One woman is asking the Internet if her expectations for her boyfriend on her birthday were too high.
Diamonds aren’t every girl’s best friend — some of us have less expensive taste and don’t particularly care for shiny gifts on special occasions, but that doesn’t mean that a little bit of effort every now and then isn’t appreciated. One woman took to Mumsnet to ask if her expectations for her fairly new boyfriend were too high for her 30th birthday .
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A woman who goes by the username Fairylights246 brought up her birthday date with her boyfriend on a forum to ask if she’d been unreasonable.
“I’ve been with my boyfriend for only 9 months, so not a long time I know. But I feel disappointed and sad by the lack of effort my boyfriend has shown for my birthday,” she began her post.
“He got me a random joke card that had no relevance to us, and seemed like something he already had lying around,” she started.
“He got me a necklace that literally broke after 10 minutes of wearing it, it looked really cheap, and he told me it was from amazon… I found it and it was [$14]. Like what?? I don’t understand why he has been so cheap?! He is very caring and affectionate, tells me everyday he loves me, but this has just felt so disappointing,” she explained .
“We went out for a birthday meal and he suggested we pay half each,” she added.
“He is not struggling financially, he has thousands in his savings, and often treats himself to new clothes, other expenses,” she continued. “I don’t know what to say to him, I don’t want to upset him, but I don’t feel very special and I feel crappy about the lack of effort, romance, and just general desire to make a fuss of me on my 30th.”
The commenters on the forum definitely took her side.
“Going Dutch on your birthday meal out is worse than the cheap gift imo. He sounds stingy, nothing worse than a mean man,” one commenter wrote, while another added , “If this is the effort he goes to your birthday then it is probably not going to get much better. It’s more the effort that’s the issue not the money and it really doesn’t sound like he put any thought or effort into any of it.”
What do you think? Were her expectations too high or did he seriously underperform? Let us know in the comments!
