When a woman's in-laws cut off her husband because of their interracial marriage, they haven't spoken to them since. Now, as they plan their vow renewal ceremony and anniversary trip, the in-laws reach out with a non-apology and a gaudy ring. The woman refuses to invite them or wear the ring, but her husband wants to reconcile with them. She stands firm, but the tension between them grows. Read on to find out if she's being unreasonable.
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When in-laws' racism ruins a vow renewal ceremony 🤬👎
A woman's in-laws cut her husband off for marrying an Asian woman. Now, for their vow renewal ceremony, they want to make amends with a gaudy ring, but she refuses to invite them. She's not an asshole for refusing to allow racists into her celebration of love. Her husband is wavering between standing up for what's right and trying to make peace with his family. Will he realize that accepting an apology for racism isn't his place? Or will his wife be forced to compromise her values for familial harmony? Keep reading to find out.
Starting with a lunch might be a better idea. ☕️ NTA.
dragonfly_c | dragonfly_c
In-laws' 'apology' was not an apology. NTA for not inviting.
StAlvis | StAlvis
NTA, dealing with racist in-laws for vow renewal. 💍
NYCQuilts | NYCQuilts
Avoid confrontation at vow renewal, meet in neutral setting instead ❤
MayorCharlesCoulon | MayorCharlesCoulon
The commenter suggests therapy for processing guilt and standing firm. 🙌
BatKelli | BatKelli
NAH, supportive comment with advice 🤝💕
StuffChecker | StuffChecker
In-laws not invited to vow renewal ceremony due to racism. NTA.
Wonderful_Noise_9756 | Wonderful_Noise_9756
Standing up to racists - NTA, racism can be unlearned ✊
Sweet-Meaning9809 | Sweet-Meaning9809
Standing up against racism. NTA 👏
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Education can't change someone who doesn't want to learn. NTA 💪
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Supportive comment warns of potential betrayal from spouse's family
HavePlushieWillTalk | HavePlushieWillTalk
Racism has no place in love. Keep standing up to it ❤️
QNaima | QNaima
Standing up to racism and setting boundaries. NTA 👏🏽
ExperienceSea820 | ExperienceSea820
NTA. In-laws' apology was insufficient. Respect husband's feelings. Consider counselling.
curiousbelgian | curiousbelgian
True remorse requires more than just a simple apology 😔
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Invite who you want! 🎉 NTA
[deleted] | [deleted]
Reappearing absentee father mends fences with actions, not just words 👍
Illustrious-Cycle708 | Illustrious-Cycle708
Reaching out after ten years? Lunch is a good start 🍴
Boomerfierce | Boomerfierce
Don't do free emotional labor for racist in-laws. NTA 👏
lareinadelsarah | lareinadelsarah
Stand your ground against racism, seek marriage counseling 💪👩❤️👨
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The true meaning of an apology explained with no excuses 🙌
Haggis_with_Ketchup | Haggis_with_Ketchup
Commenters call out fake apology and free vacation offer 💩
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Spineless husband wants racist in-laws at vow renewal? NTA, stay strong 💪
lilmxfi | lilmxfi
🙌 Not the a**hole for standing up against racism.
angryappleorchards | angryappleorchards
Setting boundaries with in-laws and questioning family history. 🤔
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Stand your ground, don't let bigots ruin your special day 🙅♀️🚫
MyRedditUserName428 | MyRedditUserName428
Celebrate 10 years without toxic in-laws 🥳☕
Sensitive_Coconut339 | Sensitive_Coconut339
Exclude racist in-laws from vow renewal, go on trip without them 🎉
puzzlehops2021 | puzzlehops2021
Mixed-race couple deals with racist in-laws, stands by convictions 👏
juanr0821 | juanr0821
Standing up against racism, even with family, is necessary. ✊
HoneyMCMLXXIII | HoneyMCMLXXIII
Spouse needs to understand: family shouldn't get a free pass 💔
Vythika96 | Vythika96
Stand your ground! Don't let racists ruin your special day 🚫👥
TraceyR53 | TraceyR53
NTA. Stand your ground and don't invite racist in-laws 💪
aznbabeeo | aznbabeeo
Deserve your own apologies! NTA for not inviting in-laws 👏
ahawk300 | ahawk300
Set boundaries with love 💕
dynomoose | dynomoose
In-laws excluded from vow renewal after 10 years, NTA.
