Couple Refuses to Let In-Laws Move In: Selfish or Justified?

Imagine having a strained relationship with your in-laws for decades, only for them to demand to move in with you after your kids leave for college. That’s exactly the predicament this couple found themselves in! After years of being treated like an outsider by her husband’s family, this wife and her husband decided to downsize their home and enjoy their retirement together. But their mother-in-law had other plans – she expected them to take care of her and her husband in their old age.

The Long-Standing Feud

Going No Contact

Downsizing Dreams

MIL’s Unexpected Plan

Cultural Expectations

Financially Stable In-Laws

A Burden on the Couple

Standing Their Ground

MIL’s Campaign

Kids Agree with Parents ✅

Family’s Accusations ️

The Big Question ❓

Update: Final Decision

Alternative Solution

Racial Tensions

Couple Stands Firm: No Room for In-Laws!

After discussing the situation, the couple decided to stand their ground and told their in-laws that they cannot move in with them. They believe that it’s their time to enjoy their retirement together without the burden of caring for their financially stable and healthy in-laws. The couple’s children support their decision, but other family members have accused them of being selfish. The husband plans to tell his parents that their treatment of his wife is the reason they’re not welcome to live with them, and will suggest finding an assisted living facility if they need care.

In-laws want to move in despite actively excluding OP. NTA.

NTA. In-laws treated them poorly for 20+ years. Stick to guns

In-laws denied move-in request, commenter calls out hypocrisy.

NTA. Commenter supports OP’s decision and explains why MIL’s request is unreasonable.

NTA comment and replies: Standing up to toxic in-laws

MIL wants to move in but never accepted DIL. ‍♀️

NTA. MIL has not accepted you as family for 20+ years.

NTA comment sparks patriotic metaphor, receives praise from reply.

NTA stands up to rude in-laws, refuses to be used.

Culture clash causes in-law housing drama. NTA stands firm.

NTA for refusing in-laws to move in. Protect your marriage

Couple justifies not letting in-laws move in due to past behavior

NTA. Taking care of parents doesn’t mean toxic in-laws moving in

Commenter suggests cultural background may be a factor. NTA.

Commenter supports couple’s decision with a warning

NTA. The in-laws can take care of themselves

Suggests nursing home for in-laws, offers alternative care options.

Stand your ground and sell the house, you owe them nothing

Stand your ground! NTA.

MIL dislikes OP and wants to move in? NTA, boundaries needed

Compassionate suggestion for MIL’s care. NTA wins hearts

Legal obligation ≠ forced cohabitation. MIL was arrogant. NTA

No obligation to care for in-laws who excluded you. NTA

Culture is not an excuse for lack of communication. NTA

Stand firm and say no to nightmare in-laws. NTA

MIL gets what she deserves, NTA wins!

Cultural differences in elder care: NTA for refusing in-laws.

Don’t let in-laws move in, NTA. DH needs to handle.

In-laws expect hospitality after treating couple poorly. NTA.

User suggests humorous revenge plan against in-laws, supports OP’s decision.

Choosing happiness over in-laws: NTA comment wins

Independence is key! NTA for not letting in-laws move in

NTA stands up to critics of not letting in-laws move in

Culture clash: MIL expects to move in, but it’s their house

NTA, no obligation to care for abusive in-laws. Move out

Block them and don’t look back

Commenter firmly supports couple’s decision to not let in-laws move in.

Commenter says NTA, they made their bed and lie elsewhere

NTA – No in-laws, no problems

NTA. In-laws can’t expect maid service after 25 years of shunning.

NTA and cut off toxic family members.

User supports in-laws moving in with family but not strangers. NTA.

NTA suggests a clever way to shut down entitled in-laws

In-laws not liked, NTA for refusing to let them move in

Family members calling them selfish, but they’re not the a**holes.

United front against entitled in-laws. NTA

NTA. Sell the house and downsize. Tradition isn’t necessary.

Family drama: Commenter refuses to let in-laws move in.

Setting boundaries with family is important

NTA. MIL moving in means a living hell. Enjoy your life!

Taking care of elders doesn’t mean letting them move in. NTA

Taking care of toxic in-laws? No thanks! NTA

In-laws’ secret retirement plan causes family tension. NTA response.

When it comes to cultural differences, humor is universal

Enjoy your life after raising kids, NTA

Short and to the point.

Respectful boundaries are important. NTA

NTA for refusing to let in-laws move in.

Outdated tradition? NTA stands up to in-laws’ expectations.

NTA comment praises OP for standing up to toxic in-laws.

NTA. In-laws can’t shun you for 20 years then move in.

NTA. In-laws should respect boundaries. ‍♂️

NTA. Taking in abusive in-laws would make you an a**hole.

In-laws are never welcome. NTA.

Culture clash: NTA refuses to care for in-laws.

Protect your sanctuary. NTA. Toxic in-laws never end well.

NTA. Congrats on breaking tradition and avoiding family drama.

Don’t let toxic in-laws ruin your life. NTA