At this outdoor wedding, one guest felt betrayed after being the only one in the wedding party not allowed to bring a +1. Despite being in a relationship for a year, they were told it wasn’t ‘serious’ enough and they didn’t want ‘some random guy’ in their pictures. To make matters worse, when the reception began, everyone was allowed to bring a +1. Humiliated and angry, the guest proceeded to be the rudest they have ever been when confronted by someone with an unwanted romantic interest. After the meal, they left and skipped the rest of the reception. Now the couple is ‘hurt and confused’ as to why the guest left so early. Read on for comments and reactions.
Many were surprised when one guest was not allowed to bring a plus one to an outdoor wedding with unlimited seating.
The bride and groom’s strict wedding guest policy sparked a debate about a loved one’s exclusion.
Can being rude at a wedding be justified?
Feeling left out amidst couples at a wedding?
The guest’s polite smile masked their inner surliness.
Feeling lonely at the wedding? A distant friend with a +1 exacerbates the feeling.
A wedding brings out strong emotions, and this person felt humiliated and responded with rudeness.
Dean’s crush on me was brought to the forefront at the wedding, with onlookers ‘matchmaking’ us
A wedding guest’s rude outburst leaves everyone in an awkward silence
She decided to leave the wedding early after a rude encounter
Did this guest’s rudeness cross the line?
Did this person go too far with their rudeness at a wedding?
Not the A-hole
Wow. The comment describes an outrageous situation that started with the OP thinking they were the a**hole. It turns out they are NTA and should be commended for not engaging in some fully warranted a**hole behavior of their own. The comment replies add on to the story with additional anecdotes of similar experiences.
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NTA: Someone crossed the line at a wedding!
The comment calls out someone for being rude at a wedding, and suggests that the commenter would have been angry too. The reply to the comment explains the issue further, describing how the speaker felt disrespected by the comments about their relationship.
NTA: Blatant unfairness!
The comment suggests that the person was “NTA” (not the a**hole) for being rude at the wedding as they were treated “blatantly unfairly”. A reply adds that the person might have “interpreted it that way because [they] were already really angry”, implying there could be an “ulterior motive”.
Someone tried to force YTA?
NTA – It was unacceptable for someone to try and force the commenter into being a date for Dean. The commenter was suspicious because of the way some people were looking at them and giggling, though this could have been in their mind due to their already-existing anger.
NTA: Put them on the spot!
The comment argues that the person is Not The A**hole (NTA) in this situation. They suggest that the person should confront the bride and groom about why they weren’t allowed a plus one when other guests were. Replies second the comment, adding that they should force the couple to explain why this happened, as well as noting that some guests even brought Tinder dates to the wedding.
Did Dean deserve a chance?
The comment suggests that the person bringing the original poster into conversation with Dean might have had a hand in the +1 situation. It appears that Dean was not able to bring a +1 to the wedding. The replies suggest that Dean was known as “the guy that no girls will give a chance to even though he really deserves it”.
NTA – you stood up for yourself!
The commenter is NTA for standing up for themselves in an unfair situation. They were “mean” to Dean and “surly”, but it was because they were being treated unfairly. The commenter rightfully left early because they were not being respected, and the commenter does not deserve to have their boundaries stepped on by their “friends”. The commenter’s actions caused the other party to ruin their relationship with them.
You’re not the a**hole!
The commenter believes that the person was rudely excluded from the wedding, and they’re not the a**hole. The commenter speculates that the person was not allowed to bring their partner because the organizers wanted them to hit it off with another guest, Dean, instead.
NTA ♀️: She’s not the a-hole
The comment suggests that the people in question were trying to set the commenter up with someone else, even though she was in a relationship, and didn’t let her bring her boyfriend even though others were allowed to bring theirs. The replies suggested that even if this wasn’t the case, the situation was still wrong and the commenter had every right to leave the wedding.
NTA: You had every right to leave!
The commenter believes that the person had every right to leave the wedding due to the “very deliberate actions” of the hosts. They also see the hosts as trying to “pimp out” the person to someone they disliked. As a reply, the commenter believes that in “ye olde times”, the bride would have been “smashed with the wedding cake” had they been in the same situation.
NTA: Respectfully decline ♀️
The comment said that the person is ‘not the a**hole’ for politely declining a hook-up offer, and believes the other person owes them an apology for their disrespectful behavior. No replies were found.
NTA You’re right!
