Man Insists Wife Eavesdropped And ‘Disrespected’ His Family By Going Home After Hearing Him Call Her An ‘Inconvenience’

A husband calls his wife an ‘inconvenience’ and she responds by going home.

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Man insists wife was wrong to leave after he called her an ‘inconvenience’

He accused her of disrespecting his family by eavesdropping, but she had heard him call her an ‘inconvenience’

Husband blames wife for “disrespecting” his family after she overheard him call her an “inconvenience”

Man reflects on causing tension with his wife after calling her an ‘inconvenience’

What happens when you take a chance and it backfires?

Taking a chance to build a better relationship with family can be a difficult decision. In this case, a wife was on an annual family vacation and while preparing a fruit salad, overheard her husband call her an ‘inconvenience’. Feeling disrespected, she booked a ticket home on the first plane. Her husband insists that this was disrespectful and juvenile, but was the wife wrong for eavesdropping? Our readers react with their comments and thoughts on the situation.

Is this marriage worth saving?

The comment suggests that the husband doesn’t care for the wife, and the replies support that sentiment by stating that the OP should get out of the situation and deserves better.

Red flags ahead!

The comment urges the OP not to be gaslighted, while the replies express their indignation at the situation and suggest that the OP should leave the relationship.

NTA: Husband’s red flag behavior!

The commenter is quick to point out that the husband’s behavior is a ‘red flag’, as he did not defend his wife upon hearing his family’s criticism towards her. The replies agree, emphasizing that the husband’s behavior is a ‘deal breaker’ and that he prioritizes his family over his wife.

NTA: What’s going on here?

The comment states that the writer is ‘not the a**hole’ (NTA) in the situation, and expresses shock that the other spouses were allowed at the table but OP (original poster) was not. Replies to the comment suggest that the other spouses were ‘in on it’ and that we need to know why OP was not allowed at the table.

NTA! Why stay in a marriage where you don’t feel respected?

The commenter found the man’s behavior towards his wife disrespectful, and suggested that she not stay in such a marriage. One reply shared a similar story of how their ex-husband treated them, and the other reply pointed out that the man and his mother were referring to his *wife* as an inconvenience.

OP’s husband is NTA for treating her as an inconvenience!

The original poster’s husband wants them to stop pushing to be around her family, but when she stops pushing and goes home, he still gets angry. He’s not worried at all about her feelings or hurt. Everyone agrees that he is Not The A**hole here. The replies provide insight that her husband is only thinking of her best interests, but it shows how irrational it all is.

NTA: Toxic husband and family!

The comment calls the husband NTA (not the a**hole) as his family was being nasty towards his wife and he was trying to gaslight her. Replies suggest that the family is only upset because they missed having the vacation nanny around.

Heartbreaking NTA ‍♀️

The commentor was singled out by her MIL as not belonging on their family vacation and her husband didn’t apologize for calling her an ‘inconvenience’. The replies agree that the commentor is Not The A**hole in this situation and that she should have been invited from the beginning.

Married man disrespecting wife

The commenter declared that the man is NTA (not the a**hole) for his behavior, as he openly expressed his disregard for his wife and did not include her in his family events. The replies agreed with the sentiment, emphasizing the a**hole-like behavior of the man and suggesting an alternate course of action that the wife could have taken.

NTA – bad marriage?

The comment suggests that the husband is treating his wife differently than his siblings’ spouses on vacations, raising a red flag about the marriage. The comment concludes that the husband is “NTA” and that the marriage may not last.

Married life 101: ‍❤️‍ + ‍ ‍ ‍ =

The commenter noted that NTA, as the OP’s husband should have expected her to join him on family vacations regardless of how short they have been married. The in-laws were condemned as a**holes for not understanding this, and the husband was also labeled an a**hole for agreeing with them instead of backing up the OP. The OP was not accused of eavesdropping, as she had merely overheard the conversation.

NTA! ‍♂️ Respect yourself & leave his a**!

The comment’s sentiment is clear: the husband is the issue, and the commenter encourages the wife to respect herself and leave her husband’s side. The reply echoes the sentiment and adds emphasis to the comment’s message.

NTA: Not Welcome

The commenter argues that the husband was wrong for calling his wife an ‘inconvenience’ and not having her back. The commenter believes that the husband and his family should have welcomed her instead of having a snarky conversation when they thought she couldn’t hear.

‍♂️ Get to know the family first!

The comment suggested that the man get a new husband and to get to know the family before involving government contracts. It was agreed upon with a reply that one should remember they are marrying the family, not just the man.

