores with task list and days off.

WarmedObject | WarmedObject

Proving a point with a dirty kitchen 🧹🍳 NTA!

issoecoisadefudido | issoecoisadefudido

Fairness is key 🔑. Husband needs to grow up too 🙄.

NightSail | NightSail

Don't let anyone make you feel guilty for being considerate 😊

Winstonwill8 | Winstonwill8

Proving a point: 👍 Not the a**hole! 🙌

NowIFeelLikeANoob | NowIFeelLikeANoob

Teaching a messy lesson 🧹🍴

lmusic87 | lmusic87

Stand up for yourself! 🙌 You shouldn't have to clean up after him. 💪

TheBlackSpot_ | TheBlackSpot_

Partner needs to grow up and learn that adulting is hard 😒

tkn91191 | tkn91191

Equal cleaning responsibilities established, husband still complains. NTA.

facbok195 | facbok195

Cleaning as you cook saves time and effort! 😄

Sleepy_felines | Sleepy_felines

Spoon rest drama: a husband's perspective and a witty comeback 🥄🤣

No6fueloil | No6fueloil

Partner refuses to clean while cooking, gets what he deserves 🤷‍♀️

smile365days | smile365days

Standing up for oneself in a marriage is crucial 💪

Entire-Flight | Entire-Flight

Using pictures to show the mess? Brilliant idea! 📷👍

roscoe_e_roscoe | roscoe_e_roscoe

Fair division of household chores. 🧹👩‍🍳

Abeyita | Abeyita

Love the energy! Keep proving your point like a boss! 🔥

HotConfusion | HotConfusion

Cooperation is key! 🤝 ESH agrees on sharing cleaning duties.

taggalito | taggalito

Proving a point with sass, NTA wins this cooking battle 🍴

jklein1266 | jklein1266

Breaking the stereotype: A woman's take on unbalanced relationships.

MindlessSherbert2 | MindlessSherbert2

Coordinating chores is key to a healthy household 🍽️🧹

chelledees | chelledees

Cooking lesson for husband: Clean while you cook or clean up after.

thicklover | thicklover

Agreed! 🙌 Don't let him push you around. NTA.

throwseph23 | throwseph23

Gamer boyfriend refuses to clean up? NTA takes a stand 🧹💪

soulevans127 | soulevans127

Proving a point to your husband while cooking? 🤔 NTA

Buckeye_Birdy | Buckeye_Birdy

This hero stopped cleaning while cooking. NTA 🙌

Illustrious-Band-537 | Illustrious-Band-537

Cooking rule broken, but NTA. Cleaning as you cook important.

quick_justice | quick_justice

Proving a point *and* teaching a lesson 🤔👩‍🍳

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Cooking with ex-housemate turned chef taught me one-pot wonders 🤣

deedubbleewe | deedubbleewe

Married couples can relate 😂

superdupe81 | superdupe81

Sharing chores equally can save your sanity 🧹🍴

Liakada | Liakada

Efficient or lazy? Commenter defends cooking without cleaning, NTA 🍴

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Proving a point didn't help. 🤔 Communication is key.

yougottabekiddingm | yougottabekiddingm

Lazy husband called out, NTA takes a stand 🙌

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