The comment suggests that the person should cut out of their life those who participated or are upset about their decision to remove themselves from the wedding. The comment replies reveal that the bride is the person’s longtime friend, whereas the groom is a sleazy boyfriend who hit on them at the ceremony. The comment argues that the bride is aware of her groom’s sleaziness, and that the person should not bother telling her about it.
NTA Who lied to you?
The comment says that the person is Not The A**hole (NTA) for being rude towards Dean because the clear boundaries were crossed. The comment also suggests that the author should push to know why their +1 wasn’t allowed to attend, while dozens of others were. The replies then present an email exchange which suggests that the initial explanation was a lie.
NTA.
The commenter believes the couple was wrong in not being upfront about not inviting the person and that it makes no sense for the person to be included in the wedding pictures, as typically it’s only the bridal party and family. A reply agrees, noting that the person wouldn’t be in any of the posed pictures, and that crowd shots would include people the couple never met.
NTA: Respect Disrespected
The comment said “NTA”. They were referring to the fact that the person was ambushed with a blind date while they were already in a relationship. The comment praised the person’s restraint in simply leaving early. A reply agreed and added that the situation was beyond disrespectful.
No a-hole here!
Commenter claims that the person who was rude at the wedding couldn’t bring their own boyfriend and was instead set up with someone else – and they’re not the a**hole.
NTA: Standing up for yourself
The commenter believes that the person was not the a-hole (NTA) for standing up for themselves when they were unfairly singled out and given lies as the reasons. They suggest that the best decision was to leave before the situation escalated further with their significant other.
Humiliated at a friend’s party?
The commenter was invited to a party for a former friend, but was put at the kids’ table and felt humiliated. Replies sympathized, with one commenter sharing a similar experience of being put at the kids’ table at a cousin’s wedding despite being 28. Another reply suggested the commenter may have been asked to watch the kids for free.
NTA – Burning bridges
The comment suggests that the person should burn every bridge to the ground between them and anyone involved in the experience. This sentiment is mirrored in the comment’s acronym: NTA (not the a**hole).
NTA: Singled Out and Discriminated
The commenter disagrees with those who think that expecting an accommodation that other guests were allowed was entitlement. The commenter claims that the poster was singled out and discriminated against for some unknown reason. The couple can be hurt and confused all they want but the poster was not rude or surly.
You’re NTA Drama at wedding
The commenter claims that the person was not the a**hole in this situation and that the hosts were trying to engineer a romantic moment between the person and Doug. The commenter suggests that the person should apologize for the hosts’ disrespect and disregard for boundaries, and not contact Doug as it could possibly encourage the wrong kind of behavior.
Is this couple trying to wriggle out of a wedding drama?
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The comment expresses confusion at the couple’s response, which doesn’t make sense. The comment replies further emphasize that it doesn’t make any sense AT ALL.
Should rudeness be tolerated at weddings?
The comment says that it’s hard to say anything but “NTA” (not the a**hole) in response to the description of the situation. No replies found.
NTA: Don’t wast a night ♀️
The comment suggests that the person should not stay at the wedding in order to not waste a night in case the couple do not stay together in the future. The reply was a lighthearted response to the comment.
NTA: Respect Matters?
The commenter believes that the behavior of the people at the wedding was disrespectful and unacceptable and would end the relationship with them if it were true. Nobody had any replies to this comment.
NTA: Protect yourself!
The comment is Not The A**hole (NTA). The commenter is justified in their surliness and believes there is an ulterior motive behind singles them out to go without a +1. They suggest composing a text or letter to the wedding hosts, or being passive-aggressive, but advise to wait for the anger to pass before responding.
Bride went too far ♀️
The comment’s author was subjected to rudeness at a wedding where the bride tried to set her up with the groom’s cousin and even offered to call her mother. The reply was outraged, asking if the bride ever apologized or offered an explanation.
Sister drama gone wrong
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OP’s wife was furious when her sister introduced her to some guy and told him she was single, despite her being in a committed relationship. The situation escalated when the sister gave out her wife’s phone number without her consent. OP’s wife is still in a happy relationship, but OP wants nothing to do with his sister-in-law.
NTA!
The commenter is not the a-hole in this story. They were invited to a charity ball for a breast cancer charity, but it wasn’t women-only as the organiser had planned. The commenter then invited their fiance to the event and stood up for themselves.
NTA!
The commenter shares their personal experience of a strikingly similar situation and encourages the poster to take the opportunity to reassess their friendship. The commenter shares that they are still with their partner 10 years later and that their former best friend is not a part of their life anymore.
