Weddings mark the beginning of a couple's happily ever after. It's a symbolic moment where two hearts meld into one and began beating in unison for the rest of their days.
But nobody told YouTuber Clancy Burke that planning her wedding would also be one of the most stressful moments of her life, where every decision (including her choice to not have brides) would be examined under a microscope.
A wedding is a union of souls. It's the moment where you stop being an "I" and start being a "we" — until death (or divorce) do you part.
From the moment you say yes to your proposal, the clock starts ticking! Decisions have to be made around the venue, music, food, and of course — the wedding party.
"This might be a little bit controversial," Clancy announced to her 450k YouTube followers, "but we are not doing a wedding party."
"It makes everyone else have to spend so much money, and it was like stressing me out thinking about who I would pick; leaving out this person,"
"I don't have a friend group. My friends come from everywhere, like, 'one here, one here, one there,' and none of them know each other," Clancy said.
"Why do I have to do bridesmaids if it's going to just cause that much more stress? How am I gonna ask them; what dresses am I going to force them to wear; are we gonna go on a trip?"
Unfortunately, some of her followers didn't feel the same way and began inundating her inbox with messages detailing how selfish she was being.
Most of Clancy's followers were eager to stand in solidarity with her decision not to compromise and made sure to point out that at the end of the day — it was her wedding.
"She and her fiancé are SUPPOSED to be the main focus of the wedding."
"Wow, imagine the nerve of a bride who wants her wedding the way she wants it," another said sarcastically.
As someone who is currently trying to avoid being guilted into dancing with his mother at his own upcoming wedding, I can totally relate to this.
Perhaps we'd all be better to do as Clancy plans to and say "to hell" with tradition. Your wedding isn't about your family or your wedding party for that matter — it's about you.
