Woman Asks If She’s A Jerk For Refusing To Pay For Her Bridesmaid’s Dress After She Ruined It

Bride and bridesmaid in fighting stance
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While most people who are going to a wedding are excited to have another celebration in their lives, sometimes it can lead to drama. Especially if you’re the bride and you decide to ask your guests who aren’t close family members to be involved in the preparations. But it happens and a bride who is getting married this year sought out the subreddit ‘AITA’ for some help with her bridesmaid who was creating trouble over the dress.

In the thread, she explains that the bridesmaid, named Kacy, wanted to wear a specific dress and when a store associate told her she couldn’t wear it because it would rip, she snatched another one off the mannequin instead. This led to a conflict when Kacy argued that she shouldn’t have to pay for the destroyed dress because it was covered by her friend’s (the bride's) budget and it wasn’t really her fault.

The drama didn’t end there as other guests got involved and each had their own opinion on what should be done. Have a read through the heated story below and be sure to share your thoughts in the comments!

Bride-to-be asks if she's wrong for not paying for the ruined bridesmaid dress 😯

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The Bridesmaid dress blunder leaves the bride questioning her duty to pay for it 😱

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Kacy's frustration with the plus-size line sparks family drama at the bridal shop

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Bridesmaid refuses to try on size 16 and insists on wearing a size too small, despite warnings.

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A woman discovers a bridesmaid ruined a dress and left her with a $250 bill

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A bridesmaid ruined her wedding dress and wanted the bride to pay for it. "No," said the bride firmly.

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The bride stands strong against the bridesmaid who ruined her dress and attempts to reason with her.

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Woman in a dilemma - should she pay for her bridesmaid's ruined dress? 🤔

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🤔 Is it wrong to not pay for a ruined bridesmaid dress?

On a wedding dress shopping trip, the bride refused to pay for a damaged bridesmaid dress that was too small for her bridesmaid. The bride-to-be and bridesmaid couldn't agree on the size and the shop assistant warned against picking a dress smaller than what was recommended.

However, the bridesmaid grabbed the dress off of a mannequin, causing it to rip. The bride feels she should not have to pay, and eventually, the mother of the bridesmaid that ruined the dress paid for it.

Should the bride-to-be pay for the dress, or is she in the right for refusing? Read on to find out the thoughts of commenters.

NTA ✋ Wedding store drama!

Solaris_Luna | Solaris_Luna

NTA: No 🙅‍♀️ paying for ruined dress

notlucyintheskye | notlucyintheskye

NTA! 🤦‍♀️ The price for playing childish games!

tomanonimos | tomanonimos

The bride refuses to pay for the bridesmaid's ruined dress 😲

DiamondHeist1970 | DiamondHeist1970

NTA! Kacy's Aunt's logic ⚠️

Killerlook5 | Killerlook5

🤔NTA: Rejecting bridesmaid's dress bill

QueenGuinevereKitten | QueenGuinevereKitten

NTA😬 Bridesmaid refuses to pay after dress is ruined

PoetLongjumping5961 | PoetLongjumping5961

NTA. Bridesmaid's dress mishap 😔

FlyingFlipPhone | FlyingFlipPhone

Family favoritism? 🤔 NTA!

alpacaboba | alpacaboba

NTA: 💰 Consequences for not listening 🤔

AnalApiairist | AnalApiairist

NTA: people *need* to learn the power of NO 🙅‍♀️

Suspicious_Dragonfly | Suspicious_Dragonfly

NTA! She caused all the problems 🤦‍♀️

icedtea4all | icedtea4all

The bride was 🙅🏻‍♀️! NTA

QueenYeen | QueenYeen

NTA: 🙄 no one should pay for a ruined dress

lobosaguila | lobosaguila

NTA: Pointing fingers won't help 🤷‍♀️

Wanderingbooks | Wanderingbooks

NTA! 🤦‍♀️ Plus-size reality check

beccabee333 | beccabee333

NTA, your groom's cousin needs to accept her body size 🤦

Lea0402 | Lea0402

NAH: Refusing To Pay

curlyhairfairy | curlyhairfairy

NTA: Formal dressing 👗 sizing not the issue 🤷‍♀️

Intelligent-Ad-4568 | Intelligent-Ad-4568

NTA 👍 A mother steps up for her daughter 👩‍👧

Jocelyn-1973 | Jocelyn-1973

Bride says NTA for not compensating bridesmaid for dress

NatashOverWorld | NatashOverWorld

NTA! Promise kept🤝

Every_Caterpillar945 | Every_Caterpillar945

NTA: Don't worry about the price tag 🙅‍♂️

dcoleski | dcoleski

NTA: 🙅‍♀️ Accidents happen 💔

akriirose | akriirose

NTA - not the a**hole!

md2-xx | md2-xx

🤔 NTA: enjoy wearing it!