NTA: Wife rightfully went home ‍♀️

The commentor believes the wife was not in the wrong for going home after being called an ‘inconvenience’, and that the husband should have stepped in to support her instead of allowing his family to disrespect her.

NTA: Respect is not a one-way street!

The commenter declares Not The A**hole in this situation as the husband and his family have been excluding the wife from events and bad-mouthing her when she is present. The impression made by the wife’s response is dismissed as the blame has been placed on her for a long time. The comment reply agrees, stating that the wife was not eavesdropping and that she was justified in responding the way she did.

Sad times ahead

The commentor expressed sympathy for the article’s subject, and stated that the subject was ‘Not The A-hole’ and should reconsider their marriage.

Should she stay with him?

The comment suggests that the husband is treating the wife like an inconvenience, and asks why should she stay with him if he’s behaving this way. The comment concludes by saying the wife is not the a**hole in this situation.

Husband’s family doesn’t like wife!

The comment suggests that the husband complains about his wife to his family constantly and that is why his family doesn’t like her. The comment then states that the husband really sucks and labels him as NTA (not the a**hole).

NTA! Disrespectful behavior Time to move on

The commenter believes the man’s behavior is highly disrespectful and doesn’t see a good future in the marriage. They suggest the man leave if possible.

Man’s family and show disrespect for his wife

The comment said that the man’s wife is never good enough, no matter what she does. His family is also showing her that they won’t accept her, and her husband is okay with it. The comment concluded that the wife is NTA, but the husband’s family is a cesspit of a-hole**rys. One reply asked why the husband goes on family vacations without his wife, indicating that he might not treat her well.

NTA: a cowardly husband ‍♂️

The commenter declared that the husband was a coward for not telling the wife upfront that the family was uncomfortable with her attending the vacation. They suggested that the wife should consider getting out of the marriage due to the hurt from the husband’s cowardice. No replies were found.

Leave him!

The commenter advises the original poster to leave her husband and his family who do not accept her. They believe that her husband is only with her for money or some other benefit and does not love her.

NTA:

The comment suggests that the husband’s family are horrible people, and that the wife should consider cutting her losses. No replies were found.

‍♂️ Not an ideal marriage

The comment suggests that the woman should not have married the man as he had disrespected her by calling her an ‘inconvenience’. No replies were found.

NTA: Husband’s family drama

The commenter believes the husband was not the a**hole in this situation, but questions why he did not defend his wife or invite her on family holidays. No replies found.

Sad state of a marriage

The comment expresses sadness at the state of the marriage discussed in the article; the commenter believes that both people deserve better.

Married to a stranger?

The commentator noted that it was strange the couple got married in the first place, and that the husband should want his wife present during a family trip; they concluded the wife was not the a**hole in the situation.

NTA! Don’t let him fool you

Commenter suggests that the wife is not the a-hole in this situation and encourages her to not let her husband fool her. The commenter also questions why she is being treated differently than others in the family.

Hoping for a family reunion?

A commenter expresses their disappointment at the husband’s lack of considering his wife a part of the family, and suggests that the wife should move out. No replies were found.

Whoa!

A comment calls out the husband for treating the wife as a maid. No replies found.

Husband Wife

The comment suggests the husband is NTA and that the wife should spend some time apart and consider counseling.

NTA – it’s not you, it’s them ‍♀️

The commenter is trying to encourage the OP to stand up for themselves and not take the blame. They point out that OP’s husband and family don’t respect them and that it’s a red flag. They also call out the toxic behavior of the husband and family and encourage the OP to find people who treat them right.

NTA: Tell your husband to grow a spine!

The comment states that the husband is Not The A**hole – they advise him to tell his family that they need to accept his wife or neither of them will be included. There is no need to warm up to her “on their terms.”

NTA: Stand up for yourself!

The comment suggested that the wife should stand up for herself and leave her husband, as he did not respect her enough to spend time with her. No replies were found.

NTA: Husband blames wife, who leaves after being disrespected

The comment’s author believes the wife is Not The A**hole (NTA) and believes the husband should have taken her side when the topic came up, instead of blaming her and calling her “pushy”. The comment’s author also believes the husband’s family would not have warmed up to her after the remark, and that the wife was not an a**hole for leaving the situation where she was disrespected, and that the husband’s family was talking about her behind her back.

NTA: husband’s direct sabotage

The commenter is of the opinion that the husband’s behavior is not the a**hole (NTA) as he is directly sabotaging his wife’s efforts to make peace with the family. The commenter does not see any point in the wife continuing to try, given the husband’s actions.

