Should She Raise Her Boyfriend’s Siblings Taken By CPS?

Moving in together can be a big step, especially when you’ve been dating for less than a year! I recently found myself in a tricky situation when my boyfriend Eric asked to move into my house after struggling to afford a place in our high COL area. Little did I know, his family situation was a total mess! His siblings were in desperate need of a home, and he wanted us to take them in. ‍ ‍ ‍ But was I ready for such a huge responsibility? Let’s dive into this emotional rollercoaster of a story!

Moving In Together… Too Soon?

Inheriting Grandma’s House in a High COL Area

Hesitantly Agreeing to Live Together After Less Than a Year

Feeling Like It’s Too Soon, But Seeing a Future Together

Eric’s Family Situation Is a Mess!

‍ ‍ ‍ Eric’s Three Younger Half-Siblings in Trouble

Kids Sleeping on Aunt’s Floor Due to Foster Home Shortage ❌

Eric’s Mom Denies Boyfriend’s Actions, Won’t Leave Him

Eric Wants Me to Let His Siblings Move In!

Feeling Bad, But Not Wanting the Responsibility ‍♀️

I’d Have to Financially Support Them Without Government Help ❌

Fighting for Two Days, Relationship on the Rocks

Not Willing to Compromise, Don’t Want to Evict Him & His Siblings

Breakup Update: Things Didn’t Go as Planned

Boyfriend Flipped Out, Packed His Bags

We’ve Broken Up… That’s the End of It

He’s Actually Hard-Working & Kind, Lashed Out Due to Stress

Returning My Key, Not Coming Back

Sad, But Probably for the Best

Should I Have Taken In My Boyfriend’s Siblings? The Internet Weighs In!

Well, folks, it looks like this story has come to a dramatic conclusion! After fighting for two days about whether to take in Eric’s siblings, our relationship hit the rocks. I showed him this post, and he totally flipped out on me! He packed his bags and is staying in a hotel now. We’ve basically broken up. I feel awful for his situation and his siblings, but people in the comments pegged him as some kind of broke mooch. In reality, he’s an incredibly hard-working and kind guy who lashed out due to stress. He gave me back my key, and it looks like he won’t be coming back. I’m sad, but it’s probably for the best. Let’s see what the internet has to say about this emotional rollercoaster!

Taking on three kids not your responsibility

Don’t sacrifice yourself for your boyfriend’s siblings.

Don’t be a martyr. It’s not your responsibility.

Raising 3 kids after a year of dating? NTA

Raising trauma-filled kids requires training, don’t do it. ⚠️

Set boundaries and make sure he moves out before bringing siblings.

Compassionate NTA refuses to take on boyfriend’s siblings’ guardianship

NTA but it’s not a feasible option to care for them

Be careful, agreeing to take them in may give them legal rights

Suspicious motives? Commenter doubts boyfriend’s intentions.

Self-care first, then help others.

Sarcastic suggestion turns into NTA affirmation without judgement.

NTA, don’t be guilted into raising his siblings alone

NTA stands up for herself and seeks foster care advice.

Boyfriend needs to step up and become a licensed foster parent.

Retired psychotherapist advises against taking in boyfriend’s siblings.

Don’t let him take advantage of your kindness.

NTA suggests boundaries to protect oneself when parenting traumatized children.

Taking on his siblings is too much, NTA

Don’t take on other people’s burdens. Learn from this experience.

Dump the leech and his family.

Don’t burn your life down. He thinks you’re a monster

Don’t be guilted into raising his siblings for a bad boyfriend

Boyfriend wants her to take in siblings, relationship over.

NTA! Don’t let him baby trap you Kick him out!

NTA. Boyfriend and girlfriend ≠ marriage. Financially unprepared for kids.

NTA. Foster care might be better. Reconsider this relationship.

Partner’s worldview shaped by addict mother, believes they owe siblings.

NTA. Providing a loving home is hard work, not for everyone. ❤️

State intervention may be best for traumatized siblings. NTA.

Stand your ground! ‍♀️ Boyfriend is crossing a line.

Becoming an instant mom of 3 with a man of 1 year? NTA.

Don’t become a mother of 4, consult a lawyer & move on

Nope. Boyfriend expects too much & relationship may not survive.

Relationship turned transactional? NTA, kick him out!

NTA but boyfriend’s request is unreasonable. Time to move on.

Taking in boyfriend’s 3 siblings can be a legal nightmare.

NTA. Talk to CPS about not raising the family but helping financially.

Red flags raised about boyfriend’s family overstaying and predatory behavior.

User advises against taking in boyfriend’s siblings due to complications.

NTA. Eric should find housing for siblings instead of exploiting GF’s house.

Relationship over. Boyfriend wants her to support his entire family.

Concerns raised about work schedules and childcare arrangements

Boundaries crossed? Commenter questions boyfriend’s intentions and actions.

Dating less than a year, struggling financially, don’t take in siblings. NTA

Taking in three siblings is a huge commitment. NTA.

Boyfriend’s siblings are not your responsibility, it’s time to break up

Legal and financial hurdles make it difficult for boyfriend to adopt. NTA.

Dump the boyfriend and the guilt. NTA

Dump him ASAP! NTA for not taking his burden.

Becoming a licensed kinship placement and accepting financial help is important

Don’t set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm.

Protect your assets and cut him off.

Don’t be a**ed to raise your boyfriend’s siblings.

NTA. Don’t take in these children, it’s a horrible mistake.

Don’t let anyone tell you that you’re the a**hole. Taking in traumatized children requires more than just providing a roof over their heads.

Don’t be a doormat, you’re NTA for setting boundaries.

Dating for a year doesn’t mean being a foster parent.

User advises to stop being a mom to boyfriend and demand equality ❤️

NTA warns about legal risks of letting boyfriend’s siblings stay.

Kick him out before he squats and ruins your life. NTA

Boyfriend’s irresponsibility shouldn’t guilt-trip you into taking his siblings.

You’re NTA for not wanting to raise your BF’s siblings

NTA. Taking on Eric’s siblings is a huge responsibility

NTA, but raising the siblings might not be the best option

Taking in boyfriend’s siblings is an emotional Kobayashi Maru

Not obligated to support his whole family. He should take responsibility.

Don’t sacrifice your future for someone else’s problems

Taking on kids is a huge responsibility. You’re NTA

Help him find a new place, end the relationship

Supportive comment urges boyfriend to take responsibility for siblings.

NTA, ditch him. Supporting his siblings is too much.

Raising his siblings is a big ask for a new relationship

Boyfriend wants her to raise siblings, but won’t take responsibility. NTA

Important questions to consider before taking in siblings.

Get him out! You’re NTA for wanting boundaries.

Foster parenting is a huge responsibility and requires immense effort.

BF’s request to take in siblings shows red flags

Self-care is important! You made the right decision. ❤

Not equipped to raise traumatized siblings, NTA for setting boundaries.

Adding 3 kids to a new relationship? NTA, take care.

Proud and knowledgeable commenter supports OP’s decision.

Be cautious about getting involved with someone from a troubled family

Red flag alert! Think twice before committing financially.

Becoming a foster parent takes under 3 months

Don’t let yourself get pulled into that toxic mess.