A 22-year-old woman recently came out as a lesbian and started to embrace a more butch and masculine look. Her uncle gifted her a motorbike, which she loved, but her mother and aunt's gifts were a "femme kit" that included high-end makeup, hair care products, lingerie, and spa treatments. She couldn't fake being excited, and her mother got hurt. Now she's struggling to come to terms with who she is and hates that she has to pretend to keep the peace with her family. Was she ungrateful and rude? Read her story on AITA subreddit and share your thoughts.
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Coming out as a lesbian is not easy, and it can be even harder when family members don't understand or accept it. In this case, a woman's uncle has been supportive and encouraging of her masculine interests, while her mother and aunt have not. When they bought her a 'femme kit' for her birthday, including expensive makeup, lingerie, and spa treatments, she couldn't pretend to be excited about it. Despite thanking them for their generosity, she was much happier about the motorbike her uncle gifted her. This caused tension and hurt feelings, with the woman being called ungrateful and rude. It's important for families to love and accept their children for who they are, rather than trying to change them. In the next section, let's take a look at some reactions to this situation.
NTA. Take Uncle to the spa and regift lingerie vouchers.
Lesbian woman receives inappropriate 'femme kit', supported for standing up.
Gift giving should make the recipient happy, not the giver 😕
Don't let anyone pressure you into being someone you're not 🙅♀️
Acceptance over conformity, a birthday tale 🎂❤️
Rejecting a manipulative gift 💰🚫 #NTA
Setting boundaries with family as an LGBTQ person 🏳️🌈
Homophobic gift-giving is unacceptable. Family rejection is traumatizing ❤️🌈
Empowering response to unwanted gift. 💪🎁
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Lesbian woman rejects 'femme kit' gift, calls out mom's insensitivity 🚫🎁
Supportive comment receives agreement from other commenter. 🙌
Supportive comment for a lesbian woman's struggle for acceptance ❤️
Gifts should be for the recipient, not the giver. NTA.
Be true to yourself and don't let others define you 🌈
Sassy replies to unwanted 'femme kit', NTA wins again 👌🏼
A 'gift' that's actually an instruction manual 🤔
Femme kit gift backfires, NTA calls it out 💩
Regifting 'femme kit' after manipulative gift-giving? NTA here 👍
LGBTQ+ ally offers support and empathy to mistreated lesbian.
Polite rejection of unwanted gift from awesome uncle 🎁👌
Celebrate who you are 🎉🌈💕
Unwanted gifts as statements not presents. Relatable 👍
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Exchange the makeup, save the lingerie gift cards for GF 💄👙
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Thoughtful gifts vs. manipulative gifts. NTA wins.
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Support for lesbian woman who declined 'femme kit', NTA 🌈
Gift was wrong on many levels. NTA for returning it.
Be true to yourself, no one else can live your life 💕
Celebrate your true self, regift the rest 🌈✨
Rejecting a 'femme kit' from unsupportive mom and finding self-love 😍
Keeping gifts for future lover, NTA but 🎁👀
Find a cute girl and pamper her, NTA approves 💅❤️
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Spread the love and let your uncle enjoy the spa! ✨
Be yourself and reject gifts that don't accept you ✨
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Embrace your identity, don't let anyone dictate how you express yourself 💪
Rejecting societal pressure to be ultra-feminine, NTA, find joy elsewhere 💪👊
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Regifting the 'femme kit' from mom like a boss 😎👌
Respectful gift-giving: know the recipient and their preferences 🎁
A supportive comment encouraging the woman to be true to herself 🌈
Returning the 'femme kit' was a powerful statement. NTA 👏👏
Suggesting malicious compliance for 'femme kit', try drag king looks 👑
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A thoughtful gesture gone wrong. Not the a**hole.
Standing up to homophobia: Lesbian woman rejects 'femme kit' gift 🌈
Insensitive gift sparks rightful anger from recipient and commenter.
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Homophobic mom tries to force her ways. Cut ties. NTA 🏳️🌈
NTA. A good present makes you feel seen, valued and loved.
Embrace your true self and ignore the negativity 🌈✨
Celebrate who you are, not who others want you to be 🎉 #NTA
Support for a lesbian woman facing hate on her birthday ❤️🌈
Family support is everything! 😊👬
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