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Did I Cross The Line by Calling My Friend a ‘Pretty White Girl’?

by Michele Lang
2 years ago
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A small disagreement between friends can quickly spiral out of control. In this case, a joke made by one friend towards the other was taken too far, leading to an uncomfortable car ride home. The friend in question made a remark about the other’s behavior, to which he responded by saying that she wouldn’t understand because she’s a pretty white girl. Although he meant it as a joke, it was taken as an insult by his friend. After discussing it with his roommates, the poster is left wondering whether he was in the wrong for dismissing his friend’s opinion. Read on to find out more about this situation and decide for yourself who was in the wrong.

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Did he cross the line with a ‘pretty white girl’ comment?

A young black man wonders if he offended his friend by referring to her as a ‘pretty white girl.’ His friend had joked about his pushover attitude towards a rude contractor, and he snapped back that she wouldn’t understand. Was it a harmless joke or did he cross the line? Read on to find out more about this exchange and why it left the rest of the ride awkward and silent.

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NTA. The comment and replies highlight the privilege of being a pretty white girl and the lack of understanding of the struggles of black men. The friend needs to check her privilege.

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goldenblacktea | goldenblacktea

Black man defends himself against white fragility and microaggressions.

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Aquariussun444 | Aquariussun444

The comment and replies shed light on the historical use of white women’s tears and fragility against black men and women. ¯_(ツ)_/¯

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millhouse_vanhousen | millhouse_vanhousen

Explaining the ramifications of a big black man getting angry ‍♂️

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keesouth | keesouth

Friend may have learned something about her privilege. NTA.

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thatoneisthe | thatoneisthe

Pointing out privilege isn’t offensive, NTA.

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Baraa_404 | Baraa_404

Educating friends on race: emotional labor or important? ESH.

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UltraMegaSloth | UltraMegaSloth

Gender bias discussion highlights need for assertiveness among women. NTA.

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LadybugMama78 | LadybugMama78

Encouraging response to personal growth

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Mommy-Q | Mommy-Q

Being a POC is not a joke Important reminder.

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cassowary32 | cassowary32

Commenter argues that both OP and friend are in the wrong, discusses white privilege.

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[deleted] | [deleted]

The comment section discusses whether calling someone a ‘pretty white girl’ was offensive. While the original commenter thinks both parties were in the wrong, a reply points out the issue of invalidating someone’s experiences based on their race.

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BooPointsIPunch | BooPointsIPunch

The comment section debates if calling someone a ‘pretty white girl’ is racist or not. Some argue it’s just an accurate description of privilege, while others find it demeaning.

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Rain-Any | Rain-Any

Polite explanation not required, NTA for not tolerating disrespect ‍♀️

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-Lexx- | -Lexx-

Commenter argues for intersectionality and against punishing a friend’s identity.

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Rare_Disaster7353 | Rare_Disaster7353

Commenter stands up for OP, declares NTA

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Colourofsulfur | Colourofsulfur

Exploring the complexities of race, gender and privilege

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Gosutobani | Gosutobani

Curiosity arises as comment seeks more information

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Raionmimi | Raionmimi

Be mindful of your words, they might hit a nerve

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mindbird | mindbird

Communication is key in any friendship

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mmobley412 | mmobley412

An ESH situation where both parties should have shown restraint.

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ChrissyKittyCat | ChrissyKittyCat

Friend thinks she’s NTA for calling ‘big black men’ friends.

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Wonderful_Horror7315 | Wonderful_Horror7315

Standing up to racism isn’t wrong, NTA

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Flynn_Kevin | Flynn_Kevin

Calling out racial tension: NTA for response

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Keluklump | Keluklump

Commenter calls out the use of race in argument, YTA.

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Keqingisthedpsqueen | Keqingisthedpsqueen

Acknowledging differences in experiences and perspectives is important.

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WannaBeOptimist17 | WannaBeOptimist17

Acknowledging privilege: an important lesson for everyone.

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Taleya | Taleya

A lighthearted joke turned racial, ESH with room for improvement

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sdlcur | sdlcur

Respect for standing up to ignorance and privilege

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RoundedError | RoundedError

Suggests a tactful response to friend’s cultural blind-spot

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nazare_ttn | nazare_ttn

Insensitive or justified? NTA comment causes controversy

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jg700 | jg700

Exploring privilege and its obliviousness. ‍♀️

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Fritemare | Fritemare

OP dismissed friend’s opinion and belittled her. YTA.

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Visassess | Visassess

Ignoring someone’s valid criticism based on their race/gender? ESH

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daddyslittleharem | daddyslittleharem

The thin line between truth and race card accusations

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Bulky-Revolution9395 | Bulky-Revolution9395

Commenter called out for racist comment, doubles down. YTA

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SephoraRothschild | SephoraRothschild

Addressing race inappropriately caused a divide between friends

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meloettalover213 | meloettalover213

Standing up against racism, NTA was in the right

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splootsaredabest | splootsaredabest

Confronting racism with reverse racism: a never-ending cycle?

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mattsgirlca | mattsgirlca

Both sides could have handled it better.

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georgialucy | georgialucy

Acknowledging different experiences isn’t racist. NTA.

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Skylarsthelimit | Skylarsthelimit

Support for calling out friend’s naivety on racial issues

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Other_Personalities | Other_Personalities

Being funny doesn’t give anyone the right to be rude. #NTA

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Sweet-Warthog2209 | Sweet-Warthog2209

Confronted with her own ignorance, a pouting white girl.

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anassholeabroad | anassholeabroad

Being rude back doesn’t justify childish behavior.

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RoseGoldMinerva | RoseGoldMinerva

Race vs class debate sparks after ‘pretty white girl’ comment.

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spacermoon | spacermoon

Acknowledging privilege: Discussion on understanding perspectives as a white person.

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LavenderPearlTea | LavenderPearlTea

Confronting race-related discomfort, NTA receives validation from peers.

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CantEatCatsKevin | CantEatCatsKevin

Friend made a joke, but OP snapped unreasonably. YTA.

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Gravy245 | Gravy245

Confronting privilege and racism. Important reminder on systemic racism. ✊

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PlushieTushie | PlushieTushie

Sometimes the truth hurts ‍♀️

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FormalRaspberry9 | FormalRaspberry9

Call out privilege? NTA diplomatically corrects friend.

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Wild_Pomegranate5772 | Wild_Pomegranate5772

You’re in the clear, not the a**hole

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Don’t dismiss someone’s race – YTA crossed the line.

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Deep_Supermarket5878 | Deep_Supermarket5878

Embrace diversity, be a better friend.

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