While the institution of marriage is valued by many and is thought to be something that provides people with stability and inspiration to stay together, it is not immune to arguments or even quarrels that lead to divorce. What is not accepted is when arguments are solved through physical and/or emotional abuse.
Certain behaviors of partners have become quite common and include name-calling or constantly finding fault in each other. And unfortunately, it sometimes also involves one partner showing their authority and disrespecting the other with a “punishment,” kind of like “the rod must mend the evil.”
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Such was the case of a Redditor named u/charlieoutlaw23, who recently shared a post about how her husband tampered with her alarm clock to teach her a lesson for refusing to accompany him to a party but ended up disrupting her study schedule and causing her to miss an important exam.
A husband’s surprise punishment of rolling back his wife’s alarm clock has upset her.
Husband gives wife a wake-up call: sets back her alarm clock to show her priorities
He taught his wife a tough lesson in prioritization – with a half-hour clock adjustment!
The ❗ husband ❗ punished his ☹ wife ☹ with a time ⏳ lesson ⏳ in priorities.
The husband provides a harsh lesson in priorities and pushes back wife’s alarm clock by half an hour 😮
A lesson in priorities gone wrong: Student experiences hassle trying to reschedule exam after an unexpected delay
Husband punishes wife by putting her alarm clock back half an hour after she refuses to attend events
Lesson learned – don’t mess with your partner’s priorities ♀️
The day before her final exam, a husband asked his wife to attend a friend’s birthday party, but she refused due to her busy schedule. In response to her refusal, he resets her alarm clock back by half an hour and as a result, she was unable to take her exam.
Needless to say, she was very upset and their relationship is still tense. Moving on from this example, let’s explore what people had to say in response to this story .
A husband’s manipulation ❗️ Unleashed fury ⚡️
Commenters couldn’t believe the story of a husband manipulating his wife and punishing her with a time-related lesson. Commenters unanimously agreed the OP’s behavior was NAH and that the wife should end the relationship immediately.
Abuse alerts!
Commenters in this section are in agreement that the husband’s action reflects an abusive behavior pattern. Commenters share experiences of similar situations and advise OP to take the comment to heart and leave the relationship as soon as it’s safe. They caution OP against having a baby with this man.
NTA – ♀️ OP was punished for not wanting to ✋ go somewhere ♀️
OP was punished out of spite by their husband for not wanting to go somewhere, which is totally not the a**hole in her situation. OP rightly pointed out that missing this exam will take them longer to do the activities they wanted to do in the future. They also mentioned that it is totally fine to say no to something when they don’t feel like it, and it’s important to remember that one belongs to themselves.
Husband punishes wife for not obeying him!
The comment criticizes the husband for punishing the wife by setting her alarm back half an hour and suggests that the wife needs to separate her bank account and set a different passcode to protect herself. Replies suggest that the husband’s action might be a pattern of abuse and a symptom of a larger problem in the relationship.
Husband’s ⏰ lesson in priorities is wrong!
The comment strongly condemns the husband’s cruel action of setting his wife’s alarm clock back half an hour to punish her and is absolutely clear that she is NTA (not the a-hole). Additionally, the replies further highlight the gravity of the situation, with a reminder that in some countries, such as Ireland and Italy, this likely would have a significant effect on the wife’s grade and job opportunities.
Play fair in relationships?
The comment states that the husband’s behavior of setting the alarm clock back half an hour was not an acceptable way of teaching his wife a lesson. It also brings up the question of what might happen if the wife gets a job that interferes with the husband’s idea of social life and the consequences for him to reconsider such behavior in the future.
A husband sabotages his wife’s degree?
The commenter is stunned by the husband’s selfish and immature act of sabotage of his wife’s degree in retaliation for missing a party. Replies range from disbelief to anger and sympathize with the OP’s situation and her feelings of betrayal due to her husband’s cruel act.
Man punishes wife , she ♀️
The commenter calls the OP NTA (not the a**hole) and suggests a temporary separation for the couple until the wife finishes university. A reply suggests a permanent separation due to the husband’s selfishness.
NTA ♀️ Husband takes control and punishes wife!
The commenter says the OP is not the a-hole, criticizing the husband for having a skewed set of priorities. The husband is trying to bully his wife into doing what he wants, and if she stays put, she may even be unable to graduate and be saddled with student debt.
Husband teaches wife a lesson⚡️
The husband’s decision to put his wife’s alarm clock back half an hour to punish her has been deemed bad. The comment states that it could be considered a form of abuse as he is essentially sabotaging his wife’s academic future and trying to control her. Its replies also highlight the severity of his decision, with some noting the potential for this action to limit her options and be financially dependent on him.
