Lesbian woman receives a 'femme kit' for birthday, gives it back

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A 22-year-old woman recently came out as a lesbian and started to embrace a more butch and masculine look. Her uncle gifted her a motorbike, which she loved, but her mother and aunt's gifts were a "femme kit" that included high-end makeup, hair care products, lingerie, and spa treatments. She couldn't fake being excited, and her mother got hurt. Now she's struggling to come to terms with who she is and hates that she has to pretend to keep the peace with her family. Was she ungrateful and rude? Read her story on AITA subreddit and share your thoughts.

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Coming out as a lesbian is not easy, and it can be even harder when family members don't understand or accept it. In this case, a woman's uncle has been supportive and encouraging of her masculine interests, while her mother and aunt have not. When they bought her a 'femme kit' for her birthday, including expensive makeup, lingerie, and spa treatments, she couldn't pretend to be excited about it. Despite thanking them for their generosity, she was much happier about the motorbike her uncle gifted her. This caused tension and hurt feelings, with the woman being called ungrateful and rude. It's important for families to love and accept their children for who they are, rather than trying to change them. In the next section, let's take a look at some reactions to this situation.

NTA. Take Uncle to the spa and regift lingerie vouchers.

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Lesbian woman receives inappropriate 'femme kit', supported for standing up.

DevLegion | DevLegion

Gift giving should make the recipient happy, not the giver 😕

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Don't let anyone pressure you into being someone you're not 🙅‍♀️

Zaraihn | Zaraihn

Acceptance over conformity, a birthday tale 🎂❤️

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Rejecting a manipulative gift 💰🚫 #NTA

acidicjew_ | acidicjew_

Setting boundaries with family as an LGBTQ person 🏳️‍🌈

Adm_Hawthorne | Adm_Hawthorne

Homophobic gift-giving is unacceptable. Family rejection is traumatizing ❤️🌈

femjuniper | femjuniper

Empowering response to unwanted gift. 💪🎁

GlaxenFlux | GlaxenFlux

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Wifi-Doggo | Wifi-Doggo

Lesbian woman rejects 'femme kit' gift, calls out mom's insensitivity 🚫🎁

Knittingfairy09113 | Knittingfairy09113

Supportive comment receives agreement from other commenter. 🙌

jdragonz | jdragonz

Supportive comment for a lesbian woman's struggle for acceptance ❤️

xInsomniCatx | xInsomniCatx

Gifts should be for the recipient, not the giver. NTA.

7thatsanope | 7thatsanope

Be true to yourself and don't let others define you 🌈

honneibunni | honneibunni

Sassy replies to unwanted 'femme kit', NTA wins again 👌🏼

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A 'gift' that's actually an instruction manual 🤔

j-allen-heineken | j-allen-heineken

Femme kit gift backfires, NTA calls it out 💩

dr-sparkle | dr-sparkle

Regifting 'femme kit' after manipulative gift-giving? NTA here 👍

ForeverNugu | ForeverNugu

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KittyMBunny | KittyMBunny

Polite rejection of unwanted gift from awesome uncle 🎁👌

SereniaKat | SereniaKat

Celebrate who you are 🎉🌈💕

Special-Attitude-242 | Special-Attitude-242

Unwanted gifts as statements not presents. Relatable 👍

AmazingJole | AmazingJole

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metropoliskoala | metropoliskoala

Reselling makeup: the ultimate 'femme kit' hack 💄💰

Jazzisa | Jazzisa

Gift-giving loophole: Get a femme girlfriend and share the love! 💝

stardustnotrocks | stardustnotrocks

Spread love and education with rainbow themed gifts and books 🌈

cassowary32 | cassowary32

Exchange the makeup, save the lingerie gift cards for GF 💄👙

SuperLoris | SuperLoris

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LadyReika | LadyReika

Thoughtful gifts vs. manipulative gifts. NTA wins.

50kent | 50kent

Gift or micro-aggression? Understanding the impact of 'femme kits'.

Fraudlein | Fraudlein

Support for lesbian woman who declined 'femme kit', NTA 🌈

Lotex_Style | Lotex_Style

Gift was wrong on many levels. NTA for returning it.

Kayliee73 | Kayliee73

Be true to yourself, no one else can live your life 💕

Nate_St0rm | Nate_St0rm

Celebrate your true self, regift the rest 🌈✨

Apprehensive-Mall-44 | Apprehensive-Mall-44

Rejecting a 'femme kit' from unsupportive mom and finding self-love 😍

technical_sprue | technical_sprue

Keeping gifts for future lover, NTA but 🎁👀

Tuesday_TauRus_Child | Tuesday_TauRus_Child

Find a cute girl and pamper her, NTA approves 💅❤️

Kat122697 | Kat122697

Setting boundaries with family: How important is it? 🤔

Bakecrazy | Bakecrazy

Spread the love and let your uncle enjoy the spa! ✨

VirtualPanda89 | VirtualPanda89

Be yourself and reject gifts that don't accept you ✨

RabbitHoleMotel | RabbitHoleMotel

Claiming her rightful place! 👊🏳️‍🌈💥

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Embrace your identity, don't let anyone dictate how you express yourself 💪

redheaddisaster | redheaddisaster

Rejecting societal pressure to be ultra-feminine, NTA, find joy elsewhere 💪👊

Sagoskatt- | Sagoskatt-

Breaking gender roles and standing up for yourself. ✊

imisspeaches | imisspeaches

Unwanted 'femme kit' turned into a lesson on gender-neutral self-care 💅

AppleMunchNCrunch | AppleMunchNCrunch

Regifting the 'femme kit' from mom like a boss 😎👌

Whole-Recover-8911 | Whole-Recover-8911

Respectful gift-giving: know the recipient and their preferences 🎁

DistributionOk4169 | DistributionOk4169

A supportive comment encouraging the woman to be true to herself 🌈

halfwaygonetoo | halfwaygonetoo

Returning the 'femme kit' was a powerful statement. NTA 👏👏

TheinimitaableG | TheinimitaableG

Suggesting malicious compliance for 'femme kit', try drag king looks 👑

Tasty_Research_1869 | Tasty_Research_1869

Breaking gender norms: embracing what you like 😍

GruffScottishGuy | GruffScottishGuy

A thoughtful gesture gone wrong. Not the a**hole.

RuthlessKittyKat | RuthlessKittyKat

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kikivee612 | kikivee612

Insensitive gift sparks rightful anger from recipient and commenter.

AndrewClemmens | AndrewClemmens

Birthday present drama: lesbian rejects 'femme kit', not the a**hole

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Homophobic mom tries to force her ways. Cut ties. NTA 🏳️‍🌈

NiteGrimwood | NiteGrimwood

NTA. A good present makes you feel seen, valued and loved.

Anxious-Marketing525 | Anxious-Marketing525

Embrace your true self and ignore the negativity 🌈✨

bobbydawn25 | bobbydawn25

Celebrate who you are, not who others want you to be 🎉 #NTA

snowflakehealer | snowflakehealer

Support for a lesbian woman facing hate on her birthday ❤️🌈

TequilaMockingbird80 | TequilaMockingbird80

Family support is everything! 😊👬

DakotaJ44 | DakotaJ44

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