Fiancé Has Weird Relationship With His Mother: When Is It Too Close?

For many women, it’s usually a good sign if the man they’re dating has a good relationship with his mom. However, one woman is worried that her fiance’s affection for his mother has gone too far — and gotten too weird.

When the 25-year-old woman went to visit her fiancé’s family in Cuba, she was in for what she considers some inappropriate surprises regarding her man’s “weird” relationship with his mom. We have all the deets below.

Her fiance is an only child

Apparently, her fiance isn’t just an only child — he’s always been mommy’s “golden boy”!

The woman began to expect some quirks in the mother-son bond she was about to encounter, but she truly had no idea what she was actually in store for.

He acted like his mom’s second husband

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Things got bizarre very quickly for the woman after the couple arrived in Cuba when her 35-year-old fiancé started acting like his mom’s knight in shining armor.

“He takes on a protector role, especially guarding his mother, calling out his father if he doesn’t ‘act right,'” she wrote on Reddit anonymously.

“For example, if his mum slaves away in the kitchen and his father doesn’t pick up after himself, my bf tells his father off. I thought it was sort of funny and cute, and probably normal,” she added.

There was some questionable physical mother-son intimacy

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Again, it’s often considered a good sign if a son shows his mom a lot of love, but for this woman, things were feeling pretty twisted when sweet hugs and kisses for his mom turned into wrapping his arms around her waist in the pool at one time and then slapping her butt in the kitchen at another.

“The thing that truly called my attention was that he slapped her on the [bum] in the kitchen. Presumably because she made a funny remark and he was laughing with her or something along those lines,” the woman wrote.

The woman wonders if it may be a cultural difference

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Trying not to rush to any disturbing conclusions, the 25-year-old woman is trying to give her fiancé the benefit of the doubt and ponder the notion that perhaps it’s simply a culture difference.

Yet, she’s not so sure that she can deal with this particular mother-son dynamic, no matter why it’s happening.

She’s nervous about the future

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Sadly, this isn’t something the woman can brush off, as her fiance’s parents are packing up and moving from Cuba to Europe, making them closer than ever.

“His parents are moving to Europe in the next year and will live very close to us. They will be in our lives every day. I want to be close with them if we stay together, and this is making me very nervous,” she wrote.

Fellow Reddit users are weirded out too

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While some aspects of this woman’s experience with her fiance weren’t the weirdest in the world, Reddit users did seem to agree that they were a bit odd.

“The butt slapping is (unfortunately) somewhat common practice in Cuban culture, though definitely not with the frequency you’re experiencing. The carrying and other intimate things you described are definitely not common and can’t be chalked up to cultural differences,” one Reddit user identifying as a Cuban man wrote.

Someone said the lack of boundaries is somewhere between normal and abnormal

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“I’m from a Latino family and this is not normal behaviour but it’s also not abnormal. Latino families can be super physically affectionate and they do tend to stomp all over boundaries,” another Reddit user said.

Reddit users think that it’s time for the woman to say something

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It’s never easy to make a strong judgment about a loved one, especially when it comes to them being inappropriate with their mother. Many Reddit users recommend that the woman bring it up now rather than after the wedding bells ring.

“If it makes you uncomfortable you should say something though. Boundaries are important,” a Reddit user wrote.

Some think this couple is just not meant to be

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Breaking up over this may seem a bit extreme to some, but in the Reddit thread, the 25-year-old woman mentioned that the couple has only been an item for a year and things seem to be getting more bizarre on her end.

“She [fiancé’s mom] sat on his lap in front of me and his abuela since I posted this. So I think I will have to straight up ask him if this is something that has always been the norm for them,” the woman added on Reddit.

“You may just not be compatible in this regard,” one Reddit user wrote about the combination of uncomfortable situations she listed.

What do you think?

In the comments, let us know what you think of this relationship dilemma and how you’d handle things if it were happening to you!