Key_Bell8030 | Key_Bell8030

NTA: Buying a larger dress ✔️️️️️⬆️

RebeccaMCullen | RebeccaMCullen

NTA: bride refuses to pay👎

RipleyDarwin | RipleyDarwin

NTA: Choose a dress and buy it 💰

ScammerC | ScammerC

😟 Reality check time 🤔

danimal-crossing | danimal-crossing

NTA: Don't pay for the ruined dress

Nemateleotris | Nemateleotris

The bridesmaid ruined it 🤔 NTA!


NTA. 😂🤣 Could you pay?

Ez-peanut | Ez-peanut

A powerful response💪

icecreampenis | icecreampenis

Bride refusing to pay ✋

SmiteSam2005 | SmiteSam2005

NTA but 🤔 John's family 🤔

azsue123 | azsue123

NTA: Kacy pays if she breaks it 💰

FiSouthpaw | FiSouthpaw

NTA: Bride refuses to pay 🤬

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NTA if the bridesmaid's dress isn't true to size 🤔

nettiespaghettie | nettiespaghettie

NTA - No means no 😉

Fair_Text1410 | Fair_Text1410

No a-hole here👍

Total_Eagle_7359 | Total_Eagle_7359

NTA: Not The A**hole!

No-Nefariousness-9 | No-Nefariousness-9

NTA! *Don't* pay for her dress 🤦‍♀️

Top-Passion-1508 | Top-Passion-1508

NTA: 🤷 Bridesmaid's responsibility 💁‍♀️

Aadorabledead | Aadorabledead

No bad move here🤝

MorteDagger | MorteDagger

NTA! Bridesmaid shoulda paid 🤷‍♀️

_0Rinrin | _0Rinrin

No tolerance for size tantrums 🤬

Original-Trust-1665 | Original-Trust-1665

Body positivity FTW 💪

Admirable-Anywhere10 | Admirable-Anywhere10

NTA: pay for the dress but remove the bridesmaid!

Majestic-Leopard-563 | Majestic-Leopard-563

Being cautious 🤔

Consistent_Midnight2 | Consistent_Midnight2

🤔 NTA: taking a dress off a mannequin is not easy!

faesser | faesser

NTA: 🤷‍♀️Bridemaids dress responsibility 🤷‍♀️

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NTA: She messed up, she pays 💰

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Discovering how *censored* size labels are 😏

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NTA, but maybe some 💍 or a 🚗?

flaky-burnt | flaky-burnt

NTA: Kicking out a bridesmaid?

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NTA but 🤷‍♀️ what happened to Kacy?

voluntold9276 | voluntold9276

Bride refuses to pay 🤷‍♀️

BeneficialHurry8644 | BeneficialHurry8644

NTA: ‍bridesmaid ruined the dress

grumpapuss15 | grumpapuss15

NTA ✔️🙅‍♀️ Paying for the ruined dress?

dee_062113 | dee_062113

NTA: Not The A**hole 👎

livx94 | livx94

NTA: refusing to pay🤔

Pringleses_ | Pringleses_

NTA: KACY, her mom, and your future MIL 😆

Own_Can_3495 | Own_Can_3495

"family members are NTA"

deckcox | deckcox

NTA: 👉 Not Footing The Bill

No_Solution_9719 | No_Solution_9719

No expectations, but plenty of manners 🤝

JolyonFolkett | JolyonFolkett

🤷‍♀️NTA: Is it rude to refuse to pay for a bridesmaid's dress after it was ruined by the person wearing it?

MrWyald | MrWyald

Bride's bridesmaid ruins dress 🤯

Rrshirl | Rrshirl

Are fashion industry sizes skewed? 🤔

green-queen | green-queen

NTA: She *agreed* to pay for dresses 🤷‍♀️

Izzy4162305 | Izzy4162305

NTA for not paying for 💔dress drama!

tiny_house_writer | tiny_house_writer

NTA! 😉

SkrogedScourge | SkrogedScourge

🤦‍♀️ Bridesmaid ruins dress, the bride is 💯 not the a**hole

AssistPure | AssistPure