Did I Go Too Far By Saying I Co-Parent With The Nanny?

Alfe Mercado
Mother and nanny
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A mom, who has been separated from her husband for a year and is on the brink of divorce, sparked a family feud after her comment at her ex-MIL's party. She has been communicating with the nanny who takes care of her two kids during her ex-husband's time as he is usually unavailable. At the party, her ex-MIL praised them for co-parenting well, and the mom responded by saying she loves co-parenting with the nanny. This caused a backlash from her ex-husband and his family. She is now asking if she's the a**hole.

Navigating co-parenting with a nanny during a divorce. 🙌

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Sharing parenting responsibilities with the nanny 🧒👶

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Struggling with co-parenting and communication with busy ex-husband.

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Taking charge of co-parenting with the nanny 🤝

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Efficient communication with ex and nanny improves kids' time-sharing 📧

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Navigating co-parenting with the in-laws. Family first 👨🏻‍💻

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Navigating co-parenting with a difficult ex, frustrations and all 😠

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Sarcastic response to MIL's co-parenting comment with nanny 🙄

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Navigating co-parenting with the nanny? Ex drama included 😬

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Is OP the a**hole for co-parenting with their nanny?

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Co-parenting with the nanny: genius or too far?

Divorce and co-parenting can be challenging, but what happens when the nanny becomes the main caregiver during your ex's time with the kids? One woman found a solution by communicating directly with the nanny instead of her ex, but when she made a joke about co-parenting with the nanny, things went south. Was it harmless humor or a low blow? Let's dive into the debate and see what people are saying about this controversial approach to co-parenting.

NTA for calling out deadbeat Dad, but risky to do it around his family 🤐

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NTA! OP made a harmless joke about co-parenting with the nanny. Ex is TA for not being a present father and for baiting OP. ESH for dragging ex ILs into it. Best case: ex steps up. Worst case: ex fires nanny out of pettiness.

WritPositWrit | WritPositWrit

NTA. Document everything and take it to court. 📝💼

FutureJakeSantiago | FutureJakeSantiago

Divorce drama with a piece of work husband. NTA.

0biterdicta | 0biterdicta

Honesty is the best policy 🤥🤫

False-Explanation702 | False-Explanation702

One-liner truth bomb shuts down drama. 🤷‍♀️ #NTA

type1error | type1error

NTA for co-parenting with nanny, but may have sunk the ship.

autumn441 | autumn441

Co-parenting with the nanny? ESH, but he's a deadbeat.

schmitty9800 | schmitty9800

Commenter questions lack of context, receives relevant replies.

DistastefulSideboob_ | DistastefulSideboob_

Co-parenting is not about snide comments and burning bridges. 🤐

Flubber1215 | Flubber1215

NTA, but may want to avoid situations with ex. 🤔

Ecypslednerg | Ecypslednerg

Exes can be snakes 🐍 but NTA for co-parenting with nanny.

ghast_profile_pic | ghast_profile_pic

Calling out the ex and his family, but not the best move 💭

lamaisondesgaufres | lamaisondesgaufres

Co-parenting with the nanny: a petty move with long-term consequences 😕

AdventurousYamThe2nd | AdventurousYamThe2nd

Co-parenting with the nanny? ESH needs to grow up 💁‍♀️

lovesoatmeal | lovesoatmeal

Communication breakdown? ESH and kids shouldn't hear bad-mouthing.

dannybee3 | dannybee3

Fight for custody with evidence. NTA, but keep calm.

Matchtuff | Matchtuff

Divorced co-parenting creates complications for nanny and creates conflict. 🤦

cellocats | cellocats

Apologize to MIL for sarcastic comment about her kid 🙏

zebrafish- | zebrafish-

Sarcastic humor wins!🤣 Group chat for more active MIL involvement.

Dududidu2 | Dududidu2

Commenter regrets saying something that made communication difficult. 😔

indi50 | indi50

Co-parenting with nanny sparks conflict, making life harder for kids. ESH.

