Young Adult Saves Money to Move out, but Mom Needs It for Baby

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A young adult, who has been saving up money to move out of their overcrowded family home, is faced with a difficult decision when their mom demands the money to save her and her babies' lives. The young adult's mom has been using their siblings and their checks for financial support, and the young adult knows that their money won't last long. When their mom is hospitalized and asks for money for a special procedure to save her baby, the young adult is torn between saving for their own future and helping their family. The young adult's siblings are calling them evil and an a**hole for not helping, but the young adult is unsure if they made the right decision. Read on to see what advice the community has to offer.

Young adult saves $7k to move out, but mom needs it for baby

dhdhsjsnsns | dhdhsjsnsns

Young adult financially supports family, can't move out. 😔

dhdhsjsnsns | dhdhsjsnsns

Young adult dreams of independence, but mom needs her savings.

dhdhsjsnsns | dhdhsjsnsns

Making the leap - young adult's journey to independence 🏠

dhdhsjsnsns | dhdhsjsnsns

Mom gets angry at daughter for saving money to move 😡

dhdhsjsnsns | dhdhsjsnsns

Struggling mom guilt trips young adult for saving up money 😔

dhdhsjsnsns | dhdhsjsnsns

Mom risks life for baby despite high-risk pregnancy 🤰

dhdhsjsnsns | dhdhsjsnsns

Struggling young adult must choose between family or future dreams 💔

dhdhsjsnsns | dhdhsjsnsns

Young adult faced with tough choice: move out or help family? 😞

dhdhsjsnsns | dhdhsjsnsns

Struggling to support family vs saving for independence. 👍

dhdhsjsnsns | dhdhsjsnsns

Overwhelmed with support, young adult leaves home for new adventure 🎒✈️

dhdhsjsnsns | dhdhsjsnsns

Young adult saves money to move out but mom needs it

Living with a large family can be a struggle, especially when you're trying to save up to move out. But what happens when your mom needs the money you've saved for her new baby? This young adult faces a tough decision when their mom asks for help paying for a special procedure to help her baby. Read on to find out what happens next and how this young adult responds to their family's accusations of being an a**hole.

Young adult stands up to manipulative mother, inspires siblings to escape 🙌

Ok_Professional_4499 | Ok_Professional_4499

Escape the toxicity! Move out and prioritize yourself, OP. 🚪💸

No_Recording9016 | No_Recording9016

Agreement that mom is being unreasonable about money.

eatthebunnytoo | eatthebunnytoo

Commenters doubt the mom's claims and urge OP to leave 🙌

Beautiful-Concern144 | Beautiful-Concern144

Moving out for the first time is scary, especially when family needs money 💰

DarkObserver0457 | DarkObserver0457

Discussion on the futility of spending money on a medical procedure.

InfamousBuzzBuzzBee | InfamousBuzzBuzzBee

You're not responsible for someone who puts themselves at risk 🤷‍♀️

Lumpy_Mix_2605 | Lumpy_Mix_2605

Protect yourself from financial abuse. Your mom's problems aren't yours.

LondonCalling07 | LondonCalling07

Escape the nightmare and set an example for your siblings 👍

typicalaquarius | typicalaquarius

Commenters criticize irresponsible parenting and risky pregnancies.

Slight-Concert-8391 | Slight-Concert-8391

Escape while you can ⏩👋

Zombiemommy1980 | Zombiemommy1980

Don't let guilt trap you, save yourself and move out 🚪💰

readsomething1968 | readsomething1968

Empowering response, take control of your own life 🙌

Jazmadoodle | Jazmadoodle

Cheers to a fresh start 🍻 You got this! 💪

daftwendy | daftwendy

Young adult saves money to move out, but manipulative mother demands it for irresponsible spending. Recommended to run for the hills. NTA 🏃‍♀️💰

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Supportive comment and advice for moving to NY 🗽

Allimack | Allimack

Commenter advises OP to not give money to irresponsible mother 🚫💰

helendestroy | helendestroy

Don't enable her financial irresponsibility. 💸

JMile69 | JMile69

Don't let family hold you back 💸💼 Run free!

