Husband Suggests Wife Needs Therapy To Be The Mom Their Kids Deserve

Alfe Mercado
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Raising kids is tough, but when one parent's past affects their parenting, it can be even more challenging. In this post, a concerned husband shares how his wife's past impacts their children's upbringing. He suggests that she needs therapy to become the mom their kids deserve, but his wife isn't talking to him now. Was he in the wrong? Reddit users weigh in on this controversial topic. Read to learn more.

A husband reflects on his wife's difficult upbringing and parenting style.

heyinlar | heyinlar

Husband pressures wife into parenting, ignoring daughters' interests. 🤷

heyinlar | heyinlar

Helping a child with anxiety in social situations can be tough 😔

heyinlar | heyinlar

Birthday party plans backfire when daughter refuses to participate 🎉🚫

heyinlar | heyinlar

Husband belittles wife's concern about their kids' childhood choices.

heyinlar | heyinlar

Husband suggests therapy for wife to be a better mom

heyinlar | heyinlar

Did he cross a line? AITA for suggesting therapy? 🤔

heyinlar | heyinlar

👩‍👧‍👧Husband suggests wife get therapy to be the mom their kids deserve

A husband is seeking advice on whether he overstepped by suggesting that his wife needs therapy to be the mom their kids deserve. The wife had a rough childhood, so she overcompensates by trying to give their daughters the childhood she never had. However, the husband is concerned that his wife is not allowing their daughters to have the childhood they want. The oldest daughter has severe anxiety and hates crowds, but the wife insisted on having a birthday party that made her very uncomfortable. The husband suggested that the wife needs therapy to be the best mom for their daughters. Have you been in a similar situation? Share your thoughts and experiences in the comments below.

NTA, Wife needs therapy to heal from childhood trauma affecting kids.

mandirahman | mandirahman

Wife's overcompensation for her poor childhood is hurting the kids. NTA.

mahalnamahal | mahalnamahal

NTA poster and others share their traumatic experiences with controlling parents.

dvltwrst4r | dvltwrst4r

Wife's overcompensating behavior may be abusive, therapy is needed ASAP.

FervidusThespis | FervidusThespis

Father seeks advice on how to protect his anxious daughter from wife's torment. Replies show empathy and understanding for the daughter's situation.

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Commenter suggests therapy for wife's unhealthy behavior towards kids.

minizookeeper | minizookeeper

NTA. Addressing parenting issues for the sake of the children 🧒👧

czechtheboxes | czechtheboxes

Empathetic comment suggests therapy for wife to be a better mom. 👍

Doris_Useless | Doris_Useless

Childhood trauma can affect parenting, therapy could help. NAH.

emeraldpeach | emeraldpeach

Toxic parenting cycle continues, daughter unhappy and unimportant. 😢

EatButterflies | EatButterflies

Daughter forced into dance supports NTA's stance on therapy.

TerrifiedSquid | TerrifiedSquid

Don't project past trauma onto your kids. NTA.

newaxcounr | newaxcounr

Husband suggests wife needs therapy for vicariously living through kids 😕

maddiewwyhfrr | maddiewwyhfrr

Commenter shares personal experience, advises therapy for wife ASAP 💔

RabidHowler91 | RabidHowler91

Parenting is a tough job, but ignoring your children isn't right. 🤔

kmn053 | kmn053

Therapy for everyone! NTA needs to explain mom's actions. 😊

crowwishbone | crowwishbone

NTA stands up for his daughters' well-being 💪

Key-Tensio | Key-Tensio

Encourage empathy and support when suggesting therapy to your partner ❤️

what-no-potatoes | what-no-potatoes

Encouraging support for standing up to spouse's harmful behavior. 👍

DorKQu33n | DorKQu33n

Liberating to mute toxic parent. Wife needs therapy to change.

glittery_grandma | glittery_grandma

Both partners working on self-improvement 💪👩‍❤️‍👨

Randomnamechoice123 | Randomnamechoice123

Parenting expectations vs. reality. Kids are humans, not props. ✨

SwiggyBloodlust | SwiggyBloodlust

Putting kids first is tough, but therapy can benefit all. 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦

Ohlalavoila | Ohlalavoila

Encouraging comment suggests therapy for wife to improve parenting skills.

