A man who is polyamorous finds himself angry with a friend who outed him to their mutual friends. The friend, named Kevin, assumed that the man was cheating on his wife and took it upon himself to gather evidence by talking to several of their friends. Despite Kevin’s insistence that he thought he was doing the right thing, the man is still holding a grudge against him. The man was forced to come out as poly publicly to clear up the misunderstanding, and he is now upset that Kevin’s actions have made him the subject of jokes and ridicule. Read on to find out if the man is justified in his anger, and whether or not he is the a**hole in this situation.
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Man outed as polyamorous by friend who tried to sabotage him
A man’s friend outed him as polyamorous to their mutual friends, causing humiliation and embarrassment. The friend, Kevin, assumed that the man was cheating on his wife and tried to gather evidence against him. Despite being informed of the misunderstanding, Kevin continued to spread lies about the man, causing him to publicly come out as polyamorous to dispel rumors. The man now holds a grudge against Kevin and refuses to forgive him, despite his wife insisting that Kevin had good intentions. The incident highlights the stigma and misconceptions surrounding polyamory and the harm that can be caused by assuming or spreading false information. The man acknowledges that being polyamorous is not as dire as being gay and in the closet, but still feels embarrassed about it and prefers not to spread the word around. The article raises questions about the ethics of outing someone and the importance of respecting others’ privacy and choices. The next section will feature comments and reactions to the man’s story.
Commenters agree that Kevin had ulterior motives and is toxic. NTA.

ESH, commenters explain why OP is partially to blame.

Debate over whether or not being ‘outed’ as polyamorous is justified.

Navigating polyamory can be tricky, but friends shouldn’t betray trust

Polyamorous person receives mixed reactions after being outed by friend

NTA outs friend as polyamorous, friend retaliates, drama ensues

Being polyamorous doesn’t mean keeping it a secret. YTA.

Commenter calls out friend’s dishonesty in outing polyamory.

Debate on whether friend was right to out polyamorous person as cheater.

Poly man caught cheating by friend, deemed YTA.

Dating someone else while married – ESH judgement and polyamory.

Commenter calls out Kevin’s actions as spreading misconceptions

Polyamorous man’s friend outs him, both parties at fault.

Bury the hatchet and move on

Debate on presenting as monogamous sparks in comment section

Commenter accuses OP of hypocrisy for being upset about outing.

Friend outs man as polyamorous, commenter says YTA for being upset

Friend outs polyamorous person, both are at fault. ESH.

Commenter defends Kevin for outing friend, condemns cheating behavior.

Commenter calls out YTA for blaming friend’s outing.

Deception leads to assumptions. YTA comment gets called out.

Polyamorous commenter advises discretion; criticizes friend’s reaction. ESH.

Friend outed polyamorous person, but commenter suggests doing some digging.

Exploring assumptions about polyamory and outing in relationships
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Friend outs polyamorous man, commenters acknowledge both parties’ missteps

Polyamorous man faces consequences of hiding identity from friends.

Navigating the aftermath of being outed as polyamorous

Friend outs polyamorous man to wife in public, NTA calls out hero complex.

Commenter thinks both parties could have handled the situation better

Kevin’s immaturity shines through in outing his friend as polyamorous

Polyamorous person slightly at fault for being outed by friend

Cheating accusations lead to rift between friends. ESH.

Polyamory reveal causes rift between friends, ESH to blame

Learn about polyamorous relationships and their key aspect: consent ❤

Polyamorous man called out for cheating, but is he really?

Commenter believes person in story is in the wrong

Exposing cheating isn’t about destroying relationships, it’s giving information ️♂️

Debate over the use of “outed” in polyamory reveals gatekeeping.

Commenter defends Kevin’s actions in exposing polyamorous relationship.

Friend outed polyamory, caused harassment. NAH, but justified anger.

Mixed opinions on judgement in polyamory outing, but ESH.

Curious about Kevin’s current stance? Let’s find out!
