Mom Wonders If She Should Change How She Parents Kids After Grandma Rages

Although commenters bristled when she said she ignores bad behavior in a Reddit post, she meant that she'd say something like "You hit mommy, I don't want to be near you right now. That hurt" to her daughter while encouraging her more positive behavior on other occasions.

This is a parenting style that professionals have recommended to her and it's one that she's said has largely nipped harmful behavior at the bud.

In addition to that, she says she gives them full control over their bodies, meaning that they can wear whatever they're comfortable with and don't have to hug people they don't want to.

As the mom put it, "My daughter wore a suit and my son wore a dress, which upset pretty much everyone."

However, one person who wasn't upset by this was the actual bride. While she would have preferred the daughter wear a dress, she and the mom came to a compromise once she learned of the daughter's personal reasons for not wanting to.

As for the son, the bride actually suggested the dress because she figured it fit his role as flower boy better anyway.

She doesn't like how they aren't made to hug her and continues to buy her granddaughter more traditionally feminine clothes and the grandson traditionally masculine toys. Neither of these gifts are wanted or used by the children.

In addition to feeling as though her daughter is driving a wedge between her and her grandchildren, she also went as far as to call the woman neglectful.

As the mom wrote, "Apparently they'll never grow up and will be bullied in school, and become 'snowflakes'. She also claims they'll become badly behaved once they grow up."

And while the consensus was that her mother had no say over her parenting style, that's not to suggest that the matter wasn't hotly debated.

Some traditionalists felt that they children would be unprepared for society if they weren't directly punished for bad behavior or brought up to wear their traditional formal wear at weddings.

As one user said, "There's a time and place for that, and events like weddings aren't it. Suck it up and wear gender conforming clothing for 4 hours, it's not going to kill you."

In the words of another person, "She just doesn’t like that you’re deviating from the norm, and frankly that’s her problem. Times they are a changin momma, the way of the future is treating kids as human beings with individual opinions and needs."

Another addressed their peers more directly, saying, "Yeah... so let’s keep perpetuating outdated gender norms and never make process because -checks notes- adults are too easily distracted at a wedding."

h/t: Reddit | wubaiaoa