Deucalion666 | Deucalion666
Standing up against racism, NTA for not inviting in-laws 💪🏻
PilotEnvironmental46 | PilotEnvironmental46
Racist in-laws not invited to vow renewal, NTA.
ndcollector | ndcollector
NTA for refusing to invite racist in-laws to vow renewal. 🚫👴🏻👵🏻🤬
krystalfloods | krystalfloods
Standing up against racism, NTA sets an example 🙌
NotTheBeesAHHHH | NotTheBeesAHHHH
NTA OP stands her ground against racist in-laws, husband needs therapy.
Responsible_Judge007 | Responsible_Judge007
Supportive comment section for woman refusing racist in-laws. ❤️
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Reuniting with racist in-laws, at what cost? 🤔
SmibsRule | SmibsRule
Reconnecting with racist in-laws after 10 years, NTA says.
Oscars_Grouch | Oscars_Grouch
Standing up to racist in-laws: NTA wins this round 👏
PlushieTushie | PlushieTushie
A woman seeks advice on racist in-laws and demands a genuine apology 💔
Professional_Fee9555 | Professional_Fee9555
Standing up against in-laws' racism, but will they listen? 🤔
TheBookOfTormund | TheBookOfTormund
👍 Stand your ground against racist in-laws at ceremony
MoonlightxRose | MoonlightxRose
Setting terms for in-laws to make amends. Healthy approach. ❤
notenoughwits2 | notenoughwits2
Take your time to see if their apology is sincere 😌
KittySnowpants | KittySnowpants
Stand your ground and don't let them exploit you! 👊
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Standing up to racist in-laws at vow renewal ceremony 🙅♀️
Pillowprincess_222 | Pillowprincess_222
Forgiveness is a choice, not an obligation 💭
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Support for woman's decision to exclude racist in-laws from ceremony.
Responsible_Cloud_92 | Responsible_Cloud_92
Setting boundaries with racist in-laws before vow renewal ceremony. 💍
OneTwoWee000 | OneTwoWee000
Stand your ground! Don't let your racist in-laws ruin your day 🙅♀️
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Don't invite bigots to your vow renewal ceremony. NTA 🙅♀️
Marabomarabo | Marabomarabo
Standing up against racism: a vow renewal sans racists 👍🏽
pnutbuttercups56 | pnutbuttercups56
Celebrate love, not hate. Go on that vacation 💕🏝️
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Stand your ground against racist in-laws and get therapy 💪
carolineecouture | carolineecouture
Set boundaries, take time, and reconcile on your terms. 🚫🤝
Jigen-isshin | Jigen-isshin
Exclude racist in-laws from vow renewal. NTA.
osorenegado | osorenegado
Clear and concise support for not inviting racist in-laws. 👍
spicychickiesandbich | spicychickiesandbich
Cutting off in-laws for love? 😍 NTA wins anniversary
Classydame89 | Classydame89
In-laws not invited to vow renewal, but expect free vacation. NTA
emr830 | emr830
A heartwarming example of standing up to racist in-laws ❤️
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Don't let fake apologies ruin your special day 🚫💍
ApprehensiveWolf2020 | ApprehensiveWolf2020
Standing up against racism at vow renewal ceremony. 👍
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NTA shuts down racist in-laws trying to bribe their way in 🙅
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Husband's family causes rift over racism at vow renewal ceremony. NTA.
AmoraLynn | AmoraLynn
NTA and not the cause of Grandma's passing. In-laws playing long game 🎮
JipC1963 | JipC1963
Supporting a partner through racism is unacceptable. NTA.
Bergenia1 | Bergenia1
Standing up to bigotry for yourself and your parents. 👏
FerrettoZ | FerrettoZ
