Woman Asks If She’s A Jerk For Not Wanting Her Mentally Ill Sister As Her Bridesmaid

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25yo sister takes care of her 27yo sister with severe mental health issues

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Carer Sarah is feeling the pressure of being the 'go-to' for her mentally ill sister while struggling to keep her own identity

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She feels emotionally exhausted from caring for her mentally ill sister, but is it wrong to not want her as a bridesmaid?

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Sister's behavior causing stress for the bride-to-be

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This woman is struggling with her mentally ill sister's past hurtful actions and is feeling apathetic

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The poster is conflicted over her loving but difficult relationship with her mentally ill sister.

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Should she risk disrupting her wedding day by inviting her mentally ill sister?

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Should the woman invite her mentally ill sister as a bridesmaid or just a regular guest?

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Family is divided on the decision to exclude a mentally ill sister from a bridal party. Is it OK to go against tradition?

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A woman wonders if it's wrong to not include her mentally ill sister in her wedding party.

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Is it wrong for this woman to not want her mentally ill sister as her bridesmaid? 🤔

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⚖️ Is it wrong for a woman to not want her mentally ill sister as a bridesmaid? 🤔

In the post, Carer Sarah (25f) has been taking care of her mentally ill sister (27f) since they were kids. Her two older brothers (40 and 42) and their girlfriends (now wives) were too busy, leaving her to take on the responsibility. Over the years, Sarah has grown to feel apathetic toward her sister due to her disruptive behavior.

Now that Sarah is getting married to the love of her life, she doesn't want to make her sister a bridesmaid. Her family is shocked and one of her brothers believes she is being ableist. Is Sarah wrong for not wanting her sister there?

Read on to find out what the Reddit community thinks about the thread.

NTA, OP! 💪 Let your wedding be the start of a new future!

thequejos | thequejos

🤔 Should she invite her sister to her wedding?

Jintess | Jintess

NTA: Your bridal attendants should support you ❤️

reeserodgers59 | reeserodgers59

NTA: You're allowed to prioritize yourself! 😊

El-Catman | El-Catman

NTA: ⚖️ Bridal parties should be meaningful.

bergermeyer | bergermeyer

NTA: establishing boundaries

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NTA: Boundaries are 🔑

rexconroy | rexconroy

NTA - 🤔 Consider this...

RollingEasement | RollingEasement

NTA: A sister's mental illness is not to be enabled 🗣

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💔 NTA: It's ok to not have your sister in your wedding party

Moorehadley | Moorehadley

NTA - Celebrating you and your fiancé 🎉

UnderTheOldCode | UnderTheOldCode

🤝 Setting boundaries 🤝

rubykittens | rubykittens

NTA: You deserve your own day!

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NTA 💖 Time to 🗣️ the 🔊 on 🙅‍♀️ sister's 🤬 behavior!

hetkleinezusje | hetkleinezusje

NTA. You're allowed to do what's best for you 💪

Princess_Snakeface | Princess_Snakeface

It's ok to prioritize yourself ❤️

Ok_Grapefruit952 | Ok_Grapefruit952

Sister's mental illness & NTA 😉

yourdelusionalsunset | yourdelusionalsunset

🤔 NTA and ❤ for a sister

Knitiotsavant | Knitiotsavant

NTA: 💔 OP deserves more than to be a caregiver.

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NTA 👍 Prioritize your needs!

erin_jay | erin_jay

NTA: it's not your fault 🙅‍♀️

Original_Adventurous | Original_Adventurous

NTA, stand up for your 👰🏻 wedding!

ParsimoniousSalad | ParsimoniousSalad

NTA: It's not your problem 💁‍♀️

loginorregister9 | loginorregister9

Not The A**hole 🙅‍♀️💁‍♀️

_Rens | _Rens

Sending 🤗 for both of you

Pretty-Economy2437 | Pretty-Economy2437

NTA: ✋ Set boundaries now!

HunterDangerous1366 | HunterDangerous1366

NTA - it's your day! 🎉

GrandioseBanana | GrandioseBanana

NTA: Don't be one to yourself any longer 🤔

Comprehensive-Sun954 | Comprehensive-Sun954

NTA: Not Your Responsibility

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NTA: Elope & ❤️ your future spouse!

Cocobutterbam | Cocobutterbam

No a-hole here! 🤗

Djhinnwe | Djhinnwe

NTA💯 You got this!

Mirianda666 | Mirianda666

It's your wedding, NTA!

WolfTotem9 | WolfTotem9

🤔 Is it ok to cut out a toxic family member from your wedding?

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NTA: Not the a**hole here!

Sweet_Persimmon_492 | Sweet_Persimmon_492

NTA: Rejecting Mentally Ill Sister From Bridesmaid Role

MerlinBiggs | MerlinBiggs

🤔 NTA: You Choose Who You Want As Bridesmaids

duke113 | duke113

NTA: Sister knew what she was doing 🤔

tang202 | tang202

Drawing a line between love and duty 🤔

JustMy2CentsB4Taxes | JustMy2CentsB4Taxes

You're NTA! 🎉 Celebrate your wedding your way!

shadow-foxe | shadow-foxe

NTA - 🙅‍♀️ You deserve to have your dream wedding!

crazeyal | crazeyal

NTA: Responsible bridal 💒 planning 📝

JP2205 | JP2205

Time to go LC/NC 🤔

StaceysMomPlus2more | StaceysMomPlus2more

Sister's mentally ill, but 🤷🏻‍♀️not OP's burden?

angelbb1 | angelbb1

Having a mentally ill sibling is 💔 but 🗣️ NTA!

YoureANuisance | YoureANuisance

NTA: You're not an ableist 🚨

Thriillsy | Thriillsy

NTA: Setting boundaries for your big day ❤️

fumblz-mumblz | fumblz-mumblz

NTA: 👉 Set boundaries!

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NTA: 🤯 Mom's plan for OP is shocking!

Kettlewise | Kettlewise

NTA: Elope 🤵👰

calaakla | calaakla

NTA: Exclusion justified 🤔

glimpseeowyn | glimpseeowyn

NTA: 🔐Hire Security For Wedding 💐

Warm_Peak9545 | Warm_Peak9545

Family dynamics 🤔

Healbite | Healbite