What did they expect?
NTA (not the a**hole). The commenter felt justified in their reaction and believes that films are to blame for people’s unrealistic expectations of reality.
Did everyone have a plus one?
The commenter asked if everyone that attended the wedding had a plus one. The reply clarified that there were some regular single people in attendance and some with Tinder dates.
Disrespectful behavior
The commenter is one million percent NTA (not the a**hole), calling the behavior of trying to set up a person already in a relationship “unbelievably disrespectful.”
Friendship over NTA
The commenter suggested that if the original poster ever decides to marry their BF, they should invite the bride but exclude her husband. They also suggested to put the wrong date/time/location on the invitation to prevent the bride from attending.
Is it time to reassess?
Commenter says NTA, describing the people as “weird”. They suggest the author should reassess their entire relationship with them.
Did they go too far?
One commenter thought that the wedding was “sh*t” enough to notice someone leaving early. A reply shared that the wedding was large enough to not have one table for the wedding party, which made it difficult to notice the person leaving early.
Rude behavior at a wedding ?
Commenter suggests throwing a glass of wine at the dean’s face for pressuring their friend to drink, despite knowing that they don’t drink. Reply states that the couple is aware of their friend’s condition and has never pressured them to drink.
NTA: ♀️ Respect Disrespected?
The commenter declared NTA (not the a**hole) in response to the article, suggesting that the happy couple had disrespected the commenter’s relationship and the commenter felt bad for their bf.
Did Dean go too far?
Dean expresses moral obligation for a “name-brother’s” behavior at a wedding. A reply reveals the names aren’t real, but the question of if Dean went too far remains.
Couples’ selfish Cupid attempt
The comment states that the couple are being selfish and entitled brats by trying to play Cupid and interfere in OP’s dating life and relationship with their boyfriend. NTA (not the a**hole) OP.
NTA – Is a wedding really that important?
The commenter believes the person was rude for excluding someone in a wedding photo based on their relationship status, as it is not logical to assume a couple’s relationship is more valid than one without a piece of paper. The reply agrees and adds that the groom made a sleazy remark to the person, making the situation even more uncomfortable.
Confusion over a wedding
The commenter was confused over a situation involving a wedding and a conversation with Dean. Commenter’s reply clarified that the conversation was initiated by someone who wasn’t part of the couple’s close circle of friends. NTA a**hole.
NTA: ❌❌❌what they did was wrong
The comment states that the commenter’s opinion was that the person in question was not the a**hole (NTA) and that what they did was wrong and disrespectful. They suggest the couple was aware of what transpired and have nothing to be confused about. The comment ends with a suggestion for the poster and their partner to find better friends.
Should’ve skipped the wedding
The comment suggests that the person should have skipped the wedding to avoid being rude.
NTA: ♀️No one should be forced to date someone!
The commenter believes that the person in question was Not The A**hole (NTA) for not wanting to date someone at a wedding that they were in the wedding party for. They argue that the newlyweds should not have set them up with someone they didn’t like and knew they had a boyfriend.
Did the couple have an excuse?
The commenter asked for an update when the bride and groom are told what happened, and they replied with an excuse found in the link provided in the replies.
Did they go too far?
This comment questions the rudeness of a person’s behavior at a wedding by asking if they picked chicken or steak. No replies found.
Did OP go too far?
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The comment suggested that the OP (original poster) was ‘not the a**hole’ and asked if they would provide an update after speaking to the bride and groom. The OP replied with a link to an update on the conversation.
OP at a wedding
OP was furious after Dean pulled them back despite them already making it clear they weren’t interested. OP yelled at Dean, saying they weren’t attracted to him, and demanded he agree to leave them alone. It’s clear this was a setup and OP was NTA.
NTA Clarifying a confusing situation
The commenter is not the a**hole (NTA) and is simply asking for clarification on the situation. The reply explains that the bridal couple was on the other side of the room when a guy who was mutually friends with the groom and Dean said someone wanted to ask the commenter something.
NTA: You were set up ♂️
The comment author believes the original poster is not the a**hole (NTA) because they were set up by their friends. The replies further clarify that the boyfriend is not controlling, manipulative, or abusive, but is instead a low-key and nice person.
NTA for standing up for yourself!
The commenter was not the a**hole for standing up for themselves after their significant other was disrespected and disregarded in a public and noticeable way. They would have left the situation if they saw it happening because of the lying and manipulation going on.