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NTA commenter advises therapy for wife prioritizing ideal childhood over kids

ScarShayde | ScarShayde

Be mindful of your words when suggesting therapy. 💬

Gweebis | Gweebis

A heartwarming suggestion to heal the wife's childhood traumas 💕

embinksyy | embinksyy

Encouraging response to tough parenting decision. 👍

catzrob89 | catzrob89

Prioritizing emotional health in parenting, not being the a**hole

Zhoenish | Zhoenish

Navigating differences in parenting values with empathy and patience 😌

SterlingVapor | SterlingVapor

Demanding help for a loved one's flaws is tough 💪

Ian_Dima | Ian_Dima

Encouraging comment about prioritizing children's desires over parents' dreams.

bearbear407 | bearbear407

Breaking the cycle of abuse: NTA suggests therapy for wife.

misfitx | misfitx

Husband suggests therapy for wife's parenting, commenters agree but criticize approach 😬

SpitDontQuit | SpitDontQuit

A fair critique with a hurtful end. 🤔

ShadowsObserver | ShadowsObserver

Supportive husband gets praise for tough love parenting approach ❤️

freyja-sov | freyja-sov

Prioritizing your kids' well-being is important. Therapy can help. 💪

VaxYourDamnKid | VaxYourDamnKid

Parental overcompensation can be harmful in the long run 😕

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Encouraging NTA comment suggests therapy could help wife understand her behavior

KipsyCakes | KipsyCakes

Suggesting family therapy is a great idea! 👍

Frivolous-Sal | Frivolous-Sal

Husband's comment hurt wife, but both resort to emotional abuse. ESH.

CommanderOfCheese45 | CommanderOfCheese45

Navigating motherhood can be tough 😢

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Breaking the cycle: NTA suggests therapy for wife's childhood trauma 👪💔

Dotfromkansas | Dotfromkansas

Wife's childhood obsession could harm the kids. NTA.

Hoplite68 | Hoplite68

Supportive comment applauds tough decision for family's well-being 👏

SandrineSmiles | SandrineSmiles

Commenter calls out bad parenting, suggests therapy for delusional mom 💁‍♀️

dart1126 | dart1126

Breaking the cycle of abuse is difficult, therapy helps. NTA!

LizzyrdCE | LizzyrdCE

NTA comment praises husband's suggestion for wife's parenting skills 👍

Th3Poetess | Th3Poetess

Overbearing parenting can lead to resentment. NTA for suggesting therapy.

gna7103 | gna7103

Wife gets validation for not needing therapy to be mom 👍

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Encouraging empathy and self-reflection, a refreshing NTA comment.

antipetpeeves | antipetpeeves

Child of similar situation warns wife of consequences. 😔

diemsdeviant | diemsdeviant

Parenting or living vicariously? 🤔 NTA.

Fancy_String05 | Fancy_String05

Encourage self-care and fun activities, NTA comment suggests 🎉

redwynter | redwynter

NTA comment gets backlash: 'Seriously? Bit strong' 🤔

ObamaGuava | ObamaGuava

Husband's good intentions met with poor communication skills. YTA.

Fantastic-Fortune-13 | Fantastic-Fortune-13

Child of emotionally unavailable parent supports husband's therapy suggestion 💡👍

microbewhisperer | microbewhisperer

Encouraging therapy for better parenting. 💆‍♀️💆‍♂️

Headup31 | Headup31

Not the a**hole for prioritizing therapy for good parenting 👏

jfcfanfic | jfcfanfic

Let your kids have a happy childhood. NTA 👍

floss147 | floss147

Understanding and accommodating a child's needs, NTA recommends therapy.

brazentory | brazentory

Prioritizing your own enjoyment over your child's feelings is cruel 😔

JournalisticDisaster | JournalisticDisaster

Commenter is not the a**hole for suggesting therapy.

Curtisziraa | Curtisziraa

NTA, but wife needs therapy to be a better mom 😕

poyorick | poyorick

Valuable wake-up call for wife's parenting. NTA.

WonderingWaffle | WonderingWaffle

NTA. Communication is key in raising kids 👍

StillNotaHampster | StillNotaHampster

Letting kids be themselves is key to good parenting 👍

littlegreenapples | littlegreenapples

Wife needs therapy for living vicariously through kids. NTA.

candles_0904 | candles_0904

Empathetic reply to NTA's personal experience with similar situation.

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Protect your kids and get therapy for yourself and daughter 💪

GirlDwight | GirlDwight

Husband's honest feedback hurts wife, needs support and patience ❤️

Momma_tried378 | Momma_tried378

Support for husband's tough love approach to parenting. 🙌

BeyondCautious | BeyondCautious

Parenting criticisms escalate to therapy suggestion; YTA for approach 🔥

Viener-Schnitzel | Viener-Schnitzel

Breaking the cycle of trauma with unconditional love ❤

Pinky_Pinneapple | Pinky_Pinneapple