Marriage’s intricacies differ for everyone, but there’s the general rule of “for better or worse” – words spoken during the vows. Unfortunately for some people, “worse” comes sooner than they expect, and that’s the truest test of their union.
Also, there’s no right or wrong age to get married beyond the legal restriction of 18, but it’s often better to mature before making such a long-term commitment. A lady on Reddit asked fellow Redditors on the thread, Am In The A-Hole? to judge a matter between her and her husband.
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You’d first notice how young the couple is, although the husband is in his late 20s.
Scroll down for the details and Redditor’s reactions.
The Couple Face A Dilemma
They’re Young At Marriage And In Life
The Reddit user is a 23-year-old woman who married a man five years older than her after dating for two years and says they’ve been married for three. Based on these calculations, she met him as an 18-year-old woman when he was her current age.
As a married couple, they planned a romantic vacation that involved hiking and other activities because they’re both active individuals. Unfortunately, she lost her leg in an accident a few months before the vacation date, causing her to back out compulsorily.
Here’s the dilemma – her husband, 27, still wants to go on the trip, and this time, he’s proposing to take his younger sister in her stead. Out of spite, the poster said he shouldn’t, and she’d rather her slot waste than for the sister-in-law to replace her.
She asked the subreddit if she was a jerk for her decision.
Redditors Unanimously Agree She’s Not The A-Hole
She Could Get Her Money Back
Medical Issues Are Extenuating Circumstances For Health Insurance
The Company Wouldn’t Want Bad PR
The Couple Needs Therapy To Deal With The Brewing Resentment
The subreddit agreed that the poster wasn’t an A-hole; rather, her husband was insensitive. Although she highlighted that he’s been supportive throughout her healing process, the family hasn’t helped – both hers and the in-laws.
It shouldn’t be a question from the husband to say he wants to travel without his wife, especially on a trip they planned together, knowing she’s incapable of participating. This situation is unfortunate, but it’s the greatest test of their love and marriage for now.
The wife’s youth comes into play here because she’s never had time to grow and know herself, having met this man at 18 – the cusp of adulthood. Also, it’s bad that the family isn’t supporting them as they should, but it’s not surprising.
Many people don’t fare well with life-changing illnesses in a loved one as it exposes a selfish part of themselves. Becoming the caregiver can easily build resentment because it feels like the dependent is killing your buzz.
The best way to survive this is by speaking to a therapist together. Meanwhile, Reddit users suggested she could get a refund because of the extenuating circumstance.
