Moving back home to take care of a sick parent is admirable, but what happens when you are forced to live with an abusive sibling? That's the dilemma this Reddit user is facing. After months of putting up with their brother's laziness and disgusting habits, they finally gave their mother an ultimatum. But with their mother struggling to see reason and their mental health deteriorating, is it worth it? Read on to find out the full story and decide who's the real a**hole in this situation.
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👨👩👧👦 Family drama reaches boiling point 👀
Living with family can be tough, but what happens when it becomes unbearable? This person moved in with their mom to help her out while she was sick but things took a turn for the worse when their brother also moved in. Despite trying to compromise, their brother has made their life miserable and even refused to contribute financially. After reaching breaking point, this person gave their mother an ultimatum: it's either them or their brother. The situation has caused a rift in the family and the decision is tearing the mother apart. What would you do in this situation? Share your thoughts and advice in the comments below.
Mother plays favorites with sons, OP should move out ASAP. 💔
Hefty_Candidate_4902 | Hefty_Candidate_4902
Encouraging OP to take action and move out 🚚
Legitimate-Chair6580 | Legitimate-Chair6580
NTA takes an ultimatum stand, but will mother and brother change? 🤔
CandylandCanada | CandylandCanada
Move out and check in often. Leave everything to your brother. 👌
indyaj | indyaj
Choosing between love and duty: a heartbreaking family dilemma. 💔
calaakla | calaakla
Move out for your sanity and hire home health aides 🛠
exscapegoat | exscapegoat
Choosing yourself is the ultimate act of self-love 💕
ILoatheCailou | ILoatheCailou
Commenter rightfully defends themselves against baseless accusations 🙄
VermicelliSlight | VermicelliSlight
Stand your ground and move out. Set clear boundaries. 🚫🏠
LWDK2 | LWDK2
Asking for a choice between siblings is reasonable 🤔
LowStatistician8893 | LowStatistician8893
When your mom chooses your brother over you... 😔
CamelOfHate | CamelOfHate
Stand your ground, NTA. Family drama can be tough 😔
ndcollector | ndcollector
NTA, brother was asked to move in and help 🤷♀️
firefly232 | firefly232
Sibling rivalry and enabling behavior, NTA stands up for themselves 🙌
lonnielee3 | lonnielee3
Don't set yourself on fire to keep others warm 💥
peonysunbread | peonysunbread
Standing up to family is never easy, but necessary. 🙌
type1error | type1error
Choosing between siblings, NTA chooses self-care 🔥
He_Who_Is_Right_ | He_Who_Is_Right_
Taking care of two people is not your responsibility 🙅♀️
wkendwench | wkendwench
Sibling rivalry at its finest 🤦♀️
FineCauliflower | FineCauliflower
Prioritizing mental health is crucial for caretakers, seeking help 👍
wildfire973 | wildfire973
Take charge of your life and move out! 🚚
v2den | v2den
Standing up for yourself is tough, but necessary 💪
CuttlefishCaptain | CuttlefishCaptain
Brother is a waste of space, be diplomatic and move on. 🤐
PF7O | PF7O
Take care of yourself first. Help her when you can. 🙏
TwoCentsPsychologist | TwoCentsPsychologist
Supportive response with a thumbs up emoji.
PercyLegion | PercyLegion
Standing up for oneself: A fair ultimatum with good intentions. 🤝
pearlct1 | pearlct1
Leave the toxic family behind 🏃♂️
kab200 | kab200
Setting boundaries with family is important. 🙌 NTA.
Heraonolympia123 | Heraonolympia123
Take care and leave the toxicity behind. 🙏
meifahs_musungs | meifahs_musungs
Sibling rivalry at its finest, but who's in the right? 🤔
Clean_Citron_8278 | Clean_Citron_8278
Estranged daughter's heartfelt support for OP ❤️
gorgeouslygarish | gorgeouslygarish
Setting boundaries is important for healthy relationships. 🚫🤝
Temporary_username52 | Temporary_username52
Sibling rivalry resolved: NTA stands up against favoritism 👍
Gogowhine | Gogowhine
Don't burn yourself for her. NTA 👍🏼
spaceyjaycey | spaceyjaycey
Standing up to family scapegoating. 🙌🏼👏🏼
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Put your mental health first, move out and seek help ❤️
Rocket_scientists | Rocket_scientists
Encouraging reply amidst family tension 🙌🏼
SinfulPanda | SinfulPanda
Sibling rivalry resolved with a not-the-a**hole outcome 😊
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Don't let guilt and emotions control you. Move out. ✨
SlinkyMalinky20 | SlinkyMalinky20
Take control and put yourself first! You deserve better 🙌
Remote-Ability-6575 | Remote-Ability-6575
Stand your ground and prioritize your mental health 🙌
VictorianPlatypus | VictorianPlatypus
Take control of your life! Set boundaries and stand firm 💪
Flat_Contribution707 | Flat_Contribution707
Commenter advises OP to leave toxic family situation. NTA.
NonaOrganic | NonaOrganic
Navigating the complexities of caring for a difficult family member 😔
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queenlorraine | queenlorraine
NTA. Moving out is an appropriate consequence for her betrayal 😤
Maize-Vegetable | Maize-Vegetable
Choose yourself first 💪 Your mental health matters most.
Acrobatic-Initial-40 | Acrobatic-Initial-40
Protect your sanity, move out and make your brother responsible 👊
RevolutionarySea15 | RevolutionarySea15
NTA! Tell us more about the ultimatum you gave.
Aprilshowerz1993 | Aprilshowerz1993
Choose yourself and move on 🚶♂️
metalasfck | metalasfck
Setting boundaries with a codependent family member. 🚫
eatthebunnytoo | eatthebunnytoo
Dealing with a narcissistic brother and enabling mother. 💔
MorgainofAvalon | MorgainofAvalon
Commenter warns of potential burden of caring for brother. 💀
Xpialidocious | Xpialidocious
Prioritizing your own well-being is essential. NTA.
cheshyre | cheshyre
Pack up and go! 🏃👜 You deserve better treatment.
Carnalirium | Carnalirium
Sibling rivalry or justified ultimatum? NTA holds strong.
Vedis-4444 | Vedis-4444
Curious for an update on this family ultimatum 🤔
DutyValuable | DutyValuable
Escape the toxicity 🏃♂️💨
OurLadyOfCygnets | OurLadyOfCygnets
Commenter thinks OP was justified in giving ultimatum to mother.
sapphicsapphires | sapphicsapphires
Stand up for yourself and cut ties if necessary 💪
LingonberryPrior6896 | LingonberryPrior6896
Prioritizing self-care is crucial for being a good caregiver. ❤️
stephiewolf | stephiewolf
Move out and give your mother a chance to realize her mistake 😔👉👈
ThePunchlineIsFunny | ThePunchlineIsFunny
Prioritize your mental health. You come first. 💪
badgalcre | badgalcre
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