NTA kicks out disrespectful husband

The commenter suggested kicking out the husband for disrespecting the wife by calling her an ‘inconvenience’ and sending him to his mother’s house, so none of them have to see him ever again.

Not settling for less ‍♂️

The commenter wrote that the man was “not the a**hole”, but cautioned him not to settle for someone who doesn’t love him.

Time to reconsider

The commenter suggests that NTA (not the a**hole) and that the husband’s negative attitude towards the wife is a red flag. They also advise her to get out before having kids with him, as his family sounds devious and dangerous.

NTA: Family doesn’t like OP

The comment expresses that the original poster (OP) is not the a**hole and that their family doesn’t like them because of their own husband. The comment expresses feelings of sympathy for the OP, suggesting that they deserve better.

NTA: Time to separate?

The comment suggests that it’s time for the husband and wife to have a trial separation to see if they really want to lead this life. The comment suggests the husband should stay with a family member and turn his own words against him.

Married but not considered family?

The commenter is Not the A**hole (NTA) in this situation, calling out why the man’s wife is not welcomed on family vacations and why she is not considered family despite being married.

NTA: Wife not a new GF!

The comment replies that the man’s wife is not his new girlfriend and he’s treating her like one of 2 months, which is disrespectful.

NTA!

The commenter is not the a-hole and declares that the husband should not have married his wife if he is unwilling to treat her like family or cowardly talks behind her back.

NTA! Divorce advice

The comment says NTA (not the a**hole) and advises the commenter to divorce their husband as he has been excluding them and allowing his family to disrespect them. The comment doesn’t receive any replies.

NTA: OP deserves better

The commenter says that the OP is not the a**hole, and apologizes for the terrible treatment the OP received from their so-called husband. No replies were found.

NTA: He treated her as an inconvenience

The commenter thought the husband was wrong for treating his wife like an inconvenience and not including her in his family. No replies were found.

Husband’s family is nasty

The comment expresses disbelief at the husband badmouthing his wife for wanting to spend time with him and his family. It also asks if the husband has any redeeming features at all.

NTA: Is marriage worth it?

The comment suggests that the husband’s family doesn’t like the wife and that the husband is trash talking her. The comment suggests the question: Is marriage worth it?

Not the a-hole

The commenter believes the husband is not the a-hole in this situation, and that the married couple should create their own branch of family. The commenter further suggests that the husband’s words show who he truly is.

NTA: ‍♂️

The commenter says they are ‘not the a**hole’ and wonders why the wife is married to the husband when his family didn’t want her to join them on vacation. They suggest the wife to ‘get out while [she] can’.

A heart-breaking story of toxicity

A comment expresses sympathy for the OP and asks if race played a role in the situation. No further replies were found.

NTA: Marriage under scrutiny

The comment expresses support for the wife, claiming that the husband’s behavior is inappropriate and that his family’s actions are unacceptable. No replies found.

‍♂️ NTA: blaming for home

The commentor is not the a**hole (NTA) and cannot understand why the man would blame his wife for coming back home after he called her an ‘inconvenience’.

NTA: husband’s family disrespecting wife?

The comment suggests that the husband’s family may be disrespecting his wife by not allowing her on family vacations. The comment also questions why the husband would be so disrespectful to his wife and why his family accepts it.

NTA: Your husband should be your partner, not your oppressor.

The comment stated that being disrespected like this isn’t normal in a loving relationship and questioned what the wife is getting out of the relationship. No replies were found.

NTA: How long did you know your SO before marriage?

The comment suggests that it was a mistake to not get to know the family before marriage, and that the family’s opinion is important to consider when marrying someone. The comment also implies that the husband might not even like his wife.

Is it disrespectful to go home after being called an “inconvenience”?

The comment suggests that the man is scared to do what needs to be done, and calls him YTA (you’re the a**hole) for not choosing himself.

NTA: Is it an arranged marriage?

The comment questions if the marriage is arranged and suggests that the husband doesn’t care for the wife.

NTA: He sounds like an a**hole.

Commenter believes that the husband’s behavior was wrong and it was right for the wife to go home. They label him an a**hole in the comment.

NTA! Your husband’s an a**hole for not including you on a family vacation.

The commentor claims that the husband was wrong for not assuming that the wife would go on a family vacation and calls him an a**hole for not including her on it. No replies were found.

NTA: Respect yourself ✊

The commenter reminds us that we should not settle for disrespect, and suggests walking away from toxic relationships as if it were a vacation.