Weddings are meant to be a celebration of love, but what happens when family drama threatens to steal the spotlight? One groom-to-be (24M) is facing a dilemma as his older brother (27M) plans to come out as gay during the wedding. The brother insists it’s a day to celebrate love, but the groom is adamant that it’s a day to celebrate *their* love. With the wedding just weeks away, tensions are running high. Let’s dive into the story and see what’s going on.
The Unwanted Wedding Drama

Family Secrets and Wedding Plans

Brother’s Coming Out Plan

Older Relatives and LGBT Views

Parents’ Neutral Stance

Brother’s Argument

Groom’s Response

Plus One Drama

Suggesting Alternatives

Brother’s Accusations

The Fight

Ultimatum

Brother’s Reaction

Drama Intensifies

Groom’s Dilemma

Love, Family, and Wedding Chaos
As the wedding day approaches, the groom-to-be is torn between supporting his brother’s desire to come out and keeping the focus on his own love story. With older relatives holding negative views about the LGBT community, the couple fears their special day could turn into a dramatic showdown. The groom has suggested alternative ways for his brother to share his news, but the brother is adamant about coming out at the wedding. Will the family find a resolution before the big day, or will the drama continue to escalate? Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
Don’t steal the thunder on someone’s big day

Wedding day is about the couple, not anyone else’s announcement

Brother wants to come out at wedding? Uninvited if not drama-free. NTA

Brother wants to come out at your wedding? NTA for saying no.

Older gay commenter advises against outing brother, suggests uninviting instead. NTA

Wedding day is about the couple, not brother’s announcement. NTA

Gay commenters agree: Brother should not steal the limelight at wedding. NTA

Brother wants to create drama at wedding over coming out?

Wedding day is about you and your spouse’s love.
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OP’s brother’s coming out plans cause trust issues. NTA.

Wedding day not coming out day. Come out before wedding

Wedding not place to come out. Brother TA for accusing.

Coming out drama leads to wedding uninvite. NTA.

Respectful suggestion to postpone coming out at wedding.

Wedding is not the right time to come out. NTA.

Weddings are for celebrating the couple, not stealing their thunder!

Sibling rivalry causing drama on wedding day. NTA bride stands firm.

Weddings aren’t about you. Don’t force your agenda.

Wedding day is for the couple, not for coming out. NTA.

Wedding day is about the couple, not the brother’s plans. #NTA

Wedding not a coming out party. NTA for setting boundaries.

NTA. Brother tried to hijack wedding for his drama. Hard ban.

Wedding drama: Brother’s coming out plans make him the AH

Wedding etiquette: Don’t propose or come out without permission!

Gay commenter advises against coming out at weddings. NTA.

Wedding isn’t the place to come out. Uninvite if necessary.

Respect the bride and groom on their special day!

Brother wants attention on your wedding day? NTA for banning.

Wedding day not coming out day. NTA, but YTA if so.

Gay commenter advises against brother coming out at wedding. NTA.

No plus ones, no coming out. NTA. Drama or attention?

Wedding day is about you, not your brother. NTA

Wedding overshadowed by brother’s coming out? NTA calls him selfish.

Wedding is not the place to come out. NTA.
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Wedding day is for your love, not his coming out. NTA

Supportive comment suggests eloping after brother’s wedding ban.

Partner’s coming out plans at wedding deemed selfish. NTA

Creative solution proposed to prevent brother’s attention-seeking behavior.

Coming out at someone else’s wedding? Not cool. NTA.

Wedding not coming out party. Brother can come out elsewhere.

Coming out at a wedding is a no-go. NTA wins.

Support for coming out, but not at the expense of others.

Weddings aren’t the place for attention-seeking. NTA.

NTA suggests revenge announcement at wedding/engagement party

Uninvite him now and show support when he comes out.

Wedding day is about the couple, not the brother’s coming out. NTA

Wedding drama: Brother’s coming out plans steal the spotlight

Wedding day should be about the couple, not the brother.

Wedding etiquette: Personal announcements at someone else’s wedding = NTA

Wedding drama: Brother’s coming out overshadows bride and groom?

Suggests hiring security to prevent brother’s coming out at wedding.

Brother’s coming out leads to wedding ban. Commenters side with OP.

Coming out at a wedding? NTA, but maybe not ideal
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Wedding not the time for brother to come out. NTA.

Wedding not place for coming out. NTA for setting boundary.

Wedding drama: Sibling banned for coming out plans. NTA shines.

Support for not allowing personal announcements at events.

Sassy response to brother’s coming out plans at your wedding. ♀️

Brother wants a grand coming out party at your wedding? NTA

Commenter criticizes dramatic behavior and advises to avoid drama.

Gay man advises against coming out at someone else’s wedding

Wedding day is about you, not your brother’s coming out. NTA

Weddings aren’t the time for personal announcements without permission. #WeddingEtiquette

Plan a pre-wedding party for him to come out. NTA.
