There are many milestones that couples reach in a relationship when they are falling in love and moving through life. One of these is getting engaged and then getting married.
While some people save money for a long time in order to buy an expensive ring, other couples decide to keep things more meaningful than materialistic.
Some women dream about their engagement ring for years before actually getting one. However, there are other women who are happy with what they receive from the person that they truly love, no matter how big or how small it may be.
There are also those who like to wear something that is sentimental from their family.
Reddit user u/Embarrassed_Eye_9243 recently opened up in an "Am I the A**hole" post on the website, talking about her wedding ring she has been wearing for years.
"My husband and I didn’t really have a spontaneous proposal, we just mutually agreed we wanted to get married on x date. I told him that for my engagement ring, I wanted to wear my late mom’s. It’s a simple gold band with a small diamond on its own," she wrote.
"My husband wanted to add onto it and make it fancy but I honestly loved it as is and am not into big flashy jewelry," she added.
Eventually, he agreed to keep the ring as it is and the Reddit user began wearing it, signifying their engagement.
The Reddit user shared that she "doesn't wear her rings" often, as she works a job where she cannot wear jewelry and they have 3 children that she chases around.
She keeps both her wedding band and her engagement ring in a jewelry box.
"Every year for our anniversary (birthdays and Christmas too), we just flat out tell the other what we want so there’s no confusion. This year was my turn to treat for our big dinner and he wanted this pricy tool bench that he could use for his hobby. I told him all I wanted was a new purse, sent him the link," she shared.
"I notice my gift is smaller than a purse should be and open it. It’s my engagement ring, but basically supersized. There’s a few other diamonds and he added an inscription. The cost of all of this was way more than the $40 purse I wanted," she added.
"I was in shock and asked him why he did that. He said to surprise me. I said that I liked the ring as is, it’s been in my family for a few generations and he basically ruined it by glamming it up.
He got upset and started calling me ungrateful, even though I’ve told him several times throughout the years that I don’t like flashy rings and I wanted to keep it the same," she said.
Many people online said that she's not wrong for being upset, as she has stated numerous times where she stands.
"That was incredibly insensitive and selfish of him. I have no idea why he didn't just get you a flashy anniversary ring if it matters to him that you have a flashy ring (that you would then never wear). Damaging your family's heirloom for his ego makes no sense to me.
I would be dragging him to couple's counseling so someone else can take the time to explain why what he did is awful," one person said in the comments.
"Especially if it was in your family and a special piece. If he really wanted to get you something flashy, he could’ve just gotten a new ring to his liking-and you’d wear it-or not.
There was no need for him to force his style or likings onto an heirloom and much less for you to be called ungrateful. Stick to your boundaries, you were obviously very clear about being happy w what you had," another added.
Do you agree?
