Brother with Aspergers asks why he can't get a date. My response causes family drama.

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When a high-functioning autistic man seeks dating advice from his sister, she tells him the truth. But was she too harsh? Read on to find out why her brother's behavior drives her absolutely insane.

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Dating with Aspergers: When Honesty Goes Too Far 🤔

Dating can be tough, but even tougher when you have Aspergers. Aspergers is a high functioning form of autism that can make it difficult to interact with others. One woman recounts how her brother with Aspergers has been struggling to find a date. While his intentions may be good, his honesty often comes across as demeaning and borderline sexist, causing many women to walk out on him. But is it really his fault? His family's constant coddling and his belief that he is smarter than others, especially women, has not helped his case. When his sister finally told him the truth about his behavior, he was hurt and complained to their parents. But was she really in the wrong for speaking up? Join us as we explore the complexities of dating with Aspergers and the delicate balance between honesty and hurtful behavior. Stay tuned for comments and reactions.

NTA. Sister gives honest dating advice to entitled brother with Aspergers.

CitizenSquidbot | CitizenSquidbot

Being honest with an autistic person is crucial. Direct communication helps.

GrowKinder | GrowKinder

Brother's sexist attitude worsened by parents' coddling. Asperger's not excuse. 🤦‍♀️

DogsReadingBooks | DogsReadingBooks

Being honest with an Asperger's family member about dating risks drama 🔥

MoreTumbleweed | MoreTumbleweed

Encouraging advice to help a brother with Aspergers understand dating.

larry2o2 | larry2o2

Calling out a sexist narcissist - NTA handled it perfectly 👌

littlepunkbree | littlepunkbree

OP provides constructive criticism, but brother's sexist views cause drama.

galarguy | galarguy

Honesty is the best policy 😊 NTA sister helps brother find love.


Mislead confidence instilled by parents causing family drama. NTA.

WonderfulAtmosphere | WonderfulAtmosphere

Confronting the reality of misogyny and arrogance in social awkwardness 👥

DoULiekChickenz | DoULiekChickenz

Fighting sexism and family drama. You're NTA 👊🏽

Naive-Papaya | Naive-Papaya

Commenter suggests reason for lack of dating success. NTA.

leskenobian | leskenobian

Honesty hurts, but it's necessary. 🤷‍♀️

blacked_out_blur | blacked_out_blur

NTA for telling the truth to your brother with Asperger's, who needed to be treated like everyone else. Your parents are TA's for giving him special treatment even though he's no longer a child. Some comment replies suggest that your brother is also being sexist and disrespectful and using his Asperger's as an excuse to take advantage of people.

_shellybean | _shellybean

Don't blame it on the autism, he's just being an a**hole 🤷‍♀️

Kellogz27 | Kellogz27

NTA gently corrects harmful language regarding autism and misogyny.

progressivepinata | progressivepinata

Autistic lesbian calls out misogyny in response to brother's behavior. 🌈

goodnewsbees | goodnewsbees

Being honest can be tough, but it's necessary for growth. 💪

milee30 | milee30

Honest advice can be tough, but necessary 👍

Abieticacid | Abieticacid

Standing up to bad behavior is necessary, no matter the condition. ⚠️

BicarbonateOfSofa | BicarbonateOfSofa

Honesty with loved ones can be tough, but necessary. ❤️

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Commenter expresses concern for potential emotional abuse in relationships.

Gwenzzz | Gwenzzz

Encouraging response to supporting someone with Aspergers 💛

murderousbudgie | murderousbudgie

Breaking down misconceptions on Aspergers and dating 💕

EveryDisaster | EveryDisaster

NTA! You called out his sexist attitude and superiority complex 🚩

Stunning-General | Stunning-General

Honesty isn't always easy 😬

pmathewstx | pmathewstx

Honesty hurts, but sometimes it's what we need. 💔

wickedkittylitter | wickedkittylitter

Being on the spectrum doesn't justify being a d**k 🤔

Hunt3r8806 | Hunt3r8806

Calling out sexism and standing up for what's right! 👊

Mysterry_T | Mysterry_T

Being autistic doesn't justify misogyny. Being cautious is better.

orphiq | orphiq

Dispelling myths about Aspergers and dating: NTA's response wins.

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Honesty as the best policy? NTA comment causes family drama.

dramaandaheadache | dramaandaheadache

Commenter defends OP's response to sensitive brother with Aspergers.

redheadeddisaster | redheadeddisaster

Addressing demeaning behavior towards women sparks family drama 😬

ms-anthrope | ms-anthrope

Empathetic NTA advises brother with Aspergers on dating.

notkeenontalking | notkeenontalking

Honesty is the best policy. 🤷‍♀️

RagaMuffinSun | RagaMuffinSun

Calling out ableism and sexism, NTA stands their ground.

Tylermcd93 | Tylermcd93

Honesty is the best policy. 🤔

Order66-Cody | Order66-Cody

Direct communication with those with disorders is key! 🗣️

vonshiza | vonshiza

Insightful comment from a diagnosed autistic woman about coddling autistics 💭

mai_tais_and_yahtzee | mai_tais_and_yahtzee

Brutal honesty or comforting lies? NTA's dilemma in advising brother 🤔

Angio343 | Angio343

Supportive advice to stand up against family drama ❤️

ScammerC | ScammerC

Breaking the cycle of toxic 'nice guy' behavior 👍

TheREALNesZapper | TheREALNesZapper

Logic vs. Hysteria: Dealing with a stubborn sibling 😕

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Encouraging response to brother's dating troubles. 🤝

ReasonableThings | ReasonableThings

Being honest with a sexist brother with Aspergers causes drama 😬

MSAutarkia | MSAutarkia

Blunt honesty may help Aspergers sibling date, NTA for comment.

VirtualBrick2 | VirtualBrick2

Honesty hurts 🤕 but NTA for telling it like it is.

Froot-Batz | Froot-Batz

Mom created disaster. Being misogynistic & unlikeable is not logical. 💁‍♀️

compassionfever | compassionfever

Encouraging NTA comment suggests treating women with respect and introduces Dunning-Kruger.

sakupocket | sakupocket

Honesty is key in helping those on the spectrum 👏

ThatComicChick | ThatComicChick

Parents' unreasonable expectations hurt brother's confidence. Insulting behavior unlearnable?

randomfemale | randomfemale

Direct communication is key for HFA individuals seeking relationships. 💕

WonderDeb | WonderDeb

Building confidence is key for dating success! 💪

ShiggnessKhan | ShiggnessKhan

Honesty is the best policy 🤝

pthepuff | pthepuff

Helpful response to brother with Aspergers sparks family drama. NTA.

Pvt_Pyle58 | Pvt_Pyle58

Honesty hurts 🤕 NTA gets backlash for brother's dating woes.

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Autism doesn't excuse misogyny, NTA explains. Functioning labels harmful.

Epickirby547 | Epickirby547

Honesty can be tough, but it can also lead to growth 💪

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