We all have those days when we just need a break from the world, right? Well, imagine having one of those days and then being blamed for causing chaos in someone else’s life. That’s exactly what happened to a 19-year-old girl who decided to skip her weekly baking night with her autistic friend, Ally. Little did she know, her decision would lead to a whirlwind of drama and emotional turmoil.
The Longtime Friendship

Ally’s Personality

A Rough Week

Relationship Troubles

Baking Night Tradition

Needing Alone Time

The Meltdown

The Aftermath

Mom’s Disapproval

Dad’s Support

The Confrontation

Ally’s Response

The Blame Game

The Heartbreak

The End of Baking Wednesdays

A Heartbreaking Realization
After confronting Ally about the situation, our protagonist was met with blame and heartbreak. Ally accused her of being selfish and causing her meltdown. In a moment of emotional turmoil, she declared the end of their baking Wednesdays tradition. Now, she’s left to pick up the pieces and figure out how to move forward in her life. But with the support of her dad and a few good friends, she’s determined to focus on herself and find her own happiness.
Setting healthy boundaries is important for mental health. NTA
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NTA! Setting boundaries is important for mental well-being ❤️

Self-care is important , and it’s okay to say no sometimes
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Autistic commenter supports OP’s right to self-care and friendship.

NTA comment defends girl’s autonomy, receives grateful reply

Supportive comment and reply

Autistic person defends OP, encourages parents to help their child cope.

Putting yourself first is okay. Don’t let others guilt-trip you.

Setting boundaries with an autistic friend and dealing with angry parents. NTA

Choosing to hang out with a friend should never be forced

Supportive comment, condemns inappropriate behavior of friend’s parents

Putting yourself first is not selfish. NTA

Setting boundaries with friends for mental wellbeing is important.

Autistic friend’s obsession with numbers leads to unexpected answer.

Don’t blame the friend for the autistic meltdown

Stand up for your mental health, not the a**hole here

Caregiver defends girl’s right to downtime, calls out mom. NTA

Autistic commenter defends NTA and calls for empathy

Responsibility for autistic friend’s actions unfairly placed on commenter. ♀️

Take care of yourself first, even if it’s inconvenient.

Empathetic reply defends OP against unfair expectations and blame-shifting.

Disbelief and accusation of fake news with angry face emoji.

Don’t feel guilty, NTA. Ally’s parents should teach coping techniques

Taking care of yourself doesn’t make you an a**hole

Skipping baking night with autistic friend – NTA and blameless

Friendship turned responsibility; NTA for setting boundaries
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Canceling plans with autistic friend, NTA, zero responsibility.

NTA for skipping baking night with autistic friend, but consider limiting time together to avoid burnout.

Compassionate comment defends friend and criticizes parents’ blame game.

NTA praised for setting boundaries with entitled friend and supportive dad

Advocate for autism awareness and independence. Don’t tolerate abuse.

Don’t feel guilty for prioritizing your mental health

Autistic father empathizes with friend’s meltdown, suggests better communication.

Prioritizing self-care and setting boundaries is important.

Supportive comment for OP’s tough week and mom’s bad behavior.

Self-care is important , even with autistic friends.

Self-care is important. NTA for Ally’s emotional responses.

Taking a break from a weekly commitment doesn’t make you a**hole

Commenter suggests setting boundaries with autistic friend’s family.

Autistic commenter explains right from wrong and social cues.

Friend skips baking night with autistic friend, deemed not an a-hole

Commenter questions parents’ role in autistic friend’s meltdown

Autistic commenter suggests varying routine to avoid distress and miscommunication
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Don’t let anyone guilt-trip you for having a life

Taking responsibility for someone else’s child is not sustainable. ♀️

Importance of contingency plans for autistic individuals. NTA.

Polite warning didn’t prevent meltdown. Ally’s parents need intervention.

Commenter suggests avoiding insufferable friend, no replies.

Friend’s future and ground rules need to be established

Behavior technician supports OP, suggests setting boundaries for autistic friend.

Skipping baking night with autistic friend is justified

Teaching kids flexibility and empathy is crucial. NTA.

Commenter defends OP and Ally, criticizes Ally’s parents.

A confusing comment with no context or relevance.

Prioritizing self-care sparks family drama. NTA wins.

Standing up for oneself against unfair blame from parents

Setting boundaries with an autistic friend.

NTA – Friend’s parents blame you for their daughter’s meltdown ♀️, but you handled it well

Friendship or unpaid job? NTA decides to cut ties

NTA according to an autistic person, friend needs to learn boundaries

Commenter defends OP and criticizes Ally’s parents for poor parenting.

Putting yourself first is okay, NTA. Boundaries are important

Commenter suggests ending friendship due to parents’ behavior.

Commenter defends the accused and calls out unfair blame.

Friend cancels baking night with autistic friend, NTA. Valid points raised.

Commenter defends OP and blames Ally’s parents for their failure

Don’t let guilt dictate your actions. Your life, your choices.

Self-care first! NTA for prioritizing your needs.

NTA, but adults are TA’s. OP’s mom was unfair.

Friend with autism throws tantrum when baking night is skipped. NTA.

Self-care is important, NTA for taking time for yourself

Supportive comment defending friend with autism, calls out parents’ behavior.
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Taking a break for your mental health doesn’t make you TA

NTA, life happens, Ally’s parents need a backup plan

Don’t feel guilty, you’re NTA. They need to learn coping.

Supportive comment defends OP against unfair blame and judgment.

Teaching kids to handle disruptions in routine

Importance of routine for autism. But should it be forever?
