Mom Tells Teen She Can’t Go to Dance, Needs Her to Babysit Autistic Brother

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A mother finds herself in a tough spot when her teen daughter wants to attend a school dance on the same night that her severely autistic brother needs to be babysat. With no other options available, the mother asks her daughter to make a small sacrifice for the family and stay home to take care of her brother. But when the daughter refuses and becomes upset, the mother questions if she's in the wrong. What do you think? Is the mother being unreasonable, or is the daughter being selfish? Join the discussion on this AITA post.

Teen forced to babysit autistic brother instead of going to dance.

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Teen upset she can't go to dance due to babysitting duties 😢

A mom is facing backlash after telling her daughter she can't attend a Halloween dance to babysit her severely autistic brother while the family goes on an overnight trip. The daughter, Bindi, was upset and expressed frustration that her sister Ava couldn't help with babysitting due to her recent surgery. Despite the backlash, the mom stands by her decision and hopes to make it up to Bindi in the future.

This situation raises questions about the challenges of caregiving for special needs children and the sacrifices that come with it. In the comments section, many are debating whether the mom was in the wrong for expecting Bindi to sacrifice her plans for family needs or if Bindi needs to learn the importance of being there for her brother. What do you think? Share your thoughts below.

OP wants daughter to sacrifice high school dance for her trip. YTA

AllOutofFs | AllOutofFs

Leaving a 17-year-old alone with a nonverbal 9-year-old? YTA 🤦‍♀️

sheramom4 | sheramom4

Parents are responsible for their children, not their siblings. YTA 👎

chlorenchyma | chlorenchyma

Teen misses out on only high school dance, YTA mom prioritizes fun.

JeepNaked | JeepNaked

Mom assumes daughter can cancel planned event to babysit, commenters say YTA 💃👎

aujcy | aujcy

Mom leaves daughter with no emergency backup to babysit, YTA 🤦‍♀️

SneakySneakySquirrel | SneakySneakySquirrel

Mother prioritizing her trip over daughter's dance. YTA indeed. 😠

ScienceNotKids | ScienceNotKids

OP is the parent, not her daughter. YTA. 😱

PugnaciousTrollButt | PugnaciousTrollButt

Hiring a trained caregiver for Fritz is necessary. YTA.

moonebeam | moonebeam

Teen shouldn't sacrifice her time for brother's disability, YTA 👎

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Babysitting responsibilities may fall unfairly on Bindi 🧐

0biterdicta | 0biterdicta

Don't make your kids miss out on opportunities, plan ahead 👍

Hot-Simple4673 | Hot-Simple4673

Mom guilts daughter into giving up senior dance for sister's weekend 🎉

Stace34 | Stace34

Leaving a special needs child with a teen overnight? YTA 💩

NefariousnessGlum424 | NefariousnessGlum424

Mom gets called out for forcing daughter to be a caregiver 😒

TrumpHasaMicroDick | TrumpHasaMicroDick

Curious about the purpose of the overnight trip 🤔

freedom_oh | freedom_oh

Empathy over convenience: Parenting 101 🤝

bitchy_badger | bitchy_badger

Parentification at its worst. Let your daughter be a teen 😔

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Commenter calls out parent for not taking responsibility. YTA 👎

Jolteon2020 | Jolteon2020

Commenter empathizes but says it's not child's responsibility. 💁‍♀️

Niraena | Niraena

Commenter calls out parentification, deems OP the a**hole 👎

Valuable_Ad_742 | Valuable_Ad_742

Leaving disabled child for unnecessary trip? YTA, find alternatives! 🤨

dbee8q | dbee8q

Mom prioritizes trip over daughter's school dance and brother's surgery. YTA.

PeteyPorkchops | PeteyPorkchops

Teenager forced to babysit, commenters say YTA. 👶🏻‍🤓

NimSumToZero | NimSumToZero

Mom criticized for not letting teen socialize, burdening with caregiving 🤔

CaptainHMBarclay | CaptainHMBarclay

Commenter calls out parent for putting responsibility on teen sibling. 😒

ICWhatsNUrP | ICWhatsNUrP

Commenter calls out parent's priorities, defending teen's needs 🤔

Riommar | Riommar

Commenter calls out mother for not getting proper care for son. 💡

nathashanails | nathashanails

Let her be a kid while she can 🙏

ThrowRA1039485 | ThrowRA1039485

User suggests hiring a nurse instead of burdening daughter. 💡

Capital_Tea9071 | Capital_Tea9071

Daughter wants to go to dance but mom needs her to babysit autistic brother. Commenter calls out mom for not valuing daughter's fleeting youth. YTA 😓

Just_Inator | Just_Inator

Mom prioritizes social event over daughter's mental health and future.

AbbyBirb | AbbyBirb

Teen frustrated with babysitting autistic sibling instead of going to dance 💃

cupcakesgirlie7 | cupcakesgirlie7

Teen feels unconsidered, mom should make it up to her 💔

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Mom prioritizes her trip over daughter's event, forces babysitting responsibility. YTA 😤

gentle_mama | gentle_mama

Mom prioritizes trip over daughter's dance and Ava's surgery. YTA 😠

NinjaBabaMama | NinjaBabaMama

Commenter calls out parent for neglecting 14-year-old's surgery needs. YTA.

BadWolf7426 | BadWolf7426

Parent prioritizes trip over teen's missed dance, YTA comment.

Relevant-Economy-927 | Relevant-Economy-927

Teen misses out due to poor planning and sibling care.

Firm-Sherbert8221 | Firm-Sherbert8221

Commenter calls out parent for making teen babysit autistic brother 😕

shadow-foxe | shadow-foxe

Parent prioritizes autistic child over teenager, sparks YTA backlash 😡

anonymous_for_this | anonymous_for_this

Teen can't attend dance due to babysitting, commenter disagrees. 💃

SmolAnxiousSprinkle | SmolAnxiousSprinkle

Commenter disagrees with mom's decision to prioritize trip over daughter's dance.

Psychological-Owl613 | Psychological-Owl613