A pregnant woman is facing a dilemma as her husband wants their child to be born in his home country, Mexico, while she wants to be in control of her labor and delivery. Although her husband’s family could be present during the birth, she is uncomfortable with the idea of delivering in a hospital she has never been to with a doctor who does not speak English. She also wants to be as comfortable as possible during labor and delivery, and she feels like she should have a say in where their child will be born. Her husband, however, is upset and thinks she is being selfish for not considering his family’s feelings. Do you think she is the a**hole for refusing to have her baby in Mexico?
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A pregnant woman is faced with a dilemma when her husband insists on going to Mexico for the birth of their child, to make it easier for his family to be present. The woman, however, is concerned about her comfort, medical care and about language barrier. She also prefers to be in control of her labor and delivery. The couple had met in the US when the husband was on a visa, and now the woman is a citizen while he is from Mexico. The woman’s family could travel to Mexico easily, but the husband’s family would have trouble getting visas to the US. The husband had cited cost, dual citizenship and fairness for his family as reasons for going to Mexico. However, the woman is worried about the medical care, the language barrier, and the lack of control over her birth experience. Is she being selfish or inconsiderate, or is she entitled to choose where she wants to give birth? Let’s take a look at the comments and reactions to this post.
Giving birth in a foreign country with a language barrier? HELL NO ♀️

Mexican lawyer advises pregnant woman not to give birth in Mexico

OP’s husband wants a ‘destination childbirth’ for his family to be there. NTA.
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It’s his body on the line, he can choose.

Choosing to give birth in the US for citizenship. NTA.
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Pregnant woman stands firm against husband’s birth demands. NTA.

Pregnant woman refuses to give birth in husband’s home country

Commenter warns against giving birth in husband’s home country

Prioritizing convenience over safety? NTA, you’re the hero ♀️

Pregnancy, travel, and cultural differences clash. Stay put, Mama Bear! ✈️

Compromise by visiting his family when the baby is older

Pregnancy is not equal, it’s her body on the line

Prioritizing comfort and safety during childbirth.

Pregnant woman refuses to give birth in husband’s home country due to pandemic and language barriers. NTA

Pregnant woman advised to research and prioritize her health and safety

Commenter warns of abuser’s isolation tactics

Giving birth in a foreign country can be scary

Respect personal decisions about childbirth. No interference needed

Pregnant woman refuses husband’s request to give birth in his home country.

Red flags in a relationship. Seek support and leave ASAP

Stand your ground! NTA

Respectful partner: NTA. Both families: stay out of delivery room.

Pregnant woman stands up to controlling husband on birthing plans

Choose your comfort and safety over family expectations. ❤

NTA. Your husband wants to drag you to foreign country to give birth.

NTA. Flying while pregnant can be risky.

Birth decision: Woman’s comfort over husband’s desire. #NTA
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Communicating with medical staff is crucial during childbirth.

Discuss postpartum wishes with husband’s family to avoid unwanted visitors.

NTA. Consider legal hurdles and flight restrictions before coming back.

Choosing a birth location should prioritize the least stress

Stand your ground! Your body, your choice.

Giving birth abroad with family during a pandemic? NTA.

Prioritizing comfort and health during pregnancy.

Safe delivery over cost! Don’t risk medical procedure in Mexico

Pregnant woman pressured to give birth in husband’s country. Stay put!

Commenter warns OP of husband’s harmful proposal, advises NTA.

Husband’s actions raise red flags for pregnant woman’s safety

Concerned commenter questions husband’s motives for birth location choice.

Choosing where to give birth: a difficult decision for couples ❤

Pregnant woman stands her ground in where to give birth

Giving birth in a foreign country without communication is scary

Giving birth is stressful enough, NTA for wanting communication with doctor

Pregnant woman considers giving birth in husband’s home country. Concerns for medical complications and language barrier.

Is her husband planning to move her to Mexico? NTA.

Stick to your gut and deliver where *you* want to

Choose your own birth adventure! NTA, your body, your choice

You decide where to give birth
