When it comes to holidays, there are a few of them that most people universally buy gifts for. During the winter holiday season, people usually get gifts for their families and friends. For birthdays, of course. And, then, there's Mother's Day and Father's Day.
While it's not "required," most people do expect to get presents from their children to celebrate being a parent.
As kids get older, they don't always think that getting gifts for these days is super important.
In fact, there are times when kids think that getting a Father's or Mother's Day gift is unnecessary.
The user asked if they were in the wrong for not buying their stepfather a gift for Father's Day this year, as there have been some talks about money and other responsibilities floating around.
Therefore, they were wondering whether or not they were in the wrong.
"Recently my mother and stepfather bought a new condo as a vacation apartment.
As a "house warming" gift I bought them a $600+ stove. He asks me yesterday if I am buying him a father's day gift. I said " I already bought you & mom a very expensive appliance. That's your gift," they wrote.
The stepfather responded that the gift was for the condo, not for him. However, the Reddit user said that it's "his condo," so the gift is really for him, in the long run.
They also said that they wouldn't be buying him or their mother another gift until Christmas, as the stove was very expensive.
"They expect me to share part of the expenses in their vacation home because here in the states we live together. Here, I do share in the costs because I live here. It's only fair. In fact, I give the most to the household moneywise," the Reddit user said about their regular home.
"This vacation condo? I've told them I don't plan on going there more then 1x plus this place is not under my name. He also has 3 adult daughters from his 1st marriage. He has not asked them to put any $ into the apartment but assumes I should," the Reddit user said.
"This condo is back in the country where my parents were originally born. I was born here in the US. I don't get along too well with my extended family so its put me off from going to visit our country," the Reddit user added.
The Reddit user said that they do not believe it's fair to be the only one putting money into their home and vacation home if the inheritance is split.
Additionally, they wanted to know if they were wrong for not buying a Father's Day gift.
" Anything demanded stops being a gift and becomes an obligation. You are already meeting your obligations. Enough is enough," one person said.
Others agreed that the stepfather was being unreasonable and demanding of their stepchild when they already bought them an expensive stove.
"This sounds like a cultural difference that a lot of people would bristle at. But just know that you are in the right- not obligated to support their sole vacation home, and correct to feel some resentment they treat you differently that your half siblings/married siblings. I hope you get to experience life out from under that," one person added.
"I think that was more than generous. And is sound to me like he’d probably be ok with his daughters not getting him a Father’s Day present, this based in the fact that he’s asking you for things. I think he’s just trying to milk you for what you got and let his daughters be," they said.
Who do you think is right here?
