A woman and her husband had a tradition of spending Christmas in Hawaii with their kids. However, last year, due to a family tragedy, they couldn’t go. This year, they planned to go to Hawaii for Christmas, but the husband changed his mind and wanted to stay home with his grieving mother. The woman proposed that she and the kids go to Hawaii and the husband stay home, which he agreed to, but he was clearly upset. Now the woman is in Hawaii with the kids, while the husband is home alone and not responding much to her messages. AITA?
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A family tradition of spending Christmas in Hawaii turns sour for a woman as her husband chooses to stay with his grieving mother instead of joining her and their kids on their holiday trip. Despite prior agreements and tickets being booked, the husband’s change of heart leads to a rift in their relationship. The woman is now in Hawaii with their kids while her husband stays home alone, causing tension between them. Is she in the wrong for choosing to stick with their family tradition, or should her husband have supported her decision to go on the trip? Read on to see what others have to say about this Christmas conundrum.
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