Get ready for a tale of love, language barriers, and a whole lot of drama! Meet our signing superstar, a 33-year-old man who’s been fluent in ASL since childhood thanks to his deaf dad. But here’s the twist: his wife has never bothered to learn more than a few basic signs! ♀️ As you can imagine, this leads to some pretty awkward family visits and a whole lot of translating for our hero. ️ But when a new non-verbal friend enters the picture, things get even more complicated! Will our signing sensation stand his ground, or will his wife’s complaints make him change his tune? Let’s dive in and find out!
Meet the Signing Superstar
♀️ Wife’s Lack of ASL Effort
Family Visits Every Other Weekend
Jumping at the Chance to Help!
Meeting Alex, the Non-Verbal New Friend
Hanging Out at Home, No Translations Needed ♂️
Wife Feeling Left Out and Suspicious ️♀️
Alex’s Perspective: Wife’s Lack of Effort is Rude
Realizing Wife’s Complaints are Silly
Wife Still Angry, AITA? ♂️
Signing Sensation Stands His Ground!
Well, well, well… looks like our signing superstar is in quite the pickle! Despite his wife’s lack of effort in learning ASL, he’s been dutifully translating for her and his deaf dad during family visits. ️ But when a new non-verbal friend, Alex, enters the picture, things get heated! Alex calls out the wife’s rudeness for not even trying to learn ASL, and our hero kind of agrees! The wife feels left out and suspicious, but our signing sensation stands his ground, refusing to translate for her and Alex. ♂️ Talk about drama! Let’s see what the internet has to say about this sticky situation…
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Wife excluded deaf father, NTA for not translating. ♂️
Learning sign language as an adult takes time. Soft YTA.
NTA for not translating for wife who never learned sign language
New friend insults wife, husband refuses to translate. YTA.
Wife comes first, not some random dude.
Excluding your wife from conversation in her own home is YTA
Defending wife, commenter points out lack of context and empathy. YTA.
Is lack of time a valid excuse for not learning sign language?
“YTA. Husband lets guest disrespect wife’s language and culture.”
Learning a language is hard, YTA for not trying.
Deaf commenter explains frustration with hearing people’s lack of effort
Deaf wife excluded in *her own home*; husband refuses to translate. YTA.
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Excluding wife from communication? YTA. Watch out for negative friend
Husband excludes wife from ASL conversations, insults her effort. YTA.
Learning ASL just to hold basic conversation is a lot.
Learning sign language takes time and effort, be patient.
Wife, friend, and husband are all at fault here
Defending spouse’s linguistic barrier. YTA for ignoring insult.
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Debate over wife’s responsibility to learn in-laws’ language
Prioritizing friend over wife’s communication is a dangerous mistake
Insightful questions about the wife’s situation and their relationship
Husband gets called out for excluding deaf wife in own home
User defends wife’s difficulties in learning sign language.
A hard-of-hearing person suggests a speech-to-text app for communication.
Friend criticizes husband for expecting wife to learn sign language.
Being multilingual is common, friend is rude to wife
When is it okay to refuse to translate for someone?
INFO: Spouse refused to translate for deaf wife. Redditor asks questions.
Complex situation with missing information, can’t call anyone an a**hole
Translation trouble! Commenter calls out husband for not helping wife.
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Spouse called out for neglecting wife’s communication needs
Friend criticizes wife’s sign language skills, host and friend both AHs ❌
Redditor calls out husband for not learning sign language. YTA.
New hobby or not, prioritizing a friend over your spouse? YTA.
Expecting wife to learn sign language now is unreasonable and unfair
Savage comment, hope the wife finds happiness elsewhere!
Redditor calls out OP for not translating for wife. YTA.
When your friend insults your spouse, everyone sucks here
Deaf community deserves equal access to communication. YTA.
Wife’s lack of effort understandable, but guest was insulting. YTA.
User calls OP out for being TA for not translating for his wife and allowing a guest to be disrespectful. Suggests meeting elsewhere.
Redditer thinks YTA for not learning ASL for in-law.
Redditors call out husband’s prioritization of new friend over wife
Couple’s communication breakdown leads to uncomfortable exclusion. ESH.
Spouse refuses to translate for deaf partner. YTA gets called.
Learning sign language: occasional vs regular use
NTA for not translating, but AH for letting friend insult wife
Spouse prioritizes friend over wife’s communication needs. YTA
New friend expects wife to speak his language, calls her rude. YTA.
Defending wife, criticising husband’s behaviour in sign language incident.
Husband is YTA for letting friend belittle wife behind her back
Inconsistent rules make YTA in refusing to translate for wife
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Wife living in a foreign country, husband refuses to translate. YTA.
Gentle YTA, learning ASL is a huge undertaking
New acquaintance causes marital conflict; commenters side with wife.
Deafness, language barriers, and relationships. ESH in this scenario.
Encouraging NTA comment urges wife to learn sign language online.
ESH. Wife could try harder, friend was rude, husband needs compromise.
User calls out husband for prioritizing new friend’s opinion over wife’s efforts.
Learning sign language is a big ask, but should be considered.
A comment argues against demanding accommodation due to disabilities.
Communication and respect issues arise in husband’s deaf family encounter.
Husband receives soft YTA for not communicating importance of ASL to wife.
Redditor sympathizes but still calls OP YTA for not trying to communicate.
Giving grace to a wife who never learned sign language.
Learning ASL is not necessary but wife can’t complain about signing ♀️
Assholery on both ends is minor and fixable, but Alex…
OP is the a**hole for not helping his wife learn sign language
Husband lacks communication skills and needs to compromise with wife. ❌
Expecting fluency without offering to teach, YTA. Be patient.
OP’s wife feels left out, Alex doesn’t want to accommodate, OP is stuck in the middle.
YTA for allowing your husband to use your wife as an outlet for his frustrations.
“Wife should put in effort to learn as this is part of the deal with marrying this man.”
User calls out OP for being TA regarding wife’s sign language skills.
Defending spouse, questioning family visits. YTA with capital letters
ESH: Commenter thinks both parties have some fault and criticizes the friend for speaking badly about the wife.
Aggressively negative comment with no replies.
Spouse accused of prioritizing friend over deaf wife. YTA.
Redditor calls out husband for disrespecting and choosing friend over wife
Accusations of enabling and betrayal in communication breakdown. ♂️
A scathing YTA comment calling out the poster’s pattern of trashing their wife.
