Picture this: you’ve divorced your cheating ex-husband, and he passes away. You do the right thing and pay for his funeral. Then, you receive a call that turns your world upside down. A woman claims to have a child by your ex-husband, but she has no proof. The caseworker asks you to allow your daughter to take a DNA test to prove the child’s paternity. What would you do? This is the situation our protagonist found herself in, and she’s seeking advice on whether she’s in the wrong for refusing the test. Let’s dive into her story.
The Cheating Ex-Husband
Paying for the Funeral
Survivor’s Benefits
A Shocking Call
The DNA Test Dilemma
The Unfaithful Timeline ⏳
The Other Woman
A Year Later… ⏰
Seeking Opinions
The Paternity Test Drama: Right or Wrong?
Our protagonist divorced her cheating ex-husband, Duke, only to find herself in a whirlwind of drama after his death. She paid for his funeral and applied for survivor’s benefits for their daughter. But then, a woman claimed to have a child by Duke, though she had no proof. The caseworker asked our protagonist to allow her daughter to take a DNA test to prove the child’s paternity. Furious and humiliated, she refused. The child was conceived while she was still married to Duke, during a time when she was recovering from a traumatic hysterectomy. She suspects she knows the other woman, who was aware of their marriage. Now, she’s seeking opinions on whether her refusal was the right choice. Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
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Delay in claiming child support raises red flags
Don’t owe ex’s secret son anything. Let him figure it out.
Former SSA worker shuts down ex-wife’s request for DNA test
Not her problem that ex-husband’s secret son surfaces. NTA
Supportive comment: Stand up for your child!
No one is responsible for the child except the mother
Social services requests DNA test to prove paternity for benefits. NTA.
Take responsibility for yourself and your own.
Don’t help the mistress’s child, tell your daughter the truth
Harsh judgment on ex-wife’s actions. No sympathy for her.
Dealing with a husband’s secret son: trust issues arise ♀️
NTA suggests ex’s family handle secret son, not the ex-wife
NTA commenter gives empathetic advice on revealing secret son’s existence
NTA. Don’t help the woman who didn’t care about you.
Don’t feel guilty, take care of yourself and your daughter
Complicated situation with ex’s secret son, benefits, and revenge motives ♀️
Privacy concerns over DNA testing in family dispute.
Acknowledging the pain, but denying a child benefits is ESH
NTA, she shouldn’t sacrifice her happiness to connect with a secret sibling
Don’t blame the daughter for the other mother’s mistake.
Protecting her child comes first, NTA suggests walking away.
DNA test delay raises questions, NTA for not helping.
Nuanced situation with AH ex-husband. Leave lines of communication open
Cheating husband, but don’t punish innocent child. ESH. ♀️
Compassionate response to ex-husband’s secret son
No obligation to help the ex’s secret son. NTA
Don’t let your ex’s mistress re-traumatize you and your daughter. NTA
Daughter deserves to know, NTA for wanting to reveal secret
Money for the innocent? ESH, but maybe supporting the child.
Protecting her daughter’s well-being is top priority, not secret son drama.
NTA, let the woman deal with the consequences of her actions
NTA. Doubts about mistress’ intentions and paternity test validity.
Consider your daughter’s wishes regarding her secret half-brother
Condolences offered, NTA. Birth certificate and child support not taken.
Respecting daughter’s boundaries, NTA decides not to pursue paternity test.
Suggestion to contact adult relatives to confirm paternity and support
Not your monkey, not your circus
Compassionate comment defends child and calls out irresponsible parents
Protecting herself & daughter: NTA for not involving DNA
NTA. Commenter advises to stay away from ex-husband’s secret son.
Suggesting a sensitive approach to tell daughter about secret son.
Protecting her daughter or being unfair? NTA gets support
Protecting daughter’s emotions is top priority right now. NTA
OP may not be obliged to help ex-husband’s secret son
Survivor’s benefits should go to the mom, NTA for denying cheater.
Mixed feelings about helping the secret son. ESH.
A tough decision: support the secret son or walk away?
NTA. Daughter’s well-being comes first. Cheater’s mess is not OP’s problem
No sympathy for cheating ex-husband’s love child. ♀️
Nature vs Nurture: Should she embrace or reject the secret son?
No obligation to help ex-wife claim support from married affair.
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Respect the daughter’s right to make her own DNA decision
Mom refuses to help ex-husband’s secret son. YTA or NTA?
Complicated paternity case with potential legal consequences
Focus on protecting your daughter, not your ex’s love child
NTA suggests contacting ex’s siblings for DNA test, worries about government database.
Woman advises mother to inform daughter of potential paternity test.
Financial implications of secret son: commenters prioritize daughter’s payments.
NTA’s unsympathetic take on a woman’s affair child.
DNA test isn’t invasive, daughter deserves to know
Suspect inheritance motives? NTA for not helping stepson.
No obligation to help ex-husband’s secret son, NTA.
Don’t be a martyr. Let his mistress figure it out. ♀️
Harsh comment, but ultimately it’s her choice to help or not.
