Imagine finding out your spouse has fallen for someone else, and then being asked to play a role in their new family. That’s the predicament one mom found herself in after her ex-husband had a child with another woman. Now, with her ex facing major surgery, she’s been asked to take care of his daughter from the affair, but she’s not having it. Let’s dive into this emotional rollercoaster and see what happened.
Marriage Breakdown and a New Woman
A Bold Declaration
Unforgivable Actions
Fast Forward: New Marriage and Pregnancy
Refusing to Play Happy Family
Mom Leaves and Tragedy Strikes
Ex Wants Mom to Step In
Drawing the Line
Friendly but Not Familial
Ex Faces Health Issues and Surgery
A Desperate Request
Standing Firm
Involving the Kids
A Week of Arguments
The Little Girl’s Reaction
Additional Information
A Tough Decision and a Broken Family
This mom is caught in a tough situation after her ex-husband asks her to care for his daughter from an affair while he undergoes surgery. Despite being friendly with the little girl, she refuses to take on a motherly role or become her guardian. With a history of heartbreak and betrayal, she stands firm in her decision, even when her ex tries to involve their kids. But when she sees the sadness in the little girl’s eyes, she can’t help but question if she’s doing the right thing. Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
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Ex’s love child, ex-BFFs, and a world of hurt. NTA
Heartbreaking situation for the daughter, but OP is NTA
NTA. Ex wants too much from someone not obligated. Tough situation
Ex made a mess, now expects you to clean it up for him. NTA
NTA. Ex-husband abandoned you and his daughter, not your responsibility.
Heartbreaking stories of excluded stepchildren, NTA for not helping.
Commenter calls out ex’s irresponsible behavior with witty phrase.
NTA. OP is not obligated to care for ex’s love child during surgery.
No obligation to help. Friends can assist. NTA
Ex’s love child during surgery: NTA, she knows his character
Compassionate NTA for refusing to parent ex’s love child.
NTA. Commenter sympathizes with OP’s situation and suggests placing the child in a loving home. A reply suggests talking to the child.
NTA. Ex is trying to guilt trip you into co-parenting
Ex’s love child? Not your problem. NTA for refusing.
Ex’s manipulative behavior exposed, NTA for refusing help.
Choosing not to care for ex’s love child during surgery
No family to help? NTA shouldn’t have to alter life.
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Stand your ground! NTA for refusing such a huge request
Commenter empathizes with the little girl and suggests the father hire a nanny and get therapy instead of manipulating his ex.
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Setting boundaries with ex’s love child during surgery is understandable.
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Commenter empathizes with OP and advises to be kind but not guilt-tripped by ex, while reply suggests temporary help with transition plan.
Ex-husband expects his ex-wife to care for his love child during his surgery. Commenter thinks he’s TA and suggests he should find other options. Replies suggest he doesn’t trust his friends to do a great job.
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Setting boundaries with ex’s love child during his surgery. NTA
Setting boundaries with ex’s love child during his surgery. #NTA
No obligation to ex’s love child during surgery. NTA
Ex’s love child is not OP’s responsibility. NTA
Commenter sympathizes with child, but acknowledges OP’s difficult position.
Ex cheated and now needs help during surgery. NTA response.
Commenter sympathizes with child but supports OP’s decision.
Ex cheated, now needs help. NTA for refusing to help.
Taking care of ex’s love child during surgery? Don’t do it!
RN supports NTA’s decision, warns against guilt-tripping tactics.
Setting boundaries to avoid confusion. NTA
NTA for not wanting to raise ex’s love child permanently.
You’re not the a**hole for refusing to care for love child
Ex is an AH and mom is NTA for not helping.
Former foster parent advises not to take care of love child. Encourage CPS.
Ex’s love child, ex’s problem. NTA
NTA. Medical social worker can help find temporary placement for child.
Compassionate comment and replies condemn ex’s behavior.
Don’t be his emotional support system . NTA.
Fiery comment sparks no replies in controversial section
NTA. She’s not your responsibility. He made his bed
Ex’s love child surgery puts everyone in tough spot
Ex’s love child needs surgery, but expecting his ex to care for her? NTA, he’s the AH ♀️
Ex’s love child and surgery? NTA, according to commenters.
NTA for not caring for ex’s love child during surgery
Choosing not to help doesn’t make you a bad person
Ex needs to stop using you as his backup plan. NTA
Heartbreaking situation for a love child, NTA for mom.
Commenter sympathizes with OP but votes NTA for standing ground.
NTA! Don’t feel bad, he made his bed
NTA. Commenter suggests considering emotional impact on OP’s children and potential options for child’s care.
Commenter defends mom’s decision not to care for love child ♀️
Commenter calls out ex’s behavior, earns NTA judgment
Ex cheated and brought affair partner around kids. Mom NTA.
Ex’s love child not her responsibility. Suggests resources for help.
No involvement from late gf’s family in this situation
Not your child, not your obligation. Life isn’t always fair.
NTA, but no family to help care for love child
NTA refuses to care for ex’s love child during surgery
Choosing a new partner doesn’t absolve them of responsibilities. NTA
Ex needs to take responsibility for his child during surgery
NTA. Ex’s love child is not your responsibility. Move on.
Commenter supports OP’s decision not to care for love child. NTA
Heartbreaking situation, but NTA for not caring for love child
NTA. Refusing to be legal guardian of ex’s affair trophy
Setting boundaries after cheating ex’s love child request.
