Picture this: you and your spouse are expecting a baby, but when it comes to deciding who gets to visit the newborn, things get a little heated. Our protagonist is a 33-year-old man married to a 32-year-old woman, and they’ve been together for five years. Their mothers have a somewhat neutral relationship, but the wife has made it clear that only her mom and sisters are allowed to visit the baby after birth. The husband is left wondering if he’s in the wrong for wanting his mom to have the same opportunity. Let’s dive into this family drama and find out what’s really going on!
The Family Background
Mother-in-law Dynamics ♀️
Wife’s Reaction ♀️
Growing Bonds
Baby on the Way!
Delivery Room Decisions
Post-Labor Visits
What About My Mom?
Searching for Answers ️♂️
The Germ Debate
The Real Reason?
Alternative Plan ❌
Silent Treatment
The Big Question ♂️
Baby Visitation Showdown
Our protagonist’s wife is almost 9 months pregnant, and they’ve been discussing labor and post-labor plans. The wife has decided that only her mom and sisters will be allowed in the delivery room and to visit the baby after birth. When the husband asks about his mom, his wife says she can’t visit until three weeks later, claiming she wants to make sure his mom doesn’t bring anything harmful to the baby. However, the husband points out that his mother-in-law works with kids, and his sister-in-law owns a daycare, so germs shouldn’t be the real concern. ♂️ The wife admits she just doesn’t want his mom to see the baby, leaving the husband questioning if he’s in the wrong for wanting equal visitation rights for his mom. Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
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