19F Refuses to Be a Free Nanny for Little Brother During Uni Orientation Week

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A 19-year-old girl is feeling overwhelmed by the responsibility of looking after her 5-year-old brother. With the start of university, she has her hands full with a packed schedule for orientation week. However, her parents expect her to take care of her little brother, even though she has important commitments. The girl has tried to reason with her parents, but they have gotten angry with her and even threatened to cut her off. The girl is questioning whether she is in the wrong and has turned to the internet for judgment. What do you think? Is she the a**hole for refusing to take care of her little brother, or are her parents in the wrong for expecting too much of her? Share your thoughts in the comments below.

Clarifying the confusion: 19F updates on brother's orientation week

thickfish5054 | thickfish5054

Independent 19F refuses to nanny brother during uni orientation week

thickfish5054 | thickfish5054

Standing up for myself to avoid being a free nanny 👊

thickfish5054 | thickfish5054

Grandma saves the day, 19F gets paid to babysit👵💰

thickfish5054 | thickfish5054

Setting boundaries with family during uni orientation week. 🚫👶

thickfish5054 | thickfish5054

Taking a break from babysitting for some much-needed space 🧘

thickfish5054 | thickfish5054

Breaking free from the nanny role for my little brother 🚀

thickfish5054 | thickfish5054

Struggling to balance university and family responsibilities with parents' expectations

thickfish5054 | thickfish5054

Independent 19-year-old takes charge of own life 🙌

thickfish5054 | thickfish5054

Getting own place for uni orientation week, excited to socialize 🎉

thickfish5054 | thickfish5054

No time for babysitting little brother during important orientation week 📚

thickfish5054 | thickfish5054

Overwhelmed 19F expected to babysit little brother during busy week

thickfish5054 | thickfish5054

19F offers to take brother to daycare during busy uni week 💼

thickfish5054 | thickfish5054

19F can't babysit little brother during uni orientation week 😔

thickfish5054 | thickfish5054

Struggling with demanding parents during orientation week 🙄

thickfish5054 | thickfish5054

Unpaid nanny for little brother during uni orientation week. AITA?

thickfish5054 | thickfish5054

19F stands up to parents, refuses to be free nanny during uni orientation week 💪

A 19-year-old girl, who has been expected to look after her 5-year-old brother since birth, stood up to her parents who demanded she is a free nanny during the crucial orientation week for her university. Despite her parent's disapproval, she refuses to sacrifice the opportunity to make new friends and get important information by prioritizing her brother over herself. After seeking advice from her grandma, who was on her side, she called her mom to explain that the situation doesn't feel fair to her. Her grandma then talked to her mom and told her off, which led to her mom apologizing to her. The grandma is now coming to take care of the brother, and the girl agreed to help whenever she has time and is getting paid as well. While she doesn't want to completely cut off ties with her parents, she thinks it's best to go low contact for a while until things settle. The girl's story raises questions about the burden of responsibility on older siblings and the importance of setting boundaries with parents. Stay tuned for reactions and advice from the Reddit community.

Standing up against misogyny and parentification. NTA. 👏

Low_Engineering8921 | Low_Engineering8921

Don't miss Orientation week, it's crucial for making friends and networking! NTA

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Scapegoated for being female? NTA for refusing free babysitting 🚫👶

Sirenaide | Sirenaide

Sibling responsibilities shouldn't interfere with your own plans 🙅‍♀️

Kris82868 | Kris82868

Don't let gender stereotypes hold you back from focusing on school 💪

aceinthewest | aceinthewest

NTA - 17yo brother should take responsibility. Parents need to hire help.

aethercandace | aethercandace

NTA. The parents shouldn't rely on the daughter to raise their kid. 💪

Angry_poutine | Angry_poutine

Don't let them sabotage your studies! Put yourself first! 💪

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Financially independent 19F stands up to entitled parents during uni.

