A same-sex couple's decision to have a baby via IVF has caused a rift with family members. The couple used the wife's brother-in-law's sperm and the wife carried the baby to term. However, when the BIL referred to himself as the father of the child, the couple asked him to leave their home and cut all contact with him and his sister. The couple has faced criticism from family members for not allowing the BIL to have a relationship with the child, but they argue that he signed away his rights and verbally agreed to be just an uncle. The couple is struggling with the fallout and seeking advice on whether they were in the wrong. Read on for more details on this family drama.
BIL refers to himself as father of my child - AITA for kicking him out?
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Who is the real father? AITA for kicking him out?
A woman and her wife welcomed a baby through IVF using the woman's eggs and her brother-in-law's sperm. However, a year later, the brother-in-law claimed he was the father and demanded a say in the child's life. The woman kicked him out, causing a rift with her wife's family. The woman is now wondering if she was in the wrong. Read on to find out more about this complicated family situation and share your thoughts in the comments below.
Commenter empathizes with OP and warns about legal consequences. Replies discuss legal rights and previous conversations.
dragonfly825 | dragonfly825
NTA. His desire for a biological child doesn't justify his behavior. 😒
Resident-Standard526 | Resident-Standard526
Ensure legal verification to avoid custody issues. NTA. 💪
PurpleBugBull | PurpleBugBull
BIL's insensitive joke questioned, possible struggle considered. NTA.
juidal | juidal
Clearing up the confusion about the biological relationship 👶
InadLeWolf | InadLeWolf
Setting boundaries is important in all relationships 👭
somegingershavesouls | somegingershavesouls
Importance of discussing expectations & boundaries. 👍
whereisthetvchanger | whereisthetvchanger
Consulting an attorney and therapist is crucial for navigating this minefield 💪
fargoLEVY13 | fargoLEVY13
Toxic in-laws and a complicated family dynamic. 🤔 NTA.
rainbow_mak3r | rainbow_mak3r
Protecting your child's best interest - NTA. 💪
laughingsbetter | laughingsbetter
Uncle vs. Father - A battle for the title 👨👦👦
holy_roman_emperor | holy_roman_emperor
Clear boundaries set, NTA. 🚫👨👦
procrastinating_b | procrastinating_b
Support and humor in the comments - NTA
personaperplexa | personaperplexa
BIL as a father? NTA for kicking him out.
Repulsive-Worth5715 | Repulsive-Worth5715
Claiming fatherhood without contribution? Definitely NTA 👩👩👦
No_Drink8002 | No_Drink8002
Sperm donor turned father? NTA for setting boundaries. 🚫👨👦
LightningLilac | LightningLilac
Uncle or father? The fine line in co-parenting 👨🏻👦👤
PurpleWomat | PurpleWomat
Sperm donor tries to be a dad - NTA shuts him down 👍
edwadokun | edwadokun
You're not the a-hole! 🙌 Your BIL should respect your boundaries.
babirus | babirus
Providing sperm doesn't make you a father 🙅♀️ #NTA
snellk2 | snellk2
BIL and SIL are major AHs, and losing family seems right.
Mr_Ham_Man80 | Mr_Ham_Man80
BIL overstepping boundaries with child - potential legal mess. 😬
Suspicious_Ad9810 | Suspicious_Ad9810
Surprising BIL thinks he's father, but legally relinquished rights. 🤔
keesouth | keesouth
Legal advice recommended for NTA who used fertility clinic.
facko | facko
Clear boundaries were set, donor or father? 🤔
nanimal77 | nanimal77
Protect your family first! Contact a lawyer ASAP 📩
Waidawut | Waidawut
Clearing up family roles 🤝👶 NTA for kicking him out
NopeCrow | NopeCrow
Cutting off toxic family member who claims to be father 🚫
dcnowclt | dcnowclt
Homophobia disguised as fatherhood - NTA for kicking him out 🚫👨👩👧
Lulu_42 | Lulu_42
Sperm donor or not, he owes child support 💰👶
ndcollector | ndcollector
Uncle Daddy? 🤢 OP is NTA
DramaDroid | DramaDroid
Family gene obsession leads to BIL claiming fatherhood - NTA.
tomtomclubthumb | tomtomclubthumb
Legal contract needed to clarify sperm donor's role - NTA
Invisibleamber | Invisibleamber
Donor or not, he's just an uncle now! NTA! 🙅♀️
Wynterkiss | Wynterkiss
BIL claims to be father of child - NTA for kicking him out 💪
tatasz | tatasz
Prepare for the drama: the real father reveal 😱
HighLordAnnarius | HighLordAnnarius
Protecting your baby boy from unwanted legal claims - NTA 👍
CupcakeMurder86 | CupcakeMurder86
Donor tries to assert parental control - NTA shuts it down 🙅♀️
j027 | j027
Unusual family dynamics but NTA for kicking BIL out. 💪
Ellejaek | Ellejaek
BIL signed away his rights, no baby for him 🚫👶
naliedel | naliedel
Uncle turned father? 🤔 The comment and replies reveal more.
coygobbler | coygobbler
Protecting your family comes first. NTA 👏
River_Song47 | River_Song47
Chosen family is everything ❤️ Congrats to the new parents!
Squidiot_002 | Squidiot_002
BIL learns not to mess with a mama bear 🐻
NefariousnessGlum424 | NefariousnessGlum424
NTA, but beware of potential custody issues with MIL involvement 👀
iamltr | iamltr
Commenter calls out the man's behavior and supports OP. 🐓 NTA
Remdog58 | Remdog58
Uncle or Father? A family feud over parental titles.
HappiestApple | HappiestApple
Stand up for yourself and your child, NTA. 💪
loudent2 | loudent2
Heartbreaking situation with toxic in-laws - NTA for kicking out
Lopsided-Cat-5224 | Lopsided-Cat-5224
Cutting out toxic people is necessary for self-care 👌
[deleted] | [deleted]
Awkward family dynamics 🤔
TherulerT | TherulerT
Donor drama: NTA for kicking out BIL, but ironclad contract needed.
crbryant1972 | crbryant1972
Hold Bil accountable for his actions. You're NTA 🚫👨👧
woman_thorned | woman_thorned
Donor's inappropriate behavior, but good that adoptive process completed. 👍
KraftyLikeAFox | KraftyLikeAFox
🚩 Sinister vibes detected, run away from this weirdo ASAP!
ExcellentCold7354 | ExcellentCold7354
Setting surrogacy boundaries: NTA for standing up for family ❤️
Nanidewhat | Nanidewhat
Family drama over baby's father; NTA for kicking him out.
[deleted] | [deleted]
Family drama and bloodline obsession - NTA for kicking out.
Don_key_Hotea | Don_key_Hotea
Regretful BIL sparks discussion about fatherhood 👨👦
EyesWithoutAbutt | EyesWithoutAbutt
Infertility is painful. BIL is a**hole times a million. NTA.
ramtagh417 | ramtagh417
Family tree confusion leads to unexpected baby daddy drama 🤔
[deleted] | [deleted]
Donor complications and family drama - NTA for kicking out.
Fabflab98 | Fabflab98
Asserting parenthood: Commenter shuts down BIL's claims. 🙅♀️
PandaGirl2019 | PandaGirl2019
Contract signed, no father rights - NTA for kicking out.
BowTrek | BowTrek
In-laws obsessed with genetics, see wife as incubator - NTA
Candid-Ear-4840 | Candid-Ear-4840
Couple takes precautions while using brother's sperm - NTA 🧬
movelovissova | movelovissova
