Man refuses to help wife's struggling parents and laughs at her request

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A man is facing backlash after refusing to help his wife's struggling parents and laughing at her request. The couple had a rocky start to their marriage due to her father disapproving of him and forcing a prenup. When his wife asked him to contribute money to pay off her parents' house and send them on a vacation, he laughed and cited their past behavior towards him. The wife's sisters confronted him, but he refused to budge. While his parents think he may have been an a**hole for laughing, he believes he doesn't owe his in-laws anything.

Sister's success puts pressure on wife to support struggling parents.

hardhead101 | hardhead101

Struggling to make ends meet while in a relationship?

hardhead101 | hardhead101

Husband avoids in-laws, leaving wife to deal with strained relationship.

hardhead101 | hardhead101

Struggling in-laws need help after bad investments and losses.

hardhead101 | hardhead101

Daughters surprise parents with dream retirement; heartwarming gesture ❤️

hardhead101 | hardhead101

Sisters split 10K responsibility but wife asks for 8K more 💸

hardhead101 | hardhead101

Man refuses to help in-laws, laughs at wife's request 😂

hardhead101 | hardhead101

Man refuses to help wife's struggling parents 😠

hardhead101 | hardhead101

Man refuses to help wife's struggling parents causing family drama 💸

hardhead101 | hardhead101

In-laws leeching off husband and wife, refusing to help. 💸

hardhead101 | hardhead101

Man denies wife's request for help with her struggling parents.

hardhead101 | hardhead101

Husband refuses to help struggling in-laws despite his own privilege 🤷

hardhead101 | hardhead101

Husband refuses to help wife's parents and laughs at request 😬

hardhead101 | hardhead101

Ignoring in-laws during holidays after business success - 🤷‍♂️

hardhead101 | hardhead101

Man refuses to help wife's struggling parents and is called out by her sisters

When a couple gets married, the expectation is that they become one unit and share everything. However, for this man (32M) and his wife (33F), separate finances have been the norm. Allie's parents have never approved of their marriage and even forced her to sign a prenup. Now, her parents are struggling financially and her sisters have come up with a plan to help them out. But when Allie asked her husband for help, he laughed at her request. This has caused tension between them and led to a heated argument on a zoom call with her sisters. While the man believes he is not in the wrong, is his refusal to help his wife's family a sign of a deeper issue in their marriage? Let's dive into the comments and see what others have to say about this situation.

NTA for refusing to financially bail out toxic in-laws.

sqibbery | sqibbery

Commenter laughs at wife's request to help her parents.

grooviusmaximus | grooviusmaximus

OP is NTA for refusing to give money to in-laws, but laughing at wife's request is not cool. However, wife also needs to apologize since she chose him with conditions set by her father and allowed her family to treat him poorly.

Basic_Marsupial_918 | Basic_Marsupial_918

Commenter calls out husband's resentment towards wife's family.

meowingtonsmistress | meowingtonsmistress

Man refuses to help wife's parents and laughs, commenters divided 😬

Kaiser93 | Kaiser93

Commenters question the foundation of OP's marriage and respect for each other.

ben_burnache | ben_burnache

NTA for refusing in-laws' request for money, but laughing was unnecessary 😬

HunterDangerous1366 | HunterDangerous1366

A husband laughed at his wife's request to help her struggling parents, causing her to feel embarrassed and guilty. Some commenters disagree with her actions, but others sympathize with her and offer advice.

steeveebeemuse | steeveebeemuse

Laughing at wife's request, but considering the impact on marriage. ESH.

spunkyfuzzguts | spunkyfuzzguts

Financial independence leads to laughter at wife's request. NTA.

Slugdirt | Slugdirt

OP's spiteful behavior towards wife's family is repulsive 🤢

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Sisters to the rescue! 💰

Anewstageinlife | Anewstageinlife

Don't let anyone guilt you into giving money 💰

Dangerous_Leek_5754 | Dangerous_Leek_5754

👍NTA. Laughing at an absurd request is a natural reaction.

[deleted] | [deleted]

Standing up to in-laws: NTA for refusing $8k gift 💸

Unit-Healthy | Unit-Healthy

Commenter celebrates karma with a puppy-filled reply 🐶

sickofdriving007 | sickofdriving007

Paying off the house makes sense, but a vacation doesn't 💸✈️


Husband refuses to help wife's parents despite her request. NTA.

BLUEStarr1982 | BLUEStarr1982

Commenter suggests marriage counseling and advice on prenup.

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Man laughs at wife's request to help struggling parents.

JimDixon | JimDixon

Man refuses wife's family help, laughs at her request. Soft YTA.

caz__z | caz__z

Unwilling to help in-laws, but don't be too harsh on spouse 😬

PomeloPepper | PomeloPepper

NTA. Consider asking sisters' husbands' friends. In-laws should grovel.

ndcollector | ndcollector

Commenter questions toxic relationship dynamics with ESH judgement 😕

EhDub13 | EhDub13

Commenter justifies not helping wife's parents, suggests karma will prevail

DepressedPop | DepressedPop

Laughing off a silly joke, but refusing to help family. 😅💰

AllyAddams | AllyAddams

Commenter calls out biased and emotional take on husband's refusal to lend money to wife's parents.

GroundbreakingRub644 | GroundbreakingRub644

Respecting personal finances. 💰

Early_Prompt6396 | Early_Prompt6396

Reflect on your behavior, ESH. Don't hold grudges 💭

kmcc12345 | kmcc12345

Navigating financial responsibilities with in-laws 😬💰

WorsePartOfValor | WorsePartOfValor

NTA stands up against wife's entitled family, receives unreasonable request.

Beautiful_mistakes | Beautiful_mistakes

Supporting in-laws can be tough 😬

toolittleluck | toolittleluck

Generous or Greedy? The debate on helping in-laws.

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Boundaries crossed, lazy sisters should help. Marriage at risk. 💔

NickMullensMustache | NickMullensMustache

Laughing at a ridiculous request from horrible in-laws 😂

AveryAverina | AveryAverina

Commenter questions OP's love for his wife. 😬

TheSavageBallet | TheSavageBallet

Stand your ground and don't give into entitled in-laws. 💪

CraigBybee | CraigBybee

Don't be a doormat, stand up for yourself! 💪

kittykatvegas13 | kittykatvegas13

Karma is a b*tch 🤷‍♂️

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Commenter calls out post author's disgust for wife's situation 💔

delalunes | delalunes

Standing up for yourself in a dysfunctional family 👏

0bxyz | 0bxyz

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