A sister is paying for her brother’s wedding but is upset that she is not included in the planning process. She has been very supportive of her brother and his fiancé, paying for their education, down payment on their house, and multiple rounds of IVF. When her brother asked for a contribution to the wedding, she offered to pay for the entire thing.
However, she is now feeling left out as the entire family is involved in the planning process, while she is only involved in paying for it. When she brought up her concerns to her brother, he told her that she can’t replace their parents and that’s why she’s not involved.
The sister is now questioning whether she’s being taken advantage of or if she’s just causing drama. Read on to find out what happens in this family drama .
Sister who earns more pays for her brother’s wedding expenses alone
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Selfless sister paying for brother’s wedding and IVF treatments
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Generous sister pays for brother’s wedding, not involved in planning
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Feeling left out of brother’s wedding planning, sent cost details
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Feeling left out of brother’s wedding planning despite paying. AITA?
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From Military to Commercial Pilot: An Inspiring Career Trajectory ✈️
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Brother’s career on the rise, SIL’s medical issue raises questions❓
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Family prioritizes fertility treatment over wedding expenses
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Brother’s supportive role during personal problems appreciated ❤️
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Excluded from the engagement party, sister pays for brother’s wedding
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A discussion on financial assistance and education costs
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Sister struggles with recognition for paying for brother’s wedding
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Apology for not responding to overwhelming comments and messages
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Bridezilla insists on a traditional wedding but refuses to pay
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Groom’s sister wants to contribute to wedding planning. Controversy ensues.
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Sister paying for brother’s wedding feels like an ATM
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Excluded sister wants to give a speech at wedding reception
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Sister pays for entire wedding, asked to contribute to honeymoon
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Sister pays for brother’s wedding, but left out of planning.
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Bank of Sister gets no credit for paying for wedding
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Brother’s wedding drama leads to sister attending as guest
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Sister steps back from wedding planning after financial support ends
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Sibling tensions arise over wedding planning boundaries
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Sibling sets boundaries, prioritizes self-care for brother’s wedding
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Processing grief and guilt over brother’s wedding planning absence.
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Sister pays for brother’s wedding but isn’t included in the planning
A sister is paying for her brother’s wedding but feels excluded from the planning process. She has already paid for her brother’s Masters degree, paid the down payment on his house, and will be paying for future rounds of IVF for him and his fiancee. The sister has set up a wedding account for her brother and future sister-in-law but feels uncomfortable that she is only involved in paying for the wedding and not included in the decision-making process.
When she expressed her concerns, her brother told her that she cannot replace their parents and she should not feel entitled to be involved. The sister is torn between feeling like she is doing something nice and feeling taken advantage of, and is asking for advice on whether or not she is being an a**hole.
Read on to find out how this situation unfolds and what the sister decides to do about it after hearing what Reddit had to say.
Generous sister realizes it’s time to cut off financially dependent brother.

Wedding expenses causing family conflict

Sister financially supports brother’s wedding, but not included in planning

NTA treated like an ATM, not even a courtesy invite

Don’t let them use you as a cash cow. NTA
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OP should cut them off financially to promote responsibility

Brother taking advantage of sister’s generosity for wedding costs

Set boundaries and say no to financial exploitation

NTA pays for wedding but not included in planning

Supportive sibling bond despite differing interests ❤️

Brother’s insecurity and manipulation tactics addressed. NTA.
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Generous sister shouldn’t feel guilty for not paying for brother’s wedding

Sister excluded from brother’s wedding planning, feels replaced by SIL’s family

Brother can’t expect sibling treatment when sister pays for wedding

Money troubles? Let’s see how it turned out.

Sister funding brother’s wedding and IVF: Too much kindness?

Sibling jealousy at its finest

OP is YTA for enabling brother to depend on them financially

Generous sibling not included in wedding planning

Brother’s double standard regarding involvement in wedding planning.

Financial dependency on brother needs to stop. NTA

Sister paid for enough, but not included in wedding planning

Bride’s sister excluded from wedding planning, wants to give opinion

Generous sibling called a sucker in NTA comment
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Sibling’s wedding not a free ride for life. NTA.

Brother taking advantage of sister’s generosity

Money can’t buy love NTA takes back the reins.

NTA but feeling taken for granted by brother’s wedding party

Sibling drama: Sister pays for wedding, brother complains. NTA wins.

Sister pays for brother’s wedding but gets ungrateful behavior

Stop being their ATM – they CLEARLY do not appreciate it

Fair question about SIL’s income and NTA judgement

Cutting off the cash flow NTA

Sister paying for brother’s wedding, excluded from planning. NTA, but brother and fiancée are sponging off her

Sibling refuses to pay for brother’s wedding, suggests a vacation

Generous sister offers to pay for brother’s IVF treatments
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Supporting family and setting boundaries can be a tricky balance

Sibling wedding drama: NTA for setting financial boundaries

Stop paying for everything, including IVF treatments. #NTA

Cut the kindness if it’s not appreciated ♀️ #NTA

Reconsidering money matters: NTA comment sparks reflection.

NTA being taken advantage of, excluded from brother’s wedding plans.

Sibling paying for wedding deserves respect, not entitled brother.

Sibling excluded from wedding planning, NTA suggests financial distance.

Cut the apron strings and let your brother be an adult

Brother’s entitlement is out of control, NTA for refusing

Brother gets wedding paid for but excludes sister from planning

Generous sister wonders why she still needs to support brother.

Don’t be a silent benefactor, let him finance his wedding

Brother’s wedding savings used for IVF, not worth paying for.
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Feeling undervalued for funding a wedding? Let his wife’s family pay now.

Don’t enable your brother’s poor decisions and selfish partner

Money talks but family bonds can be broken ❌

Sibling struggles with being excluded from brother’s wedding planning.

Setting boundaries is key

Don’t let them treat you like an ATM NTA

Feeling used for paying? You’re NTA for being upset.

Brother and SIL can’t afford wedding, sister pays. A**hole move?

Brother leeching off sister for wedding

Cutting off the money tree NTA
