Woman Refuses To Participate In Boyfriend's Misogynistic Family Tradition

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A woman went to her boyfriend's family Thanksgiving dinner for the first time and was taken aback by the family's tradition. According to her boyfriend, the men watch football while the women stay in the kitchen and make the meal. The woman felt this was misogynistic and refused to participate, resulting in an awkward dinner.

She later told her boyfriend she was upset, but he accused her of overreacting. Now, she's asking AITA for refusing to participate in the family tradition. Read on to find out if she's in the wrong in this situation or if her feelings are justified.

First-time meeting the boyfriend's extended family on Thanksgiving morning

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Meeting the boyfriend's misogynistic family for the first time 🤦

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A chilled beer and a game, but what about misogyny? 🤔

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Awkward encounter with boyfriend's mom during holiday dinner 🙈

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Festive kitchen chaos with a hint of sisterhood ❤️

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Sipping tea while navigating misogynistic family traditions like ☕

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Trying to talk to the boys during the game 🙄

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Feeling left out at boyfriend's family gathering. 🤔

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Breaking gender roles in the kitchen. 👩‍🍳👊

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She stood up against misogyny and refused to be silenced 🙅‍♀️

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Awkward dinner with boyfriend's family and sports talk 🏈

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Standing up against toxic traditions in relationships. 👏

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Redditors judge woman's decision to stand up to sexism 🤔

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Woman refuses to be banished to the kitchen on Thanksgiving 👏

Thanksgiving is a time when families gather together to give thanks, share a meal, and spend quality time with each other. However, for one woman, her Thanksgiving was ruined because of her boyfriend's family tradition.

In this post, she shares her experience of being banished to the kitchen while the men watched football and drank beer. She found this tradition to be misogynistic and refused to participate. Although her boyfriend thought she was overreacting, she felt left out and upset.

Read on to find out more about her experience and to see if she was in the wrong for speaking up. In the comments section of Reddit, people share their own stories of dealing with traditional gender roles during holiday gatherings.

Don't ignore red flags! NTA for standing up against misogyny 👏

HotChildinDaCity | HotChildinDaCity

Mixed replies on whether OP was the a-hole for not interacting with the women of her boyfriend's family during Thanksgiving. Some suggest talking to the boyfriend about the deeply ingrained tradition, while others argue that she missed an opportunity to get to know his family better.

CarrieCat62 | CarrieCat62

Engaging debate on gender roles during holiday gatherings. 🤔

Dizzy_Yard7671 | Dizzy_Yard7671

Guest accused of being rude for not participating in misogynistic tradition.

Punkrockpm | Punkrockpm

NTA. A sexist family tradition that needs to be broken. 💪

Amiedeslivres | Amiedeslivres

NTA. Being left alone with strangers is uncomfortable and rude 😕

o-k-lynn | o-k-lynn

Boyfriend invites girlfriend to spend time with misogynistic family.

diminishingpatience | diminishingpatience

Partner should have been upfront about family tradition. NTA 🚫👨‍👩‍👦

lizfour | lizfour

Relationship red flag: Misogynistic family traditions. NTA for refusing.

rmric0 | rmric0

Comment section takes a hilarious trip down memory lane 🕰️👴

ElectronicRub1716 | ElectronicRub1716

Choose a partner who shares your values 👭‍🎓 and beliefs 💎, not outdated gender roles 👮

agurrera | agurrera

Woman criticized for boycotting thanksgiving dinner over fabricated problem.

Pavlova_Nova | Pavlova_Nova

Breaking gender norms and shutting down misogyny in the kitchen 🚫👩‍🍳🙅‍♀️

SmadaSlaguod | SmadaSlaguod

Avoid a misogynistic future. NTA for standing your ground 👏

Odd-End-1405 | Odd-End-1405

OP accused of interrupting misogynistic family tradition for own interests 🤔

wildferalfun | wildferalfun

Misunderstanding or passive-aggressive behavior? 🤔

thisisvdumb | thisisvdumb

Woman receives harsh YTA verdict for interrupting boyfriend's family tradition 🤦‍♀️

GeneralPhilosophy691 | GeneralPhilosophy691

Cooking together can be a way to bond with family 🍗🤝

AdelleDeWitt | AdelleDeWitt

Thanksgiving 'traditions' or gender norms? NTA but outsider's perspective.

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Breaking up the separation by sex: How one woman refused to participate in her boyfriend's misogynistic family tradition ✨

RevolutionaryCow7961 | RevolutionaryCow7961

Breaking cycles of misogyny takes effort, not excuses. 👏🏼

Lynda73 | Lynda73

Be gracious and respectful when you're a guest. 🙏🏼

yellowcoffee01 | yellowcoffee01

Breaking archaic gender roles exposes his family's true colors. 💪

feminist1946 | feminist1946

Engaging with tradition can be tough, but was hijacking necessary?

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Gender roles questioned in family tradition, cleanup responsibilities unclear 💭

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Woman criticized for not conforming to sexist Thanksgiving tradition 🙄

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Commenters mock sexist tradition, defend woman's choice to opt out 💪

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Engage with your boyfriend's family, stop making a point uncomfortably 👥

KGBree | KGBree

Choose a side, or get to know the women better 🤔🏈

sweetpotatopietime | sweetpotatopietime

Commenter accuses woman of being unreasonable for not enjoying football.

SonyaD_85 | SonyaD_85

OP stands up against misogynistic family tradition, NTA 👊

jauntym00se | jauntym00se

Setting expectations is key. NTA for not being a kitchen staff.

bp_on_reddit | bp_on_reddit

NTA for not wanting to hear gossip from strangers' family members 😒

undeadladybug | undeadladybug

Navigating family traditions can be tough, especially when they're uncomfortable 😬

Substantial-Angle832 | Substantial-Angle832

Standing up against misogyny 🚺🙅‍♀️

dontbelievethefife | dontbelievethefife

Commenter defends boyfriend's misogynistic family tradition, citing lack of coercion.

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NTA, but bf is. Misogynistic tradition. Boyfriend ditched you. Awkward family dynamics. 😬

Shylights | Shylights

Commenter dismisses woman's experience, implies traditional gender roles are natural 🤨

Toyohashi226 | Toyohashi226

Breaking free from toxic family traditions 📚👩‍🍳🗣️ #NotTheA**hole

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Navigating cultural differences in relationships can be tough 😕

kmo428 | kmo428

Think twice before settling down with a misogynistic family 👀

Comfortable_Park_943 | Comfortable_Park_943

NTA. BF left you alone with strangers in misogynistic tradition. 😡

AHAlady | AHAlady

Support for woman standing up against misogynistic family tradition ✊

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