NTA husband puts❌ clock back half an hour
The commenter says the husband is wrong for correcting the wife’s priorities that way and believes the husband is abusive and not someone worth spending life with. The replies agreed and suggested contacting the university to explain the abusive relationship.
NTA: Adulting 101
The comment says that the OP is Not The A-hole in this situation and suggests that the wife should consider dating adults in the future as this person is only six, not 26.
Run away!
The comment urges the reader to run away from this man based on his behavior, calling her an NTA (not the a**hole). The replies agree and add a warning to not scramble one’s DNA with this man and to DTMFA (dump the motherf**ker already).
Divorce him!
The comment advised the OP to get a divorce, due to the fact that the husband was punishing his wife by putting her alarm clock back half an hour. The comment suggested that the husband was in the wrong and she needed to end the marriage.
Warning Signs ⚖️
The original comment suggested that the husband’s behavior was a warning sign of an abusive relationship and recommended the wife get counseling. A reply suggested that the wife should never go to counseling with an abusive partner and provided a link to a related resource.
Gaslighting AH ️A lesson in priorities gone wrong ️
NTA. The commenter points out that the husband’s need for revenge is childish and that sabotaging the wife’s education over selfish reasons is unacceptable. The husband then gaslights the wife, playing the victim and expecting a thank you note for the extra hour of sleep. It’s clear that the wife does not deserve to be treated this way.
She trusted him, but
The commenter says the OP is NTA (not the a**hole) and expresses shock at the husband’s spiteful behavior of sabotaging his wife’s exams due to her not attending a party. The commenter seemed to be appalled by the husband’s lack of remorse for his actions.
NTA: Unhealthy Control
Commenter states that the husband’s action of putting his wife’s alarm clock back half an hour is an unhealthy way to control her and is a major first step into an abusive future in the relationship.
Don’t let him derail your life!
The comment states that the husband’s behavior is wrong, as sabotage is a form of abuse. It urges the OP to not let him derail her life.
NTA – husband’s behavior is manipulative and controlling
The commenter believes that the husband’s lesson in priorities is manipulative and controlling behavior and is concerned that the original poster is asking if they are the a**hole (TA). This behavior is unacceptable and worrisome.
Leave him and focus on you!
Commenter suggests the wife should leave her husband and focus on her own future instead of enduring the dead weight he has become in her life.
Partner puts back to punish⛔️, NTA?
The commenter suggests that the husband’s behavior is unreasonable and selfish, advising the wife to get rid of him, as it won’t be beneficial for her to stay in this situation. They conclude with ‘NTA’ (not the a**hole).
NTA – Husband’s lesson in priorities ✋
The comment expresses NTA (not the a**hole) sentiment towards the OP who got punished by her husband by moving her alarm clock back half an hour. The comment further explains that parties with friends come and go, but her education is important and the husband had no right to use such a petulant, petty manner to make his point.
NTA: Husband’s “lesson” in priorities
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The commenter finds the husband’s actions immature and unbecoming of an adult relationship. They criticize his lack of understanding of the transient nature of exams and suggest that his behavior is not far off from what one would expect of a child.
NTA: Major d*** move!
The commenter says that the husband’s action of setting the wife’s alarm clock back half an hour to punish her was a major d*** move and is not okay at all. The commenter also says that having limited time for social activities is valid during exam period and that the husband acted like a mean brat.
Wife gets scolded for priorities
The husband disrespectfully scolded his wife for placing her exam above him. He behaved like a child and sabotaged her study efforts. The comment suggests that the couple should have a calm conversation to understand each other’s priorities and try to balance them better.
NTA: why stay?
The commenter labels the OP as not the a-hole and questions why the she is still in the marriage.
Husband’s lesson in fires
The comment expressed shock that the husband would sabotage the wife’s future by changing her alarm clock. It suggested that she should not stay with him, as she was not the a**hole.
Abusive Husband
The comment advised that the husband’s behavior showed signs of abuse, such as sabotaging the career and independence of his wife, trying to control her time, and guilt-tripping and punishing her wrongfully. They suggested that she should get out of this relationship.
Yikes! ✋ NTA
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The comment suggested that the OP was not the a**hole (NTA) and expressed shock at the husband’s willingness to risk the future of his spouse for a party. The comment also questioned the long-term viability of the relationship and the commenter ultimately suggested that the situation should be taken very seriously.
A husband’s petulant revenge✋
The commenter labels the OP as NTA and is shocked that the husband thought it appropriate to punish his wife by making her sleep more so she could not study on time. The commenter also points out that the husband lacks understanding and is trying to play the victim and gaslight his wife. The commenter advocates for the wife to divorce her husband.
