When someone loses their parent, it’s understandably a difficult time. But how long is too long to grieve? In this story, a wife is at her wit’s end with her husband’s prolonged depression after the sudden loss of his mother. She’s been doing everything she can to support him, but it seems like nothing is enough. One day, she loses her temper and tells him to ‘get over’ his mother. It’s horrible to say, but is she the a**hole in this situation? Read on to find out and weigh in on what you would do in this difficult scenario.
Don’t judge yet, let me explain

Married for 4 years, but depression is tearing them apart.

Supporting a depressed partner can be tough. ☹️

Desperate attempts to save relationship with depressed spouse

Wife’s frustration with husband’s depression reaches a boiling point.

Wife confronts depressed husband about his life choices and priorities.

Wife struggles to support depressed husband, met with verbal abuse.

Feeling burnt out and alone, seeking advice. AITA?

Struggling to help a depressed spouse after a tragic loss
When tragedy strikes, it can hit us hard – especially if it’s the unexpected loss of a loved one. For “Andy,” the passing of his mother 11 months ago sent him spiraling into a deep depression. His wife, “F32”, tried her best to be supportive, but it’s been a difficult journey. Andy quit his job, barely paid attention to his wife, and refused to seek therapy. As a result, their relationship has suffered, and F32 feels like she’s at her breaking point. In a recent argument, F32 said something hurtful to Andy – telling him to “get over his mom” – and he lashed out, calling her a hurtful name. F32 acknowledges that what she said was unfair, but she’s struggling to cope with the emotional burden of being her husband’s sole support system. It’s challenging for anyone, and F32 wonders if she’s the A-hole for her outburst. In the following comments and reactions, let’s see what others say about this difficult situation.
Wife reaches breaking point with grieving husband; NTA comment section.

Partner’s refusal to seek therapy causing strain on relationship

Society often fails the mentally ill

NTA comments on husband’s prolonged grief and wife’s burnout.

Supporting a grieving partner can take a toll emotionally

Spouse’s depression taking a toll on mental health. NTA for speaking up.

Dealing with a depressed partner can be tough, NTA.

Empathy burnout is real. Take care of yourself first.

ESH. Husband needs therapy, but OP’s comment was hurtful.

Wife struggles with depressed husband’s lack of action; ultimatum given.

Encouraging support for a struggling spouse dealing with depression

Commenter sympathizes with wife of depressed husband. ESH verdict.

Tough love is necessary, but not always easy. ESH
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Encouraging words for someone dealing with a depressed partner
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When grief affects everyone, who’s responsible?

Struggling spouse needs ultimatum to seek professional help.

Navigating mental health in relationships can be tough.

Depressed husband not functional after a year – NTA suggests divorce

Seeking therapy and outside help could save their marriage ❤️

Communication is key Have a frank conversation with him.

Setting boundaries and seeking therapy can help salvage relationships.

Dealing with a grieving spouse can be tough. ESH here.

Commenters agree husband needs therapy ASAP but refuses ♂️

Give ultimatum for therapy or divorce to help depressed husband. #ESH

Spouse’s depression is a serious issue, ultimatum time

Encourage therapy and ultimatum may save marriage

Being an adult means cleaning up after yourself

Dealing with a grieving spouse’s depression can be overwhelming

Depression takes a toll on relationships, seeking help is crucial

Processing grief is important, but being stuck isn’t. NTA

Commenter suggests honoring husband’s mother to help with depression.

Both need professional help ASAP! ♂️ ♀️

Dealing with a depressed spouse: the struggle and solutions.

Offering empathy and advice to a grieving spouse

Overwhelmed caregiver needs support and intervention for depressed husband

When grief takes over, it’s important to communicate and apologize

Navigating judgments in AITA comments can be complicated

Husband’s overreaction to wife’s valid request for help (ESH)

Commenter suggests alternate approach for struggling wife and husband

Commenter suggests OP may be seen as the a-hole. Replies are understanding. ❤

Handling grief is different for everyone. Support system is crucial.

Spouse’s depression taking a toll, ultimatum may be necessary
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Empathize with ESH: Coping with bereavement is tough on all.

Dealing with grief can be difficult and bring out the worst in us. Therapy can help.

Responsibility for mental health is important. NTA’s decision justified.

Encourage counseling for your husband’s well-being, not just your own sanity

Navigating mental health struggles in relationships can be tough.

Struggling with a depressed partner? Protect your mental health too

Engaging question about loss in a difficult situation.

Both need therapy. Grief affects everyone differently. Tough situation.

Being right doesn’t excuse being insensitive. YTA

Encourage him to seek help It’s tough but necessary.

Encouraging NTA comment urges self-care for spouse with depression ❤️

Supporting a spouse with depression is tough. NTA wins.

Struggling with a grieving partner? Here’s how to cope

Empathy is key when supporting a partner through grief ❤️
