Step-brother Turns My Engagement Dinner into a Gender Reveal, so I Send Him the Bill. AITA?

A woman hosted an engagement dinner that was hijacked by her stepbrother for a surprise baby gender reveal. The family got excited and the dinner turned into a party for the revelation. The woman and her fiancé were ignored for the rest of the event. The woman then sent her stepbrother the bill for half of everything she paid for. The stepbrother disputed the bill, stating that he was invited and didn’t intend to hijack the event. The woman demanded payment and threatened to exclude him and his wife from the wedding if he didn’t pay. The stepmother got involved and told the woman to stop making unreasonable demands. Was the woman being entitled for sending the bill or was the stepbrother in the wrong for stealing the spotlight?

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Uninvited gender reveal at my engagement dinner. AITA for billing?

When a gender reveal hijacks an engagement dinner, chaos ensues

Gender reveal hijacks engagement dinner, who should pay?

Sending my stepbrother the bill for his gender reveal interruption ‍♀️

Engaged sister sends stepbrother bill for gender reveal. Drama ensues.

Demanding payment for ruined engagement dinner, justified or petty?

Stepbrother hijacked my engagement dinner to reveal baby gender , I sent him the bill . AITA?

Family dynamics can be complicated, especially when step-siblings are involved. In this case, the OP’s stepbrother Ethan has a history of being competitive and attention-seeking. However, he seemed to have matured over the years and even asked the OP to be an aunt to his future child. But at the OP’s engagement dinner, Ethan and his wife showed up uninvited and turned the event into a gender reveal party for their own baby. This understandably upset the OP and her fiancé, who had paid for the expensive dinner. In an attempt to do some damage control, the OP sent Ethan the bill for half of the cost. However, Ethan was not happy about this and argued that he didn’t intend to hijack the event. The situation escalated into a fight, with the stepmom getting involved and suggesting that the OP’s fiancé could just have a second engagement dinner. But the OP is standing her ground and demanding that Ethan pays. What do you think? Should Ethan be responsible for paying for his unexpected and unsolicited announcement? Share your thoughts in the comments below.

Disinvite stepbrother and stepmom from wedding to avoid attention-stealing drama

Commenter agrees that OP is NTA and suggests avoiding stepbrother at future events.

Toxic stepbrother tries to upstage engagement dinner as gender reveal. NTA.

Secure your wedding by password-protecting everything. Cut off stepfamily.

OP defends sending the bill for the unwanted gender reveal.

Wedding drama and a potential birth? This family is wild

Stepbrother’s rude behavior ruins engagement dinner. NTA for sending bill.

Commenter agrees NTA, compares hijacking to wedding and birthday party.

Recoup the cost of gender reveal party with creative gifting

Debate on whether OP is the a**hole for resenting stepbrother’s actions.

Stepbrother steals spotlight at engagement dinner turned gender reveal

Both sides need to grow up and communicate like adults

NTA. Stepbro hijacked event. Don’t invite him to wedding.

Cutting family ties? NTA’s wedding drama unfolds.

Hold your ground and revoke the invitation. NTA.

Stepbrother has a pattern of attention-seeking behavior. ESH.

Wedding invite revoked and a gender reveal at the wedding?

Commenter critiques gender reveal parties and questions OP’s need for validation.

Brother crashes engagement dinner and turns it into gender reveal ‍♀️

Cutting toxic family ties for a happy wedding day

Commenter calls out OP for childish behavior at own party ‍♀️

Brother hijacks engagement dinner for gender reveal. Don’t invite him.

Cutting ties with stepbrother and creating boundaries with stepmom.

‍♀️ Everyone acted immaturely in this engagement dinner disaster.

ESH for ruining the evening with gender reveal and revenge.

Uninviting stepbrother from wedding might be necessary. ‍♀️

Set bouncer, keep wedding safe

Cutting toxic family members from weddings: ‍ ‍ ‍

Standing up to petty stepbrother’s gender reveal, NTA

Stepbrother’s gender reveal and OP’s reaction – ESH.

Take control of your own events! NTA

Commenter calls OP the a**hole and advises against inviting family

Agreed, NTA. Family history can make these situations complicated

NTA, but instead of focusing on the payment, have a serious talk with your stepbrother about the issue and consider counseling

Stepbrother ruins engagement dinner with gender reveal. NTA for sending bill.

Family drama at its finest.

Family should split the bill for engagement turned gender reveal party

Protect your big day. Uninvite him and keep it peaceful. ✌️

Commenter calls out OP for overreacting in a scathing tone

Engagement dinner becomes a gender reveal. Both are competitive weirdos.

Don’t let Ethan steal your spotlight on your big day!