“Am I A Jerk For Calling Out My Kids’ Future Stepmom For Treating Me Like A Surrogate?”

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Having a child is a very personal thing, and it’s important to remember that it’s your life, your choices, and nobody else’s. You are the ultimate decision maker and you have the right to have a say in every part of your life, especially when it comes to the future of your babies.

So when Reddit user throwaway-twinmama decided to share how her boyfriend’s new girlfriend started trying to control her pregnancy, it was very off-putting. The woman even went as far as throwing a gender reveal party without her present and telling her guests which gender her babies are.

This was the breaking point for throwaway-twinmama, who had enough of the controlling behavior and called her out. After the woman shared the story on r/AITA, people were divided about whether she was in the right or wrong. Some were supportive, while others were concerned about her safety.

Continue scrolling to read the whole story and decide for yourself.

After breaking up with Joe, I found out I was pregnant which added a whole new dynamic to him getting back together with his ex.

throwaway-twinmama | throwaway-twinmama

The author's ex-boyfriend found out his girlfriend couldn't get pregnant, so he asked the author to be the surrogate.

throwaway-twinmama | throwaway-twinmama

Kim wanted to be involved in the pregnancy despite not being the biological mother.

throwaway-twinmama | throwaway-twinmama

The writer shut down her future stepmom's intrusive suggestions about how to raise her children

throwaway-twinmama | throwaway-twinmama

Kim's overbearing behavior leaves the author feeling like a surrogate and not a parent-to-be 😒

throwaway-twinmama | throwaway-twinmama

I refused to let Joe's future stepmom come to my gender reveal scan, sparking tension with my partner.

throwaway-twinmama | throwaway-twinmama

A pregnancy announcement followed by a gender reveal party left the poster feeling like a surrogate. 🤔

throwaway-twinmama | throwaway-twinmama

I called out my kids' future stepmom for treating me like a surrogate, but was I a jerk? 😕

throwaway-twinmama | throwaway-twinmama

A mom-to-be is wondering if she's a jerk for calling out her kids' future stepmom for treating her like a surrogate - is she an a**hole?

throwaway-twinmama | throwaway-twinmama

Getting a lawyer to protect oneself from a potential stepmom's mistreatment

throwaway-twinmama | throwaway-twinmama

The OP is concerned about their stepmom's treatment after a surprise pregnancy

throwaway-twinmama | throwaway-twinmama

Struggling with a tricky family situation? This mom took action and got an order of protection against her ex.

throwaway-twinmama | throwaway-twinmama

A heated confrontation between the OP and their future stepmom leads to a legal battle and an arrest for child endangerment.

throwaway-twinmama | throwaway-twinmama

Mom takes legal action to protect herself from her kid's future stepmom's mistreatment.

throwaway-twinmama | throwaway-twinmama

Navigating the complexities of an unexpected pregnancy with a former partner and their current partner can be challenging. 🤔

When 29-year-old OP found out she was pregnant with her former partner's children, the situation only got more complicated. She soon learned that her former partner's current partner had fertility issues and wanted to be involved in the pregnancy. OP refused to let her be involved in the decisions regarding the pregnancy, citing that she would make the best choices for her children and herself.

After putting a pregnancy announcement on social media, her former partner's current partner threw a gender reveal party without even inviting OP. OP confronted her, and this ultimately led to a back-and-forth of accusations, calling out inappropriate boundaries, and even the involvement of the police.

How can OP navigate the complexities of this unexpected pregnancy? 🤔

🔴 Red flags 🔴

JynxedDraca | JynxedDraca

Protect yourself 👮‍♀️💪

sunflower-volkswagen | sunflower-volkswagen

Protect yourself! 🙏

tinypurplepiggy | tinypurplepiggy

NTA: ❌ Careful with Joe's GF!

Frostsorrow | Frostsorrow

Mama's not the a-hole 💪

Ty_boogie90 | Ty_boogie90

Mama bear🐻 alert! NTA🤚

LsRodzon | LsRodzon

Fleeing from a future stepmom?

slagatronmaximo | slagatronmaximo

NTA 🙏 Protect yourself and your little ones 👨‍🏼

Momof3dragons2012 | Momof3dragons2012

NTA: Time to 🏃‍♀️

NotTodayPsycho | NotTodayPsycho

NTA. 🙅‍♀️ You're not alone!

lizcopic | lizcopic

Don't let 👩‍❤️‍👩 control 🤰‍♀️

LonnieUnderground01 | LonnieUnderground01

NTA - 🤦‍♀️ this woman is 🤯

producermaddy | producermaddy

🤯 Protecting yourself!

MaccysPeas | MaccysPeas

File a restraining order!

confessionanonymouss | confessionanonymouss

Protect your kids👊🏾

Martiniiiii | Martiniiiii

🤔 Is this a Walmart package?


Run! 🏃‍♀️🏃‍♂️ Get away now!

Swiss_Miss_77 | Swiss_Miss_77

Mama bear 🐻 protecting 🙅‍♀️

BraxHecker | BraxHecker

🚫 NTA: Block them all!

fluffyk1ttyb01 | fluffyk1ttyb01

“Documenting 📝 the 🤰situation!”

marvsgrl | marvsgrl

A pregnant woman's fight 💪🏼

ScatheArdRhi | ScatheArdRhi

NTA: Put her in her place!