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Focus on university, not free babysitting. You're NTA 👍

mm172 | mm172

You're not the parent, and you're not the nanny 🙅‍♀️

El-Catman | El-Catman

No free nanny service for entitled parents 🚫👶

SaikaTheCasual | SaikaTheCasual

Stand up for yourself and live your life. #NotTheA**hole 💪

TinaMonday | TinaMonday

Don't let your parents ruin your pivotal moment 🎓👨‍👨‍👦 #NTA

riley125 | riley125

Don't be a free nanny, prioritize your uni 👍

AJRimmer1971 | AJRimmer1971

Supportive reply emphasizes independence and resilience of comment author 🙌

chuckinhoutex | chuckinhoutex

Taking care of their baby is not your responsibility 🙅‍♀️

DonDamondo | DonDamondo

Cutting off free babysitting for ungrateful people. 🚫

WavesnMountains | WavesnMountains

Don't be a free nanny for your little brother, focus on uni 📚

Designer_Database718 | Designer_Database718

Stand your ground and prioritize your education! 📚 NTA

Affectionate_Ice_658 | Affectionate_Ice_658

Supportive comment section for OP taking autonomy from terrible parents.

Eliyrian | Eliyrian

Siblings should help each other but not at any cost 😌

DogsReadingBooks | DogsReadingBooks

Stand your ground 🙅‍♀️! You're not responsible for their kids 👶.

Ok-Abbreviations4510 | Ok-Abbreviations4510

Prioritizing education over babysitting is reasonable. #NTA 👏


Don't let them take advantage of you. You're NTA 👍

GonnaBeOverIt | GonnaBeOverIt

You're not obligated to babysit 🚫

National-Zombie3303 | National-Zombie3303

Prioritize self-care, NTA for not being a free nanny 💪

Kashaya72 | Kashaya72

You're not a free nanny, NTA 👍

Chelular07 | Chelular07

Put yourself first and go to orientation week, NTA! 💪

Mysticstorms | Mysticstorms

Setting boundaries is important. 👍

Mabelisms | Mabelisms

Standing up against parentification. Not the a**hole! 🙌

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Don't let anyone hold you back. 🚫👶 Have fun in uni!

raraarrara | raraarrara

Consider financial situation before refusing family help. 💰

basroil | basroil

Don't let your parents make you a free babysitter 👍

Prestigious_Panda811 | Prestigious_Panda811

Stand up for yourself! You're not a free nanny 🙅‍♀️

Mellamar47 | Mellamar47

OP is already prepared to support themselves. NTA 👍

VerySurlyPerson | VerySurlyPerson

Sibling refuses to babysit, suggests extreme measures. 🤔

Separate-Yesterday74 | Separate-Yesterday74

Stand up for yourself and prioritize your own life! 💪🏼

ughneedausername | ughneedausername

Boundaries are important! 💪 Stand firm and focus on yourself.

DuctTape_OnFleek | DuctTape_OnFleek

Stand your ground! Your education is important, not free childcare. 💪

LargeCondition8108 | LargeCondition8108

Don't let them guilt trip you. Stick to your schedule! 💪

DaveyQueen | DaveyQueen

You're right, NTA! 🙌 Independence awaits, good luck! 👍

Floriane007 | Floriane007

Focus on your future, not being a free nanny. NTA 💪

glamourcrow | glamourcrow

Uni comes first 🎓. Siblings aren't your responsibility.

Mishy162 | Mishy162

Parenting responsibilities should not fall solely on older siblings 🙅‍♀️

No-Locksmith-8590 | No-Locksmith-8590

Asserting boundaries against family isn't easy, but necessary. 👏

ThinConsideration948 | ThinConsideration948

Live your life! 🎉 Your little brother, your responsibility? Nah. NTA.

Icy-Access-4808 | Icy-Access-4808

You go girl! 💪 Stand your ground and don't be the free help! NTA

Budget_University_56 | Budget_University_56

Sibling duty or not? Commenter says NTA 👍

Total-Hour-4445 | Total-Hour-4445

Little brother is not a baby 🍼. You're NTA 🙌

bizianka | bizianka

College isn't a free pass to be a nanny. NTA 👏

slendermanismydad | slendermanismydad

Breaking free from gender roles. 👧🏽👊🏽

grumpycoffeee | grumpycoffeee

Sibling responsibilities should not interfere with your studies 📚👩‍🎓

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Moving out: the best decision for this NTA sibling 🚶‍♀️

usenamessuckass | usenamessuckass

Avoid being a free nanny by staying away overnight. NTA 😊

JBB2002902 | JBB2002902

Putting career first over parenting? Not cool. 🤔

angethorp | angethorp

Sibling responsibility debate: commenter supports poster's decision, NTA.

WizardOfTheMacabre | WizardOfTheMacabre

Sibling forced to be nanny for younger sibling, not the parent. NTA 💪

Scared-March7443 | Scared-March7443