A man shares his story of caring for his brother-in-law, who is paralyzed and requires constant care. The man's in-laws struggled to handle the responsibility, so the brother-in-law came to live with him and his wife. However, when the in-laws expressed a desire to see the brother-in-law again, he refused. The man's wife believes that they should reconcile, but the brother-in-law is still hurt by their past actions. When the in-laws showed up at the house unannounced, the man refused to let them in. Was he in the wrong for respecting his brother-in-law's wishes?
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A man shares his story of how his in-laws stopped visiting his paralyzed brother-in-law, leading to the man and his wife taking care of him. After over a year of no contact, the in-laws want to make amends, but the brother-in-law refuses to see them. When they show up unannounced, the man refuses to let them in, causing conflict with his wife. He questions whether he was in the wrong for not letting them see his brother-in-law. Read on to see how this family navigates this difficult situation.
NTA. BIL deserves autonomy to choose when to reconcile with parents.
dftaylor | dftaylor
Respecting autonomy of the paralyzed BIL is not A-H move 💪
fightintxaggie98 | fightintxaggie98
NTA for standing up for paralyzed BIL and his feelings ❤️
kruzin2244 | kruzin2244
NTA. Wife needs to respect brother's autonomy and feelings.
ResoluteMuse | ResoluteMuse
NTA stroke survivor defends BIL's agency, wife owes apology 🙌
alrielira | alrielira
NTA. Family should respect his decision to not have a relationship 🙅♂️
theliteraryKat | theliteraryKat
Respect disabled person's opinion. In-laws overstepping boundaries. 🙅♂️
MamanBear79 | MamanBear79
Respect paralyzed BIL's decision. Don't let wife control everything. 👍
youdidwhatnow10 | youdidwhatnow10
Supportive comment defends BIL's autonomy against manipulative in-laws.
SeaEmpressTitania | SeaEmpressTitania
Respect Jason's decision, but communication is key for resolution. 💬
MajesticSparkleBeast | MajesticSparkleBeast
Respect BIL's agency and autonomy 👍
Dookwithanegg | Dookwithanegg
NTA. In-laws abandon paralyzed son and feel entitled to visit. 🤦
Downtherabbithutch | Downtherabbithutch
Wife disregards wishes of disabled BIL for own family reconciliation 🤦♂️
Screaming-Harpy | Screaming-Harpy
Wife acting like an a**hole or just tired?
SnooPickles4953 | SnooPickles4953
Respect Jason's autonomy - NTA comment is spot on 👏
metalasfck | metalasfck
NTA, but have a serious talk with your wife. 🤔💬 Taking care of someone can be taxing and her mental health might be suffering. 💭
djfuzzy1 | djfuzzy1
Supportive comment, but concerning situation. 🤔
DocHoppersFrogsLegs | DocHoppersFrogsLegs
Prioritize family counseling and alone time with wife for support 😌
phineuscole | phineuscole
Empathy for paralyzed BIL, wife urged to consider his feelings ❤️
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Respect BIL's autonomy and choices, wife needs to understand that. 👍
bleak-bookworm | bleak-bookworm
Protect your BIL's boundaries with a doorbell camera 🚪📹
Avebury1 | Avebury1
Wife trying to force paralyzed BIL to see in-laws is abusive 💔
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Defending a disabled relative's right to choose associates. 👍
LillytheFurkid | LillytheFurkid
Supporting NTA, commenter defends BIL's right to choose visitors.
Y-Crwydryn | Y-Crwydryn
Respect BIL's autonomy. Wife owes apology for infantilizing him. #NTA 👍
diskebbin | diskebbin
Meeting in public place is best. NTA. 👍
Rduos | Rduos
Protective BIL caretaker gets NTA judgement, suspicious in-laws questioned 🤔
Thamwoofgu | Thamwoofgu
Standing up for paralyzed BIL's autonomy 👍
knintn | knintn
Empowering decision-making for family members. 👍
FunUnit151 | FunUnit151
Defending paralyzed BIL's rights against in-laws. Legal advocacy recommended. 🙌
boxerdogclown | boxerdogclown
Protecting a vulnerable man from abusive in-laws. NTA! 👏
BigWeinerDemeanor | BigWeinerDemeanor
BIL's brother-in-law stands up for him, NTA. 🙌
sh3nto | sh3nto
Respect for autonomy vs. family: A difficult decision 😕
TypicalManagement680 | TypicalManagement680
Debating the ethics of decision-making for paralyzed family member 🤔
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Respecting boundaries: NTA stands up to pushy in-laws 👍
fiberartistmom | fiberartistmom
Standing up for BIL's right to choose, NTA 🙌
RebelScientist | RebelScientist
NTA! Wife invalidating BIL's feelings sounds heartless 😢
Beautiful_mistakes | Beautiful_mistakes
Commenter believes the man is not the a-hole 👍
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Respecting Jason's decision to not reconnect with in-laws. 🙌
Trasl0 | Trasl0
Defending the decision while acknowledging its impact on BIL 💔
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Respecting wishes of paralyzed BIL 👏
After-Classroom | After-Classroom
OP is the only one respecting paralyzed BIL's feelings ❤️
constantflame7658 | constantflame7658
BIL's autonomy disregarded by patronizing sister, OP is supportive. 👏
kb-g | kb-g
Is the wife hoping for a break by inviting in-laws?
stiv1n | stiv1n
Standing up for paralyzed BIL causes marital strain 😔
cantgetright10 | cantgetright10
