In today’s day and age, it seems as though everyone shares everything in some form of social media. Whether it’s Facebook, Instagram, or even Snapchat, when something big happens in our lives, we do feel the need to post it for everyone to see. This becomes extremely relevant when it comes to family and children. Sometimes, we can overshare online when it comes to our children and it can be a bit much.
Many parents love posting photos and videos of their children online.
Sharing the moments of family life with people’s extended family and friend circle is something that many enjoy doing. Not everyone can be around for every milestone, so this makes it easier to share the love.
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However, there are others who choose to keep their kids off of social media.
Some parents choose to not post photos and videos of their children on social media — especially when they are babies. These parents choose to keep their children’s lives a little more private.
This decision can cause a bit of drama throughout the family.
While some parents say they don’t want to post photos of their kids to social media, their family members don’t respect their wishes. This can cause drama and rifts between family members in terms of what photos they can and can’t post online.
The question in these situations is, who is in the wrong?
When the parents insist on keeping their child off of social media and someone in the family decides to post a photo anyway, who is in the wrong? And, is it wrong for people to tell the parents about the post?
One person wrote in to Reddit asking if they were in the wrong after their sister asked family members not to post photos of her new baby.
The original Reddit poster (OP) said that their sister and brother-in-law are “hippie” type people who don’t use social media often.
The two aren’t really into social media or tech and spend a lot of their time outdoors in nature. From the beginning of her pregnancy, the OP’s sister had made it clear she didn’t want photos of her baby on social media.
“Anyway, my sister and BIL have made it very clear they don’t want any pictures of their daughter on the internet. This came as no surprise to me, but my mom complained about it excessively throughout my sister’s whole pregnancy. Regardless, my sister stood her ground, with BIL backing her up,” the OP said.
However, the OP discovered that her mother had posted a photo of her grandchild, even after the new mom had specifically said not to.
“I immediately messaged her and told her she needed to take the picture down. She ignored me for a couple hours, so then I texted my sister with screenshots because I knew she wouldn’t know about it any other way. Needless to say, my sister was pissed,” they wrote.
Things got messy back at home.
The OP’s said that her father got on her for being “disrespectful” to her mother and for getting involved. However, their sister and BIL were happy that they told them and got involved, as their mother took the photo down.
But, their extended family got involved, too:
“…now I have extended family blowing up my inbox because the photo was taken down before a lot of them could see it. I’ve just ignored them, which is making my mom even more mad at me, but I don’t know what the hell I’m supposed to say that will make anyone happy,” they said.
The OP asked if they were “in the wrong” for getting involved, or if they were justified in letting their sister know.
Many people said that the OP was completely justified in letting their sister know.
One person wrote:
“It’s not her baby to post, not your [family’s] baby to see. [If] your sister wanted them to see pics of her child I’m sure she can send them herself.”
In the end, the majority of people online agreed that the Reddit user did the right thing.
One person summarized it perfectly saying:
“You have nothing to feel bad about. Your mom was disrespectful in posting pictures your sister clearly didn’t want on social media. She needs to deal with those consequences and don’t bother with the people messaging you about it. Most likely your mom said it was taken down because of what you said and everyone is ignoring the fact that your mom didn’t respect her adult daughter’s wishes.”
What do you think of this situation?