Alternative_Ad5613 | Alternative_Ad5613

Run, lawyer up! 🤯

Numerous_Team_2998 | Numerous_Team_2998

Be careful in dealing with her 🤨

Ikmia | Ikmia

Don't get stuck in a 🤦‍♀️

OverlordPancakes | OverlordPancakes

🔴NTA: Get a lawyer!

deadlyhausfrau | deadlyhausfrau

Joe's playing a long game 🤔

motie | motie

NTA: Screenshot and 💁‍♂️ talk to a lawyer!

Queen_Sized_Beauty | Queen_Sized_Beauty

💛NTA: Mom stands up for her kids' safety

FukTheEstablishment | FukTheEstablishment

NTA: Protect your kids 💪

wickling1274 | wickling1274

Protecting yourself from a wackball family🤯

KikkioPotPie | KikkioPotPie

NTA - document interactions 📝

thestarchildhere | thestarchildhere

👩‍⚖️ NTA: Lawyer up!

AdministrativeMinion | AdministrativeMinion

Leaving a toxic relationship 🗣

Consistent-Treat-915 | Consistent-Treat-915

You're not the a**hole!

jadehubbard | jadehubbard

NTA: Protect the babies 💙

Megs1205 | Megs1205

NTA: Disappear and 🔥🔥🔥

yuhju | yuhju

👎🏼No a-hole here!

SarenaZafrina | SarenaZafrina

Seek legal protection 📝

bunnyslope777 | bunnyslope777

Move now! 🏃‍♀️

rallygrl944 | rallygrl944

NTA: Protect yourself 🚨

techieguyjames | techieguyjames

Protecting oneself from an 😯 stepmom 💁‍♀️

Anonymous_Afraid | Anonymous_Afraid

Help is available 🤝

Potential_Routine165 | Potential_Routine165

NTA! 🤯 Protect yourself!

KalKrypton | KalKrypton

OP reflects on a difficult 💔 situation

Careless_Mango | Careless_Mango

Protect yourself 💪

43FootballMom | 43FootballMom

NTA: Not a surrogate!

Infernov79 | Infernov79

NTA: 🤔

TopExamination9 | TopExamination9

NTA: ❤️

Jemma_2 | Jemma_2

What are the practical options for a family going through chaos?

maux_zaikq | maux_zaikq

🤔 An opinionated comment 🤔

That_Arty_One | That_Arty_One

💔A plea for safety

BlaqkShadow | BlaqkShadow

⚠️ Cautionary tale ahead ⚠️

Angel5378 | Angel5378

Checking in on a 👩‍👧‍👧 family drama!

char_bee_15 | char_bee_15

😱Definitely NTA! 🚨Kim needs to be kept away 🤰Twins birth without meds? 🏃Leave and don't look back!

ApprehensiveIntro522 | ApprehensiveIntro522

NTA: 🤯 Move away!

9inkski3s | 9inkski3s

Mama, get a 🚫🧑‍🤝‍🧑

TheRealNubian- | TheRealNubian-

NTA: Get a lawyer and restraining order 🚨

[deleted] | [deleted]

Protect your kids! 🔒

Acelley5 | Acelley5

🤔 NTA — family drama?

Haskap_2010 | Haskap_2010

NTA: 🏃‍♀️Run away fast!

KangarooImpressive57 | KangarooImpressive57

You're not the a-hole 🤔

djgrilledcheese | djgrilledcheese

NTA: Standing up for your rights 💪

MzOpinion8d | MzOpinion8d

🚨NTA: Get a lawyer🚨

CareFrenchieN | CareFrenchieN

No updates yet 🤔

Mariespo89 | Mariespo89

🤔 Is the world really made up of twins?

villalulaesi | villalulaesi

💔 Protect your babies!

[deleted] | [deleted]

NTA: Protect yourself 💪

ChloeBee95 | ChloeBee95

Need an update 🤔

LA0711 | LA0711

🤔 Concerned about a stepmom?

Whenthenighthascom3 | Whenthenighthascom3

NTA: Get a 💼 lawyer & 🔒 block Kim!

Loutrotte | Loutrotte

📝 Document everything 📝

[deleted] | [deleted]

🤔 NTA: Move away from the toxicity

mytwocentsworth01 | mytwocentsworth01

Empathy for the OP 💔

brandnew_daisy | brandnew_daisy

🤷‍♀️What would you do?

Total_Trash_Baby | Total_Trash_Baby

NTA but stay safe 🙏🏼

timid_one0914 | timid_one0914

🤦‍♀️ NTA but Joe's an idiot!

Emergency-Poetry-226 | Emergency-Poetry-226

🙏❤️ NTA! Document everything!

lucid_lurker13 | lucid_lurker13

No a-hole here!

ellumyn | ellumyn

Twin mama needs help! 💕

Acrobatic-Resident38 | Acrobatic-Resident38

Supporting a single parent 🤝

kaykaykatieee | kaykaykatieee

Girl, cut and run 🏃!

red_wonder89 | red_wonder89

Sending love and 🤞🏼

Snowstarr83 | Snowstarr83

NTA - evidence needed!

galaxybookworm123 | galaxybookworm123

NTA⁉️ Mental breakdown worries and safety in danger⁉️

innocentsubterfuge | innocentsubterfuge

Don't discount your 💪🏼 rights as a mom!

v_bored0 | v_bored0

🤔 Is Custody Battle On The Horizon?

ultrapaiva | ultrapaiva

No a-hole here 🤷‍♂️

EliotShawnSpencer | EliotShawnSpencer

Set boundaries 📃

blueeyedanddazed | blueeyedanddazed

No 🤔 here 🤝, safety first 💪

AnimeGirl62 | AnimeGirl62

Be safe! 🔒

I_Suggest_Therapy | I_Suggest_Therapy