An ironic suggestion
One comment suggests that the wife should leave the relationship, but with a twist. The suggestion is to do something irreplaceable to her husband just before she leaves.
NTA: Divorce papers ASAP
The comment regards the husband’s behavior as abusive and recommends filing for divorce papers as soon as possible. The husband is seen to have punished his wife for not attending his friend’s birthday party by tampering with her alarm clock while she slept. The comment suggests the wife should be careful of letting her husband have access to her medical, financial, and insurance info if he could use something like tampering with the alarm clock as a form of punishment.
Red flags alert
Commenter advises the wife to get away from her husband, citing the example of him setting her alarm clock back half an hour as an indication of abuse.
No NTA here
The OP is not the a**hole here according to this comment. The writer condemns the husband for putting his wife’s alarm clock back half an hour to punish her for not making him her number one priority during her study for her exam. According to the writer, the husband should be understanding and help her in any way he can instead of sabotaging her for his revenge.
Husband’s lesson gone wrong
The commenter states that while the husband may be alright in other areas, responsibility seems to be beyond him. They ask what he will do when his wife achieves her job goal.
NTA – he sabotaged her exam
The commenter commented that the OP was NTA (not the a-hole) because her husband sabotaged her exam by putting her alarm clock back half an hour to punish her. The commenter added that anyone else would have understood her situation or at least taken no as an answer.
Toxic husband ⚠️
The commenter expresses shock and disbelief at the level of disrespect the husband showed for his wife by changing her alarm clock as a lesson in priorities. They thought the husband was the a**hole for his behavior.
No one deserves to be put through the of an abusive partner!
This commenter was unequivocal – the student’s husband had no right to ‘teach her a lesson’ and was abusive and controlling. They suggest she graduate and make changes, as no one deserves to go through this situation long-term.
Huge red flag?
The section comment raises the question of whether the husband will become angry and upset with his wife if she has a job in her chosen field or even if she has kids. It is pointed out that there is a huge red flag in this situation and that the OP should reconsider the relationship.
NTA Toxic & manipulative husband!
The commenter deemed the husband’s actions inappropriate and described them as toxic, petty, manipulative, and f**k. The commenter advised the OP to leave her husband if he doesn’t apologize and suggested rescheduling the exam if it wasn’t too late.
NTA: ✋ He should have handled it better.
The commenter believes the husband is at fault for being upset at his wife and should have taken better actions to express himself other than moving the clock. A reply said the husband actually understood and that made it worse.
Abusive and controlling NTA
The comment author clearly states that the husband’s action was not about teaching, but about controlling and being abusive. His effort to control the wife backfired and he was screamed at, so the author calls him out and says he doesn’t deserve any sympathy or an excuse as his actions were intentional. The comment author also advises the wife to rethink their relationship.
NTA: Husband needs to “grow up”
The comment criticizes the husband’s behavior, specifying that he needs to “grow up”. They also point out that two weeks without social events is an acceptable price to pay for having an important exam. Nobody should be treated in the way he treated his wife.
Divorce! NTA
The comment suggests that the wife should divorce her husband for punishing her by setting her alarm clock back half an hour. The commenter believes it is not the wife’s fault, and they suggest ‘NTA’ (Not The A**hole).
NTA: ♂️ Sabotage & Punishment
Commenter says the husband’s act was not a conflict but a petty attempt to undermine the wife’s studies. Her husband was trying to punish her for not attending a party with him.
Divorce him now! ⌚️
The comment strongly insists that the wife should divorce her husband in response to his lesson in priorities and attempt to punish her. Not the a**hole (NTA).
NTA: Husband punishes wife
The commenter firmly declares that the husband is the a**hole for punishing his wife by putting her alarm clock back half an hour. No one agrees with the husband’s action.
Wife’s husband teaches her a lesson in time-management ?
The commenter asks if someone would change the alarm of their worst enemy. They point out how the husband’s action was a violation of trust.
♂️NTA: “Don’t sabotage your spouse’s life”
The commenter writes that what the husband did is completely unacceptable for any reason and that an important rule for a relationship is to not sabotage important things in the spouse’s life.
Gurl, NTA, time to
The commenter is advising the poster to leave the a-hole after their husband set their alarm clock back half an hour in order to punish them. The commenter emphasizes that if the husband is able to sabotage their important final exam today, he would probably sabotage their career tomorrow, as their achievement means nothing to him.
NTA Jeopardizing the future?
The commenter condemns the husband’s actions and points out that he put the wife’s future in jeopardy by changing her alarm clock to punish her for not wanting to go to a party.
