She's leaving for good, but AITA for telling my friends and partner they're not the most important?

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An 18-year-old girl has been offered the opportunity of a lifetime to study abroad in another continent, and she's determined to make it her new home. However, her friends and partner are not happy about her decision to move away permanently. Despite her efforts to reassure them, they continue to pressure her to change her mind, causing her to finally speak her mind. What did she say? And what will be the consequences of her bold decision? Read on for the full story.

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Leaving for good - but AITA for putting myself first? 🌍

When an amazing study abroad opportunity presented itself to an 18-year-old girl, she couldn't be happier. However, her friends and partner didn't share the same excitement. They were concerned about the danger of going alone and the fact that she would be practically burning bridges with them. Even though she tried to assure them that they could still be friends and she promised to visit often, they continued to be unsupportive. Fed up with their constant nagging, she finally told them that they weren't the most important thing in her life and that this was the future she had always dreamed of. This resulted in her partner breaking up with her and her friends ghosting her. While she acknowledges that she could have phrased it better, she also knows that she did what was best for herself. Some of her cousins think she went too far, but her mom thinks she should just board the plane and never spare them another thought. What do you think? Share your opinions and advice in the comments below.

Spread your wings and fly. The world is big 🌎

No-Rub1544 | No-Rub1544

Leaving toxic friends and partner. Real friends support each other. 🙌

Maleficent-Signal295 | Maleficent-Signal295

Seize the opportunity to follow your dreams 👏🏽. NTA.

ElvisCresposblanket | ElvisCresposblanket

Real friends support you, even if it means from afar. 🤝

Syveril | Syveril

Breaking up to pursue your dream? You rock star 🌟

threeforagirl | threeforagirl

Leaving loved ones behind can be tough, but don't be mean 💔

AgoraiosBum | AgoraiosBum

Moving abroad and leaving loved ones behind is tough, ESH.

fakegermanchild | fakegermanchild

Embrace change and take the leap! 🌍

TurbulentSituation79 | TurbulentSituation79

Moving away for education, friends should support not expect. NTA 👍

Pretentious-fools | Pretentious-fools

OP got called out on being selfish and it's justified 🤷‍♀️

basic_wannabe | basic_wannabe

Commenter called YTA but also acknowledged NTA for chasing dreams.

yeidkanymore | yeidkanymore

OP is called out for being crass and insensitive 🤷‍♀️

yesnomaybe123 | yesnomaybe123

Following dreams and leaving a boyfriend behind 💔

history_buff_9971 | history_buff_9971

Expecting partner to be okay with virtual relationship? YTA 💔

L1mpD | L1mpD

Be the best version of yourself! 🙌🏻

Total_Eagle_7359 | Total_Eagle_7359

Leaving for good? NAH/ESH debate over valid points 🤔

iolaus79 | iolaus79

Moving on without him? ESH, but who's the biggest a**hole?

TheSuperAlly | TheSuperAlly

Commenter called out for being an a**hole with pop culture reference 🤭

[deleted] | [deleted]

Saying goodbye is hard, but NAH for prioritizing your future ✌️

Affectionate_Top_454 | Affectionate_Top_454

Setting boundaries without burning bridges 🌉🔥

DarthMetum | DarthMetum

Delivery matters. Soft ESH. Good riddance and enjoy studies! 😌

Fickle_Lifeguard7426 | Fickle_Lifeguard7426

Follow your dreams! 🌟 NTA, they'll come around eventually.

girlneedsahug | girlneedsahug

Don't let others hold you back from pursuing your dreams 💪✈️

jennifersb66 | jennifersb66

Rise above negativity 🙌 NTA

RaysUnderwater | RaysUnderwater

OP's decision to prioritize their study abroad over their relationship is criticized.

KissesnPopcorn | KissesnPopcorn

Unpopular YTA opinion on leaving, but valid points made 🤔

ilikeweirdshit7 | ilikeweirdshit7

Enjoy your life, forget the haters! ✌️

matthewgrima | matthewgrima

NTA. Commenter misinterprets situation and gives unwarranted advice. 🙄

Silvermorney | Silvermorney

Mom knows best 🙌 NTA for prioritizing yourself.

sadkinkybitch | sadkinkybitch

Saying they're not important made you an a-hole. ESH.

i-d-even-k- | i-d-even-k-

Follow your heart, NTA. Your loved ones will support you. ❤️

MadQueen92 | MadQueen92

Learn how to communicate without being an a**hole 🤐

Little-Ad4370 | Little-Ad4370

Surround yourself with positive people and enjoy life! 🎉

Darth_Hufflepuff | Darth_Hufflepuff

Prioritizing self-growth 🌱👊

[deleted] | [deleted]

Live your dreams! 🌟 Don't let anyone stop you! NTA!

Left-Occasion-8445 | Left-Occasion-8445

Choose your happiness, not their guilt. 🙌

TillyMint54 | TillyMint54

Leaving for good? NTA for prioritizing your dreams 🌍✨

autistic_strega | autistic_strega

A heartwarming story about a father's love and letting go ❤️

Ayandel | Ayandel

Embrace the opportunity! Your mom is right. 🙌

PilotEnvironmental46 | PilotEnvironmental46

Move out and enjoy life! 🌴 MTA comment and no replies.

ltlyellowcloud | ltlyellowcloud

Being honest about priorities can be tough, but NTA 🤷

LJGHunter | LJGHunter

Wishing them luck on their journey 🍀

Longjumping_Matter70 | Longjumping_Matter70

Live your life 🙌, NTA

thedroughts | thedroughts

Leaving the country for a dream; friends and partner upset. 💔

nina-boo | nina-boo

Seize the opportunity! Family support matters more than fake friends.

michinaill | michinaill

Mom agrees, NTA puts friends and partner in their place 👍

TashiaNicole1 | TashiaNicole1

Harsh truth or not, leaving for an opportunity. NTA 🙌

thedrlecter | thedrlecter

Supportive comment about prioritizing friendships and personal goals ❤️

olderbutnotwiser31 | olderbutnotwiser31

Follow your dreams and don't let anyone bully you! ✌️

Disneyfreak77 | Disneyfreak77

Follow your dreams and don't let anyone hold you back! ✈️🌍

Regular_Giraffe7022 | Regular_Giraffe7022

Don't let anyone hold you back from pursuing your dreams 💭✨

the_fatal_lozenge | the_fatal_lozenge

Supportive commenters encourage OP's new chapter. 🎉

QuinnMri | QuinnMri

Living independently abroad at a young age is thrilling 🌍✈️

bizianka | bizianka

Take the chance to travel and grow 🌍✈️

jwrx | jwrx

Leaving for good, but how to handle friends and partner? 🤔

jameskidd04 | jameskidd04

Apologize for harsh words but stand firm on leaving 🚶‍♀️

NexxonX | NexxonX

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