BIL refers to himself as father of my child - AITA for kicking him out?

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A same-sex couple's decision to have a baby via IVF has caused a rift with family members. The couple used the wife's brother-in-law's sperm and the wife carried the baby to term. However, when the BIL referred to himself as the father of the child, the couple asked him to leave their home and cut all contact with him and his sister. The couple has faced criticism from family members for not allowing the BIL to have a relationship with the child, but they argue that he signed away his rights and verbally agreed to be just an uncle. The couple is struggling with the fallout and seeking advice on whether they were in the wrong. Read on for more details on this family drama.

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Who is the real father? AITA for kicking him out?

A woman and her wife welcomed a baby through IVF using the woman's eggs and her brother-in-law's sperm. However, a year later, the brother-in-law claimed he was the father and demanded a say in the child's life. The woman kicked him out, causing a rift with her wife's family. The woman is now wondering if she was in the wrong. Read on to find out more about this complicated family situation and share your thoughts in the comments below.

Commenter empathizes with OP and warns about legal consequences. Replies discuss legal rights and previous conversations.

dragonfly825 | dragonfly825

NTA. His desire for a biological child doesn't justify his behavior. 😒

Resident-Standard526 | Resident-Standard526

Ensure legal verification to avoid custody issues. NTA. 💪

PurpleBugBull | PurpleBugBull

BIL's insensitive joke questioned, possible struggle considered. NTA.

juidal | juidal

Clearing up the confusion about the biological relationship 👶

InadLeWolf | InadLeWolf

Setting boundaries is important in all relationships 👭

somegingershavesouls | somegingershavesouls

Importance of discussing expectations & boundaries. 👍

whereisthetvchanger | whereisthetvchanger

Consulting an attorney and therapist is crucial for navigating this minefield 💪

fargoLEVY13 | fargoLEVY13

Toxic in-laws and a complicated family dynamic. 🤔 NTA.

rainbow_mak3r | rainbow_mak3r

Protecting your child's best interest - NTA. 💪

laughingsbetter | laughingsbetter

Uncle vs. Father - A battle for the title 👨‍👦‍👦

holy_roman_emperor | holy_roman_emperor

Clear boundaries set, NTA. 🚫👨‍👦

procrastinating_b | procrastinating_b

Support and humor in the comments - NTA

personaperplexa | personaperplexa

BIL as a father? NTA for kicking him out.

Repulsive-Worth5715 | Repulsive-Worth5715

Claiming fatherhood without contribution? Definitely NTA 👩‍👩‍👦

No_Drink8002 | No_Drink8002

Sperm donor turned father? NTA for setting boundaries. 🚫👨‍👦

LightningLilac | LightningLilac

Uncle or father? The fine line in co-parenting 👨🏻‍👦👤

PurpleWomat | PurpleWomat

Sperm donor tries to be a dad - NTA shuts him down 👍

edwadokun | edwadokun

You're not the a-hole! 🙌 Your BIL should respect your boundaries.

babirus | babirus

Providing sperm doesn't make you a father 🙅‍♀️ #NTA

snellk2 | snellk2

BIL and SIL are major AHs, and losing family seems right.

Mr_Ham_Man80 | Mr_Ham_Man80

BIL overstepping boundaries with child - potential legal mess. 😬

Suspicious_Ad9810 | Suspicious_Ad9810

Surprising BIL thinks he's father, but legally relinquished rights. 🤔

keesouth | keesouth

Legal advice recommended for NTA who used fertility clinic.

facko | facko

Clear boundaries were set, donor or father? 🤔

nanimal77 | nanimal77

Protect your family first! Contact a lawyer ASAP 📩

Waidawut | Waidawut

Clearing up family roles 🤝👶 NTA for kicking him out

NopeCrow | NopeCrow

Cutting off toxic family member who claims to be father 🚫

dcnowclt | dcnowclt

Homophobia disguised as fatherhood - NTA for kicking him out 🚫👨‍👩‍👧

Lulu_42 | Lulu_42

Sperm donor or not, he owes child support 💰👶

ndcollector | ndcollector

Uncle Daddy? 🤢 OP is NTA

DramaDroid | DramaDroid

Family gene obsession leads to BIL claiming fatherhood - NTA.

tomtomclubthumb | tomtomclubthumb

Legal contract needed to clarify sperm donor's role - NTA

Invisibleamber | Invisibleamber

Donor or not, he's just an uncle now! NTA! 🙅‍♀️

Wynterkiss | Wynterkiss

BIL claims to be father of child - NTA for kicking him out 💪

tatasz | tatasz

Prepare for the drama: the real father reveal 😱

HighLordAnnarius | HighLordAnnarius

Protecting your baby boy from unwanted legal claims - NTA 👍

CupcakeMurder86 | CupcakeMurder86

Donor tries to assert parental control - NTA shuts it down 🙅‍♀️

j027 | j027

Unusual family dynamics but NTA for kicking BIL out. 💪

Ellejaek | Ellejaek

BIL signed away his rights, no baby for him 🚫👶

naliedel | naliedel

Uncle turned father? 🤔 The comment and replies reveal more.

coygobbler | coygobbler

Protecting your family comes first. NTA 👏

River_Song47 | River_Song47

Chosen family is everything ❤️ Congrats to the new parents!

Squidiot_002 | Squidiot_002

BIL learns not to mess with a mama bear 🐻

NefariousnessGlum424 | NefariousnessGlum424

NTA, but beware of potential custody issues with MIL involvement 👀

iamltr | iamltr

Commenter calls out the man's behavior and supports OP. 🐓 NTA

Remdog58 | Remdog58

Uncle or Father? A family feud over parental titles.

HappiestApple | HappiestApple

Stand up for yourself and your child, NTA. 💪

loudent2 | loudent2

Heartbreaking situation with toxic in-laws - NTA for kicking out

Lopsided-Cat-5224 | Lopsided-Cat-5224

Cutting out toxic people is necessary for self-care 👌

[deleted] | [deleted]

Awkward family dynamics 🤔

TherulerT | TherulerT

Donor drama: NTA for kicking out BIL, but ironclad contract needed.

crbryant1972 | crbryant1972

Hold Bil accountable for his actions. You're NTA 🚫👨‍👧

woman_thorned | woman_thorned

Donor's inappropriate behavior, but good that adoptive process completed. 👍

KraftyLikeAFox | KraftyLikeAFox

🚩 Sinister vibes detected, run away from this weirdo ASAP!

ExcellentCold7354 | ExcellentCold7354

Setting surrogacy boundaries: NTA for standing up for family ❤️

Nanidewhat | Nanidewhat

Family drama over baby's father; NTA for kicking him out.

[deleted] | [deleted]

Family drama and bloodline obsession - NTA for kicking out.

Don_key_Hotea | Don_key_Hotea

Regretful BIL sparks discussion about fatherhood 👨‍👦

EyesWithoutAbutt | EyesWithoutAbutt

Infertility is painful. BIL is a**hole times a million. NTA.

ramtagh417 | ramtagh417

Family tree confusion leads to unexpected baby daddy drama 🤔

[deleted] | [deleted]

Donor complications and family drama - NTA for kicking out.

Fabflab98 | Fabflab98

Asserting parenthood: Commenter shuts down BIL's claims. 🙅‍♀️

PandaGirl2019 | PandaGirl2019

Contract signed, no father rights - NTA for kicking out.

BowTrek | BowTrek

In-laws obsessed with genetics, see wife as incubator - NTA

Candid-Ear-4840 | Candid-Ear-4840

Couple takes precautions while using brother's sperm - NTA 🧬

movelovissova | movelovissova