JohnnyJoeyDeeDee | JohnnyJoeyDeeDee

Calling out bad behavior can feel great, but has consequences 😬

FlashesandFlickers | FlashesandFlickers

Co-parenting with nanny? YTA accused of being a deadbeat parent.

Deepdishultra | Deepdishultra

Why email when text is more instant? 🤔

pinhead7676 | pinhead7676

Publicly shaming ex and nanny? ESH 👎

aubaub | aubaub

Calling out co-parenting with nanny makes life harder for everyone 😒

anillop | anillop

OP is labeled as YTA for complaining about her partner's work schedule.

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Chaotic co-parenting with the nanny - everyone's at fault 😬

jimedrz | jimedrz

Don't air dirty laundry, YTA. ESH situation, control yourself. 🙅

TALead | TALead

Avoid involving kids in drama. YTA, he's an a**hole too.

Bibi_Baby13 | Bibi_Baby13

Standing up for yourself against your ex with NTA support 🙌

BookReader1328 | BookReader1328

The comment suggests a complicated situation with untold details...🤔

Prymas_tv | Prymas_tv

Encouraging reply to divorce - take action 💪

Global-Feedback2906 | Global-Feedback2906

Recording interactions with ex. 📹 Perfect clapback earns praise. 🙌

geegeepark | geegeepark

Safe to talk about parenting strategy without little ears listening 👂

bigmonmulgrew | bigmonmulgrew

Toxic vibes all around 🤢

kiwifulla64 | kiwifulla64

Co-parenting with the nanny? NTA for setting boundaries 🙌

DeusXMathematica | DeusXMathematica

Single dad gets criticized for hiring nanny; defends his parenting.

Walshy231231 | Walshy231231

Engaging in parenting debates? Don't forget empathy and understanding! 🤝

emily_ts | emily_ts

Divorced parents should be the bigger person for their kids. 👪🏻

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Standing up for co-parenting with nanny, facing unfair criticism 😑

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Standing up to hypocrites 🙌 #NTA

beachygirl12 | beachygirl12

Don't engage with ex's family, patience is key, good luck 🙏

PoppySiddal | PoppySiddal

Sometimes co-parenting with the nanny is the best option 🙌 #NTA

imabanddork | imabanddork

Don't stoop to childish behavior, co-parenting with nanny not equal.

flamingdroptop | flamingdroptop

🙌Co-parenting with the nanny? Not the a**hole!👏

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Take charge of co-parenting and gather evidence to protect kids. 👍

BatmanLink | BatmanLink

Co-parenting with the nanny? ESH, but prioritize the kids' well-being 🙏

Render999 | Render999

Communicate through lawyer to document neglect for court ⚖️

FirebirdWriter | FirebirdWriter

Navigating custody and nanny responsibilities. 👨‍🎤

murano84 | murano84

When being honest makes you look like an a**hole 🤷‍♀️

TheSciFiGuy80 | TheSciFiGuy80

Navigating co-parenting with a nanny can be messy. 💼

lackofsunshine | lackofsunshine

Co-parenting with the nanny or co-parenting with ex? 🤔

jamintime | jamintime

Commenter gets praised for not being an a**hole, but receives criticism.


Getting into a petty argument with your ex is never worth it 😒

RhinoRok | RhinoRok

Divorce drama affects the children, ESH except for them 😔

Attackofthexenopi | Attackofthexenopi

Using email to communicate with ex about co-parenting: bad idea?

Lulullaby_ | Lulullaby_

Effective co-parenting tip: CC your ex when contacting the nanny 😉

Phyredanse | Phyredanse

Calling out bad behavior: NTA takes the heat 🔥

Beautiful_mistakes | Beautiful_mistakes

Dad's long hours and youngest child necessitate nanny co-parenting 🧑‍👦‍👦

nomorelawyers | nomorelawyers

Navigating co-parenting with an ex's nanny 🤔

GoddessOfMagic | GoddessOfMagic