Mom Asks If She's Wrong For Surprise 'Vacation' After Husband Ignores Chores

As she explained in a Reddit post, it's also hard to coordinate with her husband because he gets home from work at 1 am and sleeps during the day.

But in the past, this didn't stop him from making dinner, taking care of all of their son's needs, and cleaning around the house on his days off. As things got busy for one partner, the other would step in.

As she put it, "Now he doesn't make dinner at all, falls asleep on the couch by 7 so I have son duty 24/7 and hasn't lifted a finger to clean in weeks."

This means that on days where she would otherwise take a breather from her intense schedule, she finds herself deep cleaning the entire house.

Unfortunately, this resulted in about 30 minutes of house work before leaving to help his friend with his car and then apparently being too tired to do anything when he came back.

And when she told him that she needed a break from all she has to do in the time since, he made no offer to help and instead hugged her and told her she was doing a good job.

Without saying a word to her husband, she left their son with her mother and set off for their cabin 58 miles away to relax.

After he discovered what she had done, he called her selfish for doing this and claimed that if he had known she wasn't "merely stressed out," he would've helped more.

He also said that he had been tired and stressed as well and said that her communication as to what she was going through had been terrible.

But in her words, "But the thing is, I straight out told him I needed a break. I asked him for help. He disregarded it all."

And while just about everyone understood why she needed a break, some took issue with the fact that she left without notifying him.

As one user put it, "I absolutely see why you needed the break, and you even went above and beyond to find a babysitter. But, man, just disappearing for four days like that is not okay."

In the words of one commenter, "Asking him for help is communication. When he says lay it out, does he want you to write him a chore list like he's a child?"

They went on to say, "If you're working 12 hour shifts, taking care of the baby, and doing all the house chores, what exactly does your husband need a break from?"

Another user didn't buy the husband's statements either, saying, "It's so telling that he wants to blame his decision not to contribute on you by saying you didn't communicate. He knows he needs to throw in equally, he knows he wasn't doing it, and he knows that you told him."

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