Edit: An unexpected turn of events leads to an outpouring of love and support for the poster.

Boss and wife’s kindness questioned after accusation of triggering daughter’s eating disorder

A group chat leads to a difficult dinner experience for one woman and her daughter.

Stef, a 15 year old, is curious about the fit lifestyle as her mom orders a salad at dinner

Educating her daughter on healthy eating while navigating an eating disorder recovery, Melissa has to be mindful of her choices.

Mum’s restaurant visit causes distress, leaving her daughter with no vegetarian options

Melissa weighed in on the debate about a plant-based diet, emphasizing its cultural and religious significance, not its effect on weight.

Mom’s ordering of a salad triggers daughter’s eating disorder

A mother’s ordering of a salad triggered her daughter’s eating disorder, leaving her in silence

Mum’s ‘skinny’ salad order triggers daughter’s eating disorder, proving the power of example.

Mother’s insensitive comment triggers her daughter’s eating disorder

A woman is accused of triggering her daughter’s eating disorder after ordering a salad at a restaurant
A woman recently had a night out at a restaurant with her boss and his family. The boss’s daughter, Stef (15), was particularly interested in the woman’s dietary habits and asked her questions about her diet. The woman was honest and told Stef that she eats everything in moderation and follows a plant-based diet. However, when the woman ordered a salad from the menu since there were no vegetarian options available, her boss’s wife, Melissa, accused her of triggering Stef’s eating disorder. The woman tried to explain that it was a religious thing and not a diet thing, but Melissa dismissed her explanation and tore her down. This story is both shocking and upsetting, but it leads us to the next section: the comments and reactions to this Reddit story.
Not the a**hole

NTA: Dietary restrictions are personal

Moms can be the worst ♀️

NTA: Mom’s insecurity?

NTA: Mom’s stress from daughter’s eating disorder

Confronting an intrusive boss’s wife!

NTA: Vegetarian shaming?

Moms, don’t do this

Is refusing to eat chicken an a**hole move?
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NTA: Melissa’s insecurity triggers daughter’s eating disorder

NTA:The daughter’s fragile condition shouldn’t be brought to group settings ♂️

NTA –

Conflict between colleagues?

A parent’s fatphobia ?

Strict vegetarian tips

Insecure mom *accused* of triggering eating disorder

Mother triggers daughter’s eating disorder?

Strict vegetarianism in the face of peer pressure.

Mother’s actions spark

⚖️ NTA: No wrong in ordering a salad

NTA: why an eating disorder?

♀️ NTA: Melissa owes an apology

NTA –

♀️ Parenting gone wrong?

NTA: Parenting isn’t always easy

NTA: Mother’s obsession with weight & looks may have caused daughter’s eating disorder.

Mom is the , not you ♂️

Boss’s inappropriate behavior?

NTA: Mom wasn’t ‘triggering’

Mom accused of after ordering salad ️

NTA: Assumptions about her daughter’s diet?

Parents can be the ♀️ trigger of their child’s eating disorder?

Don’t let others control your diet! ️

Unpopular opinion: NTA!
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NTA: You did nothing wrong ♀️

NTA: Triggering an eating disorder

NTA: File a complaint

Mama drama!

Verbal Abuse? NTA!

Respect for beliefs

No salad? No problem! ♀️

NTA: Taking control of the dinner table

Parents: ♀️ ♂️ Controlling Can Trigger Eating Disorders

No one is at fault?

♀️ NTA: Parenting gone wrong!
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Mom’s attitude triggers daughter’s eating disorder ♀️

A mother’s guilt and anxiety over her daughter’s eating disorder

No one’s job to walk

Protecting yourself

Food opinions & triggers

Compassion for a mom accused of triggering her daughter’s eating disorder

No need to stress ☹️

NTA: Bullying for self-gain?

NTA: Avoid outings

Is mom’s obsession to blame?

OP not the , boss sorry

NTA: Open and honest⁉️

Venting on a fake AITA

Mum’s food policing causes

NTA! Careful, OP!

❓ NTA? NAH? ESH?

Explaining diet choices

Faith-based inquiry

NTA: daughter needs therapy

NTA: Respect ♀️

Don’t let this happen again.

Don’t wait until it’s too late!

Supportive response to a difficult situation

“NTA!” ♀️ Guest berated for ordering a salad at dinner.

Not your fault

NTA: Disgusting reaction!

Not the a-hole: A salad is a perfectly fine meal

NTA: Your triggers are ✋ not your responsibility

Mother’s tantrum triggers

⚕️ NTA: dietary restrictions aren’t your responsibility

Parents, don’t control diets!

Is it real or fake?
