Man Treats Daughter-in-Law Like a Child Over Messiness

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Living with family can be tough, especially when it comes to different household rules. One retired army vet found himself at odds with his daughter-in-law over her messy habits. After trying to handle the situation privately and getting excuses from his son, he took matters into his own hands.

But was his drastic action justified? Click to read the full story and weigh in with your opinion.

Retired army man struggles with daughter-in-law's messiness 🤔

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Debate over clutter: Father-in-law vs daughter-in-law 🤔

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When messiness becomes a daily eyesore 😒

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Father-in-law struggles to deal with daughter-in-law's messiness 🤔

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Father-in-law takes drastic action over daughter-in-law's messiness 🤔

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Father-in-law's extreme parenting style backfires with daughter-in-law 🤦

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Father-in-law throws out daughter-in-law's belongings over cleanliness 🚮

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Father-in-law humiliates daughter-in-law over cleanliness. 😔

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Father-in-law's strict rules cause daughter-in-law to cry

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Daughter-in-law avoids mess but tension grows with father-in-law 👀

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Retired army dad treats daughter-in-law like a child over messiness 🏠

A retired army dad is having trouble dealing with his daughter-in-law's messiness during her stay at their home. He has a certain set of standards that he expects to be followed by everyone in his home, even guests. Although he tried handling it privately with his son, he ended up taking matters into his own hands and threw out his daughter-in-law's belongings to show how serious he was.

Although the daughter-in-law apologized, there is now an awkwardness in the house. Read on to see what people have to say about this situation.

OP's unreasonable standards and invasion of privacy make them TA 🤨

unusualteapot | unusualteapot

Guest bathroom mess turns into a six-hour staring contest 😳

DogsReadingBooks | DogsReadingBooks

YTA snoops and throws DIL's stuff outside, gets called out 🤦‍♂️

Special-Attitude-242 | Special-Attitude-242

Commenter shares personal experience with similar oppressive behavior 🤢

jc05011906 | jc05011906

Father-in-law traumatizes daughter-in-law and lacks empathy. YTA 💩

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Former military father-in-law criticized for treating adults like children 🙅‍♂️

Dehydrated-Merkin | Dehydrated-Merkin

Commenter calls out OP's behavior, highlighting the impossibility of their standards. Replies reinforce the problematic nature of their actions.

Pretty_Pen4851 | Pretty_Pen4851

Father-in-law's actions towards daughter-in-law are unforgivable. YTA.

epostiler | epostiler

OP's controlling behavior and invasion of privacy is unacceptable 🚫

livelymonstera | livelymonstera

A father-in-law shames his daughter-in-law over a non-existent mess 💩

Hello_Gorgeous1985 | Hello_Gorgeous1985

Former military father-in-law's intimidating behavior - YTA 🤨

modus--operandi | modus--operandi

FIL invades DIL's privacy, throws away personal items. YTA 👎

Spellscribe | Spellscribe

Don't be a control freak 🙅🏻‍♂️. Respect others' privacy 🚪

AmandaMarsh | AmandaMarsh

Controlling father-in-law nitpicks about makeup in guest bathroom. YTA. 💄

ConferenceDecent4222 | ConferenceDecent4222

Father-in-law crosses boundaries, violates privacy 😳

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Father-in-law's condescending behavior gets called out. YTA 🤨

RazorRamonReigns | RazorRamonReigns

Father-in-law oversteps boundaries and sparks PTSD in daughter-in-law. YTA 😡

BooBob69 | BooBob69

Father-in-law accused of being a perv for inspecting clothes 🤢

dragonfly_c | dragonfly_c

OP invades DIL's privacy and gets called out. YTA 🤨

Reasonable_Cookie206 | Reasonable_Cookie206

Father-in-law's controlling behavior damages relationship with daughter-in-law.

Monstiemama | Monstiemama

Guest calls out father-in-law's behavior as immature and rude.

Not_really1010 | Not_really1010

Retired Army commenter calls out CSM's behavior. YTA.

ambersloves | ambersloves

Insensitive treatment of daughter-in-law's belongings. YTA.

Next-Hippo1360 | Next-Hippo1360

Commenter calls out controlling behavior of father-in-law 👏

Interesting-Lobster8 | Interesting-Lobster8

DiL's messiness sparks control issues, YTA, abusive behavior. 💥

needyourchanclas | needyourchanclas

YTA for treating your DIL like a child and touching her personal belongings 🙅‍♂️

Khunm | Khunm

Father-in-law disrespects daughter-in-law's belongings, called out as YTA.

dblfistedfuschia | dblfistedfuschia

Insensitive father-in-law gets called out for his inconsiderate behavior 😡

antenir | antenir

Insensitive father-in-law triggers trauma, YTA 🤬💔

Far-Application-858 | Far-Application-858

Red-faced YTA dad expects daughter-in-law to salute him 🤦‍♂️

Zibellina | Zibellina

Father-in-law's invasive and disrespectful behavior towards DIL is unacceptable 🚫

BaffledMum | BaffledMum

Man's obsession with cleanliness causes distress to daughter-in-law. YTA.

thunderstrike23 | thunderstrike23

Man's treatment of DIL reflects deeply-rooted issues. YTA 🤔

RocketteP | RocketteP

Don't invade their privacy and play the parent. YTA. 🙅‍♂️

AliceInWeirdoland | AliceInWeirdoland

Retired army man treats daughter-in-law like trash over messiness 😠

emmytay4504 | emmytay4504

Insensitive father-in-law causes trauma for foster child. 💔

Potatosmom94 | Potatosmom94

Commenter calls out OP for overreacting to messiness 🙄

juiceboxfriend95 | juiceboxfriend95

OP's cruel treatment of foster child daughter-in-law 😩

fucktheroses | fucktheroses

Treating your daughter-in-law like a child could cost you everything 😨

Disastrous_Name161 | Disastrous_Name161

YTA! Daughter-in-law's messiness doesn't justify treating her like trash 🗑️

mtbgravelgirl | mtbgravelgirl

Don't be a controlling parent-in-law 👀✋

AnarchyAcid | AnarchyAcid

Father-in-law's invasive behavior traumatizes daughter-in-law - NTA

Acceptable_Grape6863 | Acceptable_Grape6863

Control over messiness traumatized foster youth. YTA 😡

Top_Detective9184 | Top_Detective9184

Insensitive behavior towards foster care victim. YTA 🤨

EyCeeDedPpl | EyCeeDedPpl

Don't let clutter ruin your relationship with your family 👪

MrsMcPoyle | MrsMcPoyle

Father-in-law crosses the line, touches daughter-in-law's possessions. Big YTA.

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Putting DIL's belongings in trash bags was traumatic and cowardly 😡

GemGem04 | GemGem04

Don't be an a**hole, respect your guest's privacy 🚪👩‍👧‍👦

Similar-Event8325 | Similar-Event8325

Overbearing father-in-law receives rightful criticism for creepy behavior 👀

Comfortable_Dot_150 | Comfortable_Dot_150

Man treats daughter-in-law like a child over messiness 😡

Glittering_Act_4059 | Glittering_Act_4059

YTA man, give people privacy and respect. Apologize and relax 😐

InnominatamNomad | InnominatamNomad