Losing a spouse is one of the hardest things that anyone would ever have to go through. Saying "I do" and planning to spend a life with someone is many people's dream—when that dream is cut short, it's painful.
Having to bury someone you love is something no one wants to go through. But, finding out that they have been cheating on you—well that's even harder. It makes a lot of things come into perspective.
TikTok user, widow, and mother, Bridgette Davis, shared a TikTok video that went viral about losing her husband. However, the video was not about mourning his death, but instead, the crazy happenings that happened after his death.
So she was the one who had to take the responsibility of informing his mistress that he had died.
In the video, she shared a screenshot from the conversation with the mistress.
After informing the mistress of her husband's death, the mistress texted Davis that she was losing it. She then asked if she can go to where Davis' husband is buried. Davis replied "no."
Many people on TikTok said that Davis was in the wrong for not allowing her to grieve properly. Needless to say, Davis and her two children had a loss, but they weren't the only ones.
So because of that fact, some believed that despite the wrongdoing in concerns of the affair, heartache is heartache and grief is grief.
Others asked the million-dollar question.
Others on TikTok were curious to know if the mistress was totally blind and oblivious that the husband was married at all. Sometimes, in affairs, the "other woman" has no idea that the guy is married at all. If so, some said she "wasn't to blame.
Responding to comments, Davis revealed that the mistress did indeed know that her husband was married with two kids. The mistress shared she knew, and either way, that her husband "needed support" and she was there for him.
Davis shared that her husband suffered from bipolar disorder and had rough several years. The two had been with each other for over a decade.
But not only did her husband refuse to get any kind of help, he had also been cheating on her repeatedly. Davis had even caught him doing so.
Every time the two had gotten into a confrontation, her husband would threaten suicide. Eventually, her husband fleed to Mexico, revealed he had spent all of their money, and gotten into crazy amounts of trouble.
Her husband ended up living with his parents in their cabin an hour and 45 minutes away. Although they were still married, Davis said she wanted to protect her children until her husband got help.
Davis said that it was hard to watch the man she loves deteriorate right in front of her eyes over time.
I truly can't imagine having to go through that kind of pain.
While she didn't want to paint a bad image of her daughter's father in their minds, she felt sharing the story of her husband was very important.
She was hoping that telling the story could provide some kind of comfort to others who might be going through a similar situation.
In the end, many women online applauded her for her strength and her courage.
Specifically for cutting the mistress out: people felt she had not given her room to grieve
But for the most part, after sharing her story, many realized that Davis was a warrior woman who was doing the best she can in a heartbreaking situation.