StripeyMoron | StripeyMoron

Don't let emotional blackmail stop you from being independent. 💪

beechaser77 | beechaser77

Don't sacrifice your future to fix someone else's past. 💸

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Commenter defends OP from criticism of healthcare system and mother.

ha_look_at_that_nerd | ha_look_at_that_nerd

Escape the cycle 🏃‍♂️💨 and secure your future 💰

Complete-Love3183 | Complete-Love3183

Boundaries and responsibilities: a tough lesson for young adults

SituationSad4304 | SituationSad4304

Escape and succeed to save yourself and your family. 💪

NotKatieKatester | NotKatieKatester

Putting yourself first isn't selfish. NTA 🙌

Unfair_Tonight_9797 | Unfair_Tonight_9797

Stand your ground and prioritize your future. ✌️

terrapharma | terrapharma

Start your own life and let siblings support mom. #NTA

cara180455 | cara180455

Encouraging NTA to prioritize own finances and well-being 🦅

SleuthingSloth009 | SleuthingSloth009

Take the leap and live your dream! Your happiness matters.

Ok-Baseball-1230 | Ok-Baseball-1230

Stand your ground: prioritize your own future goals and dreams 🙌

Pip-92 | Pip-92

Frustrated with being the only one expected to contribute financially.

ReasonedBeing | ReasonedBeing

Commenter suggests drastic action for unfit mother. 🤔

[deleted] | [deleted]

You go, young adult! 💪 Your money, your life. 👍

Headup31 | Headup31

Encouraging words for a young adult to move out and start their own life.

KittenSpangles | KittenSpangles

Self-care is not selfish, take care of yourself first 👍

stayonthecloud | stayonthecloud

Empowering response to toxic family situation. 🙌

sleepingellis | sleepingellis

Leave the nest to break the cycle 🦅

Arnesis | Arnesis

Escape your toxic home, don't let your mom use you 💪

NimueLovesCoffee | NimueLovesCoffee

Don't be held hostage by her poor choices. 👌

Reason_Training | Reason_Training

Choose your life. Don't let anyone guilt you into anything. 💪

Ohcrumbcakes | Ohcrumbcakes

Escape the cycle: save, educate, and keep your distance 🏃‍♂️💰👨‍🎓

sadlandlordde | sadlandlordde

Saving 7k was tough, but standing your ground is tougher 🙌

cloudpuncher9 | cloudpuncher9

Commenter sympathizes with young adult, shocked by 11 siblings.

furry_but_dont_tell | furry_but_dont_tell

Not the a-hole. Tell us your judgment in one acronym!

[deleted] | [deleted]

Commenter questions mom's decision to prioritize risky pregnancy over family.

Yumisa_jig | Yumisa_jig

Tips for dealing with manipulative people about finances. 🤔

Kittenn1412 | Kittenn1412

Encouraging words for young adult saving to move out 🙌

Catontheloose2400 | Catontheloose2400

Don't let anyone stop you from achieving your goals 💪

No_Proposal7628 | No_Proposal7628

Escape the dysfunction and live your best life 🙌

baobab77 | baobab77

👏 Encouraging reply to young adult's decision to move out.

Cfflvr | Cfflvr

Time to break free 🚪💸

[deleted] | [deleted]

Stand your ground and keep saving 💰 #NTA

that_was_way_harsh | that_was_way_harsh

Building a healthy life away from family is tough ❤️

DHG_Buddha | DHG_Buddha

Prioritize yourself and move out, no guilt required! 💰👋

Kat122697 | Kat122697

OP's mother's actions are abusive, it's time to leave. 💪🏽

issoecoisadefudido | issoecoisadefudido

Young adult seeks advice on whether to give mom $7k.

The_Prince1513 | The_Prince1513

You're not responsible to financially support anyone but yourself 💰

Description-32 | Description-32

Escape the bad decisions, start your own life 🚶‍♀️👋

grimbotronic | grimbotronic

Escape the abuse and make a life for yourself 👏

cleverdouchewater | cleverdouchewater

Follow your dreams and take that flight! ✈️

Jealous-Beat | Jealous-Beat

NTA, mom is the only a-hole. Don't give in to guilting.

CasAngel221B